# My Mom is Dying **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 6, 2008, 6:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485 "2008-02-06T06:51:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2008, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485/21 "2008-02-07T01:01:33Z")
My condolences, **Wilson**. ---
**Author:** ![tarragon918](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d26b3c/32.png) [@tarragon918](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tarragon918)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2008, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485/22 "2008-02-07T01:22:48Z")
{{{{{{{{{{ **Wilson** }}}}}}}}}} You and your family are in my prayers. I lost my mother nearly 5 years ago to ovarian cancer; by the time it was detected, it was inoperable. In 5 months, she was gone. I was able to be there on the last day she was alive, much as you were; to be honest, though, I was praying for release for her then. She will live on in your memories, and now her soul is gloriously pain-free. I hope it is helping to know that there are many who are thinking of you tonight and in the days to come. ---
**Author:** ![Tenar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/35a633/32.png) [@Tenar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tenar)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2008, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485/23 "2008-02-07T02:49:11Z")
Thank you for sharing that with us, **Wilson**. I’m sorry about your mother. It sounds like she was a lovely woman. ---
**Author:** ![Taters](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/taters/32/2845_2.png) [@Taters](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taters)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2008, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485/24 "2008-02-07T03:03:03Z")
Please accept my sincere condolences, **Wilson.** I hope you and your family find strength in each other and smiles and laughter in the good memories of your mother. ---
**Author:** ![dogbutler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dogbutler/32/428_2.png) [@dogbutler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dogbutler)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2008, 4:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485/25 "2008-02-07T04:48:49Z")
I’m sorry for the loss of your mother, **Wilson**. ---
**Author:** ![Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bb73d2/32.png) [@Sleeps\_With\_Butterflies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sleeps_With_Butterflies)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2008, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485/26 "2008-02-07T04:50:50Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. I realize that I don’t know you at all, but if you need someone to talk to feel free to PM me. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2008, 9:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485/27 "2008-02-07T09:47:49Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss. I lost my mother after a protracted (15 months) battle with cancer and congestive heart failure. When my father died, it came much quicker. I heard from my sister that he probably had less than a month to live, and a couple of days later, she called again to tell me it was really probably than less than a week. I called him that night, and we had our last conversation. He said “Well, I’ll be going now, and I’m not coming back”. Those were his exact words. Less than 48 hours after that, he was gone. My mom’s death was 19 years ago, my dad’s, 6 years ago. It still hurts, yes, but the pain does eventually assume some sort of perspective, so it no longer dominates your life. I hope you all take whatever steps you need to in order to find peace. ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2008, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485/28 "2008-02-07T17:22:02Z")
I’m so very sorry for your loss, Wilson - you and your family are in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![Knowed\_Out](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/knowed_out/32/7380_2.png) [@Knowed\_Out](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Knowed_Out)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2008, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485/29 "2008-02-07T17:38:07Z")
My condolences, Wilson. My mom went through similar circumstances. She was diagnosed with breast cancer 15 years ago, beat that, then went through a multitude of heart problems and then cervical cancer. She beat that, then her liver and lungs got hit. She decided enough was enough and died in hospice last year. It’s very hard to witness and get over. One of my aunts died a few months later, and I couldn’t go to her funeral because I still didn’t get over Mom’s. Stay strong. ---
**Author:** ![Wilson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/96bed5/32.png) [@Wilson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wilson)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2008, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485/30 "2008-02-07T18:00:01Z")
Thank you all… it’s a day and half later now, and although I’m still sort of stunned, things seem to be moving on. The family is mostly gathered (one sister still to get here from Eastern Europe) and today we need to make memorial service plans and notify people and other mundane stuff. I get to talk to the lawyer about the will today (for some reason I thought my sister and I were both executors, but it’s just me). My stepdad’s kids came yesterday and made sure everyone was fed… and as people gathered we ended up with a good sized group and had a nice dinner together. I slept very well last night, after only getting a couple of hours the night before. The support we have gotten from friends and family has been great, and also I thank those of you that sent good thoughts from here and shared some of their stores. It means a lot. ---
**Author:** ![Rebo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rebo/32/13005_2.png) [@Rebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rebo)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2008, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485/31 "2008-02-07T18:14:01Z")
{{{ **Wilson** }}} My mom went very suddenly and I didn’t get to say goodbye and tell her I loved her. I’m glad you did. ---
**Author:** ![MissMossie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f6c823/32.png) [@MissMossie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MissMossie)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2008, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485/32 "2008-02-07T23:01:17Z")
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I’ll be praying for you and your family, Wilson. ---
**Author:** ![NajaNivea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/22d042/32.png) [@NajaNivea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NajaNivea)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2008, 11:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485/33 "2008-02-07T23:55:02Z")
I’m so sorry to hear about your mama, **Wilson**. I can’t even imagine what that must be like. Be sure not to forget to take good care of yourself, too. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-dying/436485.md?page=1)