# My Mom Died This Morning **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 10, 2010, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308 "2010-09-10T17:18:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![nonacetone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nonacetone/32/2819_2.png) [@nonacetone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nonacetone)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/1 "2010-09-10T17:18:57Z")
My mom has been sick for several years. First, diabetes, then a massive heart attack, then renal failure. She’s been on kidney dialysis for a couple of years. She began having abdominal pain about 6 months ago, and could no longer walk. She’s been in a nursing home for the past 4 months. I got a call this morning, and the nurse told me that mom wasn’t going to make it. So, my daughter and I went in to be with her. She died at 9:15am. I went to see her on Tuesday, and she was laying in her bed, in pain. I asked her how she was doing. She replied, “I’m suffering…I’m suffering.” She was scheduled for surgery to insert some sort of new port/shunt/whatever for her dialysis, as her old one wasn’t working too well, anymore. That was supposed to happen yesterday, but it was canceled, as she was really too weak to undergo the surgery/anesthesia. I went to see her yesterday, and she was sitting up in a wheelchair, pretty cheerful, but a bit confused. She’s been confused for several months, so it wasn’t anything new. I told her that her surgery was canceled, so she didn’t have to go anywhere that day. Mom replied, “Yes! I know it was canceled! But I’ve got to go somewhere tomorrow!” I said, “Yes. You have your dialysis treatment tomorrow.” Mom said, “NO! I’m not going there! I’m going somewhere else!” So, I let that go, knowing that she’s somewhat confused, and there was no need to try to prove myself right. Today, when I went to the nursing home, to be with her when she died, she was in a coma/unresponsive. My daughter and I sat there for awhile, and then we went outside, so I could have a cigarette. When we got outside, there was an absolutely beautiful, double rainbow that formed above the nursing home. We watched it for awhile, and I went back inside. I went to mom’s room, took her hand, and told her all about that gorgeous rainbow, and that if she felt like she wanted to go, it was alright. I told her that we’d be fine here, and that she has suffered long enough. I told her that since that beautiful rainbow was out there, she’d better get up there, and hop on it, and it would take her to where she wanted to go. Mom died not long after I told her that. Bye mom. I love you. ---
**Author:** ![Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swallowed_My_Cellphone)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 5:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/2 "2010-09-10T17:20:35Z")
☹ The rainbow bridge is the bestest. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/3 "2010-09-10T17:38:59Z")
I’m so sad to hear it, but glad that she won’t have to suffer any more. Take care of yourself, OK? ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/4 "2010-09-10T17:44:05Z")
I don’t think we’ve ever interacted before, **nonacetone** , but nonetheless I felt compelled to reply in this thread. I remember how difficult it was for me and mine when my mother died, and I know how hard this time will be for you. I’m sorry for your loss, and I hope you make it through. Be well. ---
**Author:** ![Taters](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/taters/32/2845_2.png) [@Taters](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taters)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/5 "2010-09-10T17:46:20Z")
I’m so sorry. Peace and strength to you. ---
**Author:** ![limegreen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/82dd89/32.png) [@limegreen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/limegreen)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 5:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/6 "2010-09-10T17:55:07Z")
See, she did have somewhere to go. I’m glad she is not suffering anymore, but take care of yourself, as the aftermath can be as strenuous as dealing with an sick loved one. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/7 "2010-09-10T18:18:08Z")
I am so very sorry for your loss. Nothing I say here will make the pain less, but I will say that you are in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/8 "2010-09-10T18:21:26Z")
I’m so very sorry for your loss but very glad that she is no longer in pain. My thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![Ann\_Onimous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ea5d25/32.png) [@Ann\_Onimous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ann_Onimous)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/9 "2010-09-10T18:24:48Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss, and we’re praying for you and your family. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/10 "2010-09-10T19:31:13Z")
'Scuse me, I have something in my eyes. Take care of yourself, as others have already said. Don’t forget to eat and sleep enough, you’ll need your strength. I dread when my grandmother(105+) goes. I know where she will be going, but I’ll miss her here. I’m glad your mom had here family at her side, and hopefully she heard what you said. Take care. ---
**Author:** ![Surly\_Chick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@Surly\_Chick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Surly_Chick)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/11 "2010-09-10T19:35:23Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss, **nonacetone**. I lost my mom in October so I know how difficult it is. I still have days when I go to pick up the phone and call her before I realize she’s gone. Hugs to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/12 "2010-09-10T19:38:15Z")
Sending you my condolences for your loss. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/13 "2010-09-10T20:11:33Z")
A beautiful post, **nonacetone**. I hope you’re okay. ---
**Author:** ![Two\_Many\_Cats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8dc957/32.png) [@Two\_Many\_Cats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Two_Many_Cats)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/14 "2010-09-10T20:18:38Z")
I’m so, so sorry, but you did both your mom and yourself good by telling her about the beautiful rainbow. Take care of yourself. ---
**Author:** ![Kythereia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e8c25b/32.png) [@Kythereia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kythereia)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/15 "2010-09-10T21:02:43Z")
_hugs you very tight_ ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/16 "2010-09-10T21:04:08Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss, **nonacetone**. I’m glad you could be there at the end, though. ---
**Author:** ![Katriona](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/katriona/32/113_2.png) [@Katriona](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Katriona)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/17 "2010-09-10T21:05:11Z")
I’m so sorry, **nonacetone**. Take care of yourself. ---
**Author:** ![Ruby\_Slippers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/94ad74/32.png) [@Ruby\_Slippers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby_Slippers)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/18 "2010-09-10T21:25:51Z")
What a beautiful farewell. Please find comfort in the loving memories you have obviously built up over a lifetime. ---
**Author:** ![pravnik](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8edcca/32.png) [@pravnik](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pravnik)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/19 "2010-09-10T21:42:54Z")
I’m sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![BoBettie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@BoBettie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BoBettie)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2010, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308/20 "2010-09-10T22:00:51Z")
I’m so sorry to hear it. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-this-morning/553308.md?page=2)