# My Mother Died **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 29, 2024, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-died/1010940 "2024-11-29T18:26:15Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![rickp](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rickp/32/17521_2.png) [@rickp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rickp)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2024, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-died/1010940/41 "2024-11-30T06:17:54Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. How wonderful that your mother was able to die at home with you nearby. Tears may or may not come, but that’s nothing to worry about. My wife has never shed tears over either of her parents — it’s just not her way — but every so often she’ll recount some anecdote about one or the other of them in great detail. That’s her way of shedding tears. ---
**Author:** ![Strenger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecae2f/32.png) [@Strenger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Strenger)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2024, 7:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-died/1010940/42 "2024-11-30T07:33:39Z")
I’m so sorry. As it happens my own mother died last Saturday, also at home with my pops as caretaker in addition to hospice providing EOL care. Also of cancer (brain tumor). I hope you’re able to get the support you need from work (I know…necessary evil…but some forms to fill out and such). I’m so sorry, and I hope you’re able to take the time to do what you need to do. > [@EnolaStraight](#): > > “What’s wrong with me? Am I some kind of sociopath not to be feeling anything?” Certainly not. Nothing wrong with you in this respect at all. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2024, 11:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-died/1010940/43 "2024-11-30T11:34:37Z")
She’s a poet, her book of poetry is called, ‘Salt’. ---
**Author:** ![Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a88e4f/32.png) [@Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_is_the_new_Analog)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2024, 1:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-died/1010940/44 "2024-11-30T13:35:21Z")
'tis the season, since I’ll be joining the club any day now. The group of us can cry on each other’s shoulders for a bit. Finding the right words is hard right now, but my condolences to the both of you. ---
**Author:** ![Dogginit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dogginit/32/16920_2.png) [@Dogginit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dogginit)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2024, 2:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-died/1010940/45 "2024-11-30T14:32:07Z")
My condolences to you, and please don’t read anything into how you react - it’s so individual. I lost my mother Sept. 15th, as I was driving back from New Mexico setting up final arrangements for my sister, who was in a hospice facility. On Sept. 17th, I got the call that my sister had passed. In both cases, I’d really had over a year to prepare, knowing it was a matter of when. Had hospitals, funeral homes, the whole lot, call offering grief counselling services. I realized that all my grieving had been done watching them go downhill and suffer for a long time, and after they passed, all I felt was relief for them, an end to their suffering. Nobody can tell you what’s right to feel except you, and that only by feeling it. My thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![Crafter\_Man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crafter_man/32/458_2.png) [@Crafter\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crafter_Man)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2024, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-died/1010940/46 "2024-11-30T17:23:09Z")
My sincere condolences to the OP. > [@Alessan](#): > > It’s all right if you don’t cry. I lost both my parents to cancer relatively recently, my mother slowly, and my father quick, and I haven’t cried yet. Mostly, I felt lost and confused. I still do. I lost my mother in September of 2023. She’s was a good and strong woman, and I think about her often. But I haven’t cried. I am not sure why. It might be because I wasn’t very close to her; we were very different. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2024, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-died/1010940/47 "2024-11-30T17:32:18Z")
**Enola** , I also lost my Mother to cancer. I’m sorry for your troubles. 🥹 ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2024, 5:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-died/1010940/48 "2024-11-30T17:32:53Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![ratatoskK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ratatoskk/32/2987_2.png) [@ratatoskK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ratatoskK)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2024, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-died/1010940/49 "2024-12-01T16:03:14Z")
I’m so sorry to hear of your mother’s passing. May she rest in peace. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-died/1010940.md?page=2)