# My mom is gone **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 10, 2016, 7:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-gone/745689 "2016-02-10T07:30:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Rhiannon8404](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rhiannon8404/32/17929_2.png) [@Rhiannon8404](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhiannon8404)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2016, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-gone/745689/101 "2016-02-12T00:24:18Z")
I’m so very sorry. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![CannyDan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cannydan/32/548_2.png) [@CannyDan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CannyDan)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2016, 3:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-gone/745689/102 "2016-02-12T03:04:52Z")
Truly sorry for your loss! My mother passed two years ago. It’s inevitable, we all know it’s coming, but when it happens we are still unprepared for our own feelings. My condolences to you and your family. Damnit, I can’t prevent Tapatalk from appending my signature line, which is totally inappropriate here. Please ignore it. ---
**Author:** ![DiggitCamara](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/df788c/32.png) [@DiggitCamara](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiggitCamara)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2016, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-gone/745689/103 "2016-02-12T16:42:32Z")
Sorry for your loss, **Bricker**. My condolonces to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2016, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-gone/745689/104 "2016-02-12T17:40:20Z")
Heartfelt thanks, again, to everyone who has posted here. It’s been a joy and a comfort to bring this thread up as I work on things. I have been cleaning out Mom’s apartment (benefit of being the only local child) and finding all sorts of memories. She kept a picture of me from It’s Academic (a DC-area high school quiz bowl type show) and pictures of her and dad looking impossibly young and vital. I found their wedding picture. Dad has this cat-that-ate-the-canary grin on his face; Mom looked happy and carefree, a hard look to pull off in horn-rimmed glasses, but she did. She had a shot of my brother from high school as the state wrestling champ. And pictures of all our dogs. She loved dogs. She became friends with a number of folks in the blind community because she struck up conversations with them about their guide dogs; when she lost her own eyesight years later and became legally blind, those friendships helped her social contacts in local blind groups. A life well lived, Mom. ---
**Author:** ![Kimballkid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b5a626/32.png) [@Kimballkid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimballkid)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2016, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-gone/745689/105 "2016-02-12T17:48:45Z")
Sounds nice. ---
**Author:** ![rocking\_chair](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rocking_chair/32/2918_2.png) [@rocking\_chair](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rocking_chair)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2016, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-gone/745689/106 "2016-02-12T21:43:42Z")
i’m so sorry. may her memory be eternal. it is amazing how much you learn about your parents as you go through their memories. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2016, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-gone/745689/107 "2016-02-12T22:14:09Z")
I don’t know you. But I kind of know you, and I feel terrible for you. You seem to be dealing with this rather better than I would, but I imagine you are hurting quite badly inside. As a parent I think you’d say that you don’t want anything more than for your child to succeed, and you gave your mother that. ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2016, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-gone/745689/108 "2016-02-12T22:26:33Z")
> [@Bricker](#): > > I found their wedding picture. Dad has this cat-that-ate-the-canary grin on his face; Mom looked happy and carefree, a hard look to pull off in horn-rimmed glasses, but she did. Your Dad must have known how lucky he was. 🙂 Take all the time you need to sort through things and enjoy the memories. My father (and his mother before him) started packing up his spouse’s things the day she died and I deferred to him because that was his wife. I had my own time to grieve but there are some things I might have wanted to process slowly and maybe let go of later. Do what you need to for yourself. Adoration was held on Wednesday so I was able to say a prayer for your Mom and you in His presence. Peace be with you. ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2016, 11:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-gone/745689/109 "2016-02-13T11:51:31Z")
Bricker, I don’t get here very often these days, and we never really saw eye to eye, but please accept my sincere condolences on your loss. Not being American I had to look up when Calvin Coolidge was President and my Mother is in the same age range and will probably go the same path shortly. Again, my condolences. ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2016, 12:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-gone/745689/110 "2016-02-13T12:47:16Z")
I’m sorry, **Bricker**. ---
**Author:** ![Fear\_Itself](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fear_itself/32/19637_2.png) [@Fear\_Itself](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fear_Itself)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2016, 12:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-gone/745689/111 "2016-02-13T12:59:42Z")
I just saw this. Peace and comfort to you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![Mosier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ea924/32.png) [@Mosier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mosier)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2016, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-gone/745689/112 "2016-02-13T18:09:41Z")
I’m sorry for your loss. Life is sweet, and too brief. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mom-is-gone/745689.md?page=5)