# My little boy who loves girls **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 29, 2003, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287 "2003-10-29T19:27:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2003, 1:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/41 "2003-10-31T13:48:20Z")
Some comments (sorry, **Mudshark** , if this looks like it is aimed specifically at you) seem to be interpreting “anything to worry about”/“should I worry” in terms of “will he be or is he gay”. I would suggest that the road for a boy who likes girls, likes being with girls, and who is more like girls than he is like other boys can be kind of rocky and desolate _regardless_ of whether one’s erotic appetite is or ends up receptive to girlfolks or to boyfolks. I wouldn’t try to interfere with that and make him “more of a guy” (I think that’s akin to forcing left handed people to write with their right hand, except a lot more personal and invasive), but I wouldn’t assume there was “nothing to worry about” insofar as he may need some additional emotional support and some assistance in sorting out confusions and dealing with folks’ hostilities and so forth. (I would also suggest similar things about being gay – a different question, really – if it should happen to turn out that he is attracted to guys. Not intrinsically a problem but might mean he has to go through a lot of stuff that other kids don’t) ---
**Author:** ![MrPlatypus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/eb9ed0/32.png) [@MrPlatypus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrPlatypus)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2003, 11:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/42 "2003-11-01T11:11:17Z")
I’ve always found that I relate better to girls (when I was younger and still today) and am not gay. I would much rather my kids have tea parties than blow up GI Joe’s… ---
**Author:** ![Loneraven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c0e974/32.png) [@Loneraven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loneraven)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2003, 2:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/43 "2003-11-01T14:02:42Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by CakeOrDeath666 \* > **Oh my God!!! > I’m sorry, I am in no way racist, but it always seems to me that in america if a kid start doing something remotely out of the normal, you think he’s going to grow up and be gay, or need therapy, or medication.** I think you mean “homophobic.” When I was younger, I liked playing with boys (I’m female, btw). I found them much less complicated than girls, as all they wanted to do was build treehouses and play with cars. They didn’t want to play with dolls. I think it’s possible **autz** ’s little boy is doing the same thing in reverse - he’s playing with girls because he _likes_ them, it’s as simple as that, and there’s nothing wrong with it either. ---
**Author:** ![Innanna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/ecd19e/32.png) [@Innanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Innanna)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2003, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/44 "2003-11-01T15:15:50Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Laughing Lagomorph \* > \*\*I’m not sure 6 year olds of any gender or orientation are “attracted to” anyone in the way adults usually mean it. I am straight but I don’t remember being “attracted to” girls at the age of six, at least not the way I was when I was 14. \*\* I don’t know about this. I wasn’t sexually attracted to boys at the age of three, but I _can_ remember the very clear thought, “I like boys. I **really** like boys” (which meant, of course that when I heard gay people say, “I knew since a very young age who I was attracted to” I completely understood where they were coming from). I preferred the company of boys because they actually _did_ things–like pretending to blow up the evil alien’s ship (which involved lots of running around and “shooting” each other)–as opposed to the girls who pretended to have tea (which involved sitting down and talking). I thought (and still sometimes do think) that girls were a little boring. And even now, I prefer to hang out with guys–and the attraction that I had when I was small is still there (supplemented by other things;)). Now, I will admit that some of this might have had to do with the fact that I had 3 older brothers that I idolized, but it sure as heck felt organic. And if the OP’s little one is anything like I am, he will, by dint of hanging out with all of those girls, have some real insight into women and be able to be more flexible with his thinking. ---
**Author:** ![kanicbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/5f8ce5/32.png) [@kanicbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kanicbird)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2003, 4:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287/45 "2003-11-01T16:48:44Z")
My take on it is he feels a closer association to girls then boys, feels more at home. Since these girls are of pre-pub age I don’t think they is any fear of this being responsible for any later homosexual tendancies. If however this trend continues to the age when his girlfriends start looking at boys he may lock onto this trend, even subconsciensly and just associate that he should be looking at boys too. All this is my opinion based on what I read on a recent study that links feeling male/female (regardless of gender) to actual gender. The study does not conclude my opinion nor does it even mention it. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-little-boy-who-loves-girls/210287.md?page=2)