# My Mom Died Today **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 19, 2018, 11:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855 "2018-03-19T23:36:08Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Two\_Many\_Cats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8dc957/32.png) [@Two\_Many\_Cats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Two_Many_Cats)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2018, 11:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/1 "2018-03-19T23:36:08Z")
I was there beside her when it happened. Two other patients shared her room in the nursing home/rehab/hospice and both had visitors. I was talking with her long time caretaker, who I shared duties with when Mom was at home. I was also looking through my phone at different stupid stuff. The nurse came in, and we looked down at my Mom, and she was gone. She had quietly stopped breathing while everyone was talking. The nurse listened for a heartbeat, but there was nothing. Everyone was a little dumbfounded. One lady crossed herself. I was a little perturbed that I had been staring at my phone when it happened. But talking about it, we consoled ourselves that she had slipped away peacefully, so peacefully that no one there noticed the exact moment it happened. So I’m home now with a lot to do. Gotta go. I hear my cat throwing up. So life goes on as usual, regardless of all that happens to us. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Stainless\_Steel\_Rat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_stainless_steel_rat/32/5727_2.png) [@The\_Stainless\_Steel\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Stainless_Steel_Rat)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2018, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/2 "2018-03-19T23:38:42Z")
My condolences, Two Many Cats. I was on a plane rushing home when my Mom passed away, so I’m glad you could be there. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/3 "2018-03-20T00:12:34Z")
I’m sorry for to loss. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/4 "2018-03-20T00:19:20Z")
I’m sorry to hear the sad news. ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/5 "2018-03-20T00:20:40Z")
I’m so sorry. Don’t be hard on yourself. I’ve read that people will sometimes wait until their family member is occupied elsewhere or even out of the room before they let go of this life. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/6 "2018-03-20T00:21:10Z")
I’m crushed to hear your news, sending most sincere condolences! ---
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/7 "2018-03-20T00:21:55Z")
I’m sorry, **Two Many Cats**. ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/8 "2018-03-20T00:24:50Z")
My deepest condolences. Moms hold a special place in our hearts & lives. ---
**Author:** ![alphaboi867](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alphaboi867/32/3898_2.png) [@alphaboi867](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alphaboi867)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/9 "2018-03-20T00:26:29Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/10 "2018-03-20T00:30:02Z")
I am so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/11 "2018-03-20T00:39:58Z")
I’m so sorry. I don’t know what it might be, but if there is _anything_ we can do, just ask. When I think of my mom and her eventual passing, my mind shies away from it. You are hurting, I’ll say a prayer for you and the family. ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/12 "2018-03-20T00:44:07Z")
> [@Baker](#): > > I’m so sorry. I don’t know what it might be, but if there is _anything_ we can do, just ask. Seconded. Sometimes it helps to just talk it out, that’s pretty much what we do here. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/13 "2018-03-20T00:46:07Z")
RIP. So sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Morgyn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morgyn/32/3041_2.png) [@Morgyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgyn)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/14 "2018-03-20T00:50:06Z")
I am so sorry to hear this. ---
**Author:** ![Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/13edae/32.png) [@Stranger\_On\_A\_Train](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stranger_On_A_Train)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/15 "2018-03-20T00:50:07Z")
I’m sorry for your loss, **Two Many Cats**. Take solace in knowing that you were there with her, and that she was in no pain or fear as she left this mortal coil. Stranger ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/16 "2018-03-20T00:50:27Z")
Sorry, Hugs from another cat-mom. Hope all the arrangements and things you gotta think about go off without problems. ---
**Author:** ![Patx2](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/73ab20/32.png) [@Patx2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Patx2)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/17 "2018-03-20T00:51:19Z")
I’m very sorry to hear this, I’m sending hugs your way, take care and also take comfort in knowing your mom went so peacefully. ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/18 "2018-03-20T00:55:01Z")
I am so sorry. I hope your memories will bring you comfort. Take care of yourself. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 12:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/19 "2018-03-20T00:59:03Z")
I’m so sorry. It’s been 20 years since my mom died, and it still hits me hard now and then. Take joy that she went peacefully. ---
**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2018, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855/20 "2018-03-20T01:02:01Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish there was more to do or say, but grief is a lonely journey. StG [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-today/810855.md?page=2)