# My mom, divorced 3 times, thinks gay marriage will "ruin" marriage. **URL:** \ **Category:** Great Debates\ **Created:** [June 30, 2011, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-divorced-3-times-thinks-gay-marriage-will-ruin-marriage/587381 "2011-06-30T13:59:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 79
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2011, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-divorced-3-times-thinks-gay-marriage-will-ruin-marriage/587381/79 "2011-07-01T15:42:02Z")
> [@Bricker](#): > > No. It may be that the RESULT is to allow quasi-divorce, but that’s not it’s purpose. The purpose is to implement the conditions for marriage as described scripturally. Anecdotal evidence for the proposition that it’s not merely to “allow divorce:” > [@General Questions (and Answers) About Catholic Marriage and Annulment](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/general-questions-and-answers-about-catholic-marriage-and-annulment/587458/25): > > My first husband applied to annul our marriage and was denied. We had been together 17 years and married for 10 of those years, and then he met his “soulmate”. We divorced, and he wanted to marry his soulmate in the Church. He did not have valid grounds for the annulment, so he just said “for whatever grounds the Church may determine”. It was a very stressful and painful process for me to go through, and the Church denied his request because there were no grounds. He did appeal the denial, so I had to go through it all over again. And his appeal was also denied. In the copy of the letter the Church sent to him, it said the appeal decision was final, unless he could come up with additional evidence not already shown to support a claim for annulment. So, according to the Church, we are still married fifteen years later. > > PS: His soulmate dumped him a year after our divorce 😃 --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-divorced-3-times-thinks-gay-marriage-will-ruin-marriage/587381)._