# My mom died  tonight

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-tonight/66065>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [May 21, 2001, 7:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-tonight/66065 "2001-05-21T07:57:48Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 7\
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**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\
**Post date:** [May 22, 2001, 11:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-tonight/66065/81 "2001-05-22T23:30:54Z")

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Jill----the folks on this Board **are** family.

We’re all here for you.

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**Author:** ![Runadoc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Runadoc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Runadoc)\
**Post date:** [May 23, 2001, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-tonight/66065/82 "2001-05-23T01:06:06Z")

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JillGat; Deepest Sympathies.

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**Author:** ![Scotticher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Scotticher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scotticher)\
**Post date:** [May 23, 2001, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-tonight/66065/83 "2001-05-23T02:37:21Z")

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**Jill,**

I was going through some things tonight, and I found a card that a dear friend sent to me after I lost my own mother. I believe this to be true, and I hope it comforts you as it did me when I read it.

_Perhaps  
they are not  
the stars,  
but rather openings  
in Heaven  
where the love  
of our lost ones  
pours through  
and shines down  
upon us  
to let us know  
they are happy._

inspired by an Eskimo legend

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**Author:** ![samclem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a9a28c/32.png) [@samclem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samclem)\
**Post date:** [May 23, 2001, 3:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-tonight/66065/84 "2001-05-23T03:04:46Z")

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Your experiece sounds like mine two years ago, although with my father-in-law. He was a most likeable cuss. I remember sitting up with him in the hospice(if one wants an example of a modern miracle, that’s one) on his next to last night. I can’t remember what I said to him, but I made him laugh(or cough, probably). You reminded me of this in your OP. I hope your mom and he are sharing a laugh about now somewhere. We should all be so lucky. Thanks for sharing.

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**Author:** ![DRY](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a87d85/32.png) [@DRY](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DRY)\
**Post date:** [May 23, 2001, 7:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-tonight/66065/85 "2001-05-23T07:37:47Z")

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**JillGat** ,

There is nothing that I can say that has not already been said better by others, nor do I have any magic words to ease the grief you must feel.

As inevitable as death is, it’s never easy to deal with it, when it takes a loved one.

Your class and dignity, both in this thread and with respect to your board demeanor in general, is a fitting tribute to your mother, and her life.

And of course, you are right in knowing that your mother’s memory will always live on in you.

My condolences.

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**Author:** ![Zenster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/cdc98d/32.png) [@Zenster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zenster)\
**Post date:** [May 23, 2001, 7:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-tonight/66065/86 "2001-05-23T07:42:28Z")

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My condolences.

What a fine daughter to help her mom retain her own level of dignity in passing. She’s smiling about that one.

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**Author:** ![Carina42](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/439d5e/32.png) [@Carina42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carina42)\
**Post date:** [May 23, 2001, 11:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-died-tonight/66065/87 "2001-05-23T11:14:06Z")

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{{{Jill}}}

What a wonderful woman your mom raised.

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