# My mother left today. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 7, 2005, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580 "2005-09-07T21:51:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Triskadecamus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b19c9b/32.png) [@Triskadecamus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Triskadecamus)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2005, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/1 "2005-09-07T21:51:59Z")
My mother usually did what she wanted. She grew up, the child of privilege, and as a young woman was somewhat of a social butterfly. Then she went to a dance, and met a certain Captain. That night, she decided what she wanted was to be with him, rather than the man with whom she had arrived. So, that’s what she did. She decided that she wanted to be with him more. So, they got married. A war, or two later, she was still doing what she needed to do, to be with him. Moving from place to place, and living in much more spartan accommodations than was usual in her life. But from the beginning of their marriage, her choice was always the same: whenever it was possible, she would be with him. Some people feel that choice might somehow make her less. That perhaps she might not be what she herself could be, if she chose always to be with him. They are wrong. She became a wife. She became a mother. She also became a bowling champion, a golf champion, and a bridge champion. She became a secretary for School Presidents, Lawyers, and Judges. She became a librarian. She became a carpenter, and house builder. She became a sailor. She climbed up mountains, and down into canyons, and across volcanoes. She did whatever she wished to do, and the thing she wished to do was to be with him. A year ago, my father died, and since then, she has been alone. My parents’ ashes will be mingled, and scattered in a place they loved. She has done what she wanted to do. She has gone to be with him. Tris ---
**Author:** ![IrreverentTone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b487fb/32.png) [@IrreverentTone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IrreverentTone)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2005, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/2 "2005-09-07T21:58:26Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss, and I hope that your parents are dancing tonight. ---
**Author:** ![Bumbazine](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bumbazine/32/362_2.png) [@Bumbazine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bumbazine)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2005, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/3 "2005-09-07T22:03:57Z")
That was lovely Tris. ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2005, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/4 "2005-09-07T22:08:03Z")
**Tris** , that was beautiful. I am sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![gardentraveler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gardentraveler/32/3576_2.png) [@gardentraveler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gardentraveler)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2005, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/5 "2005-09-07T22:11:01Z")
Sounds like your parents were very fortunate to have found each other and you were lucky to have them. You’ve written a lovely tribute to your mother. I’m sorry for your loss. GT ---
**Author:** ![Madd\_Maxx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Madd\_Maxx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Madd_Maxx)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2005, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/6 "2005-09-07T22:16:43Z")
**Triskadecamus** you and your family will be in the prayers and thoughts of our whole family. Your OP was very sweet and touching. ---
**Author:** ![Cranky\_Hermit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/13edae/32.png) [@Cranky\_Hermit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cranky_Hermit)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2005, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/7 "2005-09-07T22:26:36Z")
Tris, I’m so sorry for you but happy for them. They’re together again and she won’t be missing him anymore. ---
**Author:** ![An\_Arky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/87869e/32.png) [@An\_Arky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/An_Arky)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2005, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/8 "2005-09-07T22:27:18Z")
My deepest sympathies, **Tris**. Your parents’ story is a beautiful one. If there’s a beyond, I can only imagine the fun they’re having together now. ---
**Author:** ![Cranky\_Hermit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/13edae/32.png) [@Cranky\_Hermit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cranky_Hermit)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2005, 10:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/9 "2005-09-07T22:30:17Z")
Tris, I’m so sorry for you, but happy for them. They’re together again and she won’t have to miss him anymore. My Dad is still here, but I know he misses my Mom a lot. ---
**Author:** ![ivylass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/9de053/32.png) [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2005, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/10 "2005-09-07T22:33:48Z")
What a beautiful tribute. You are in my thoughts tonight. ---
**Author:** ![nonacetone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nonacetone/32/2819_2.png) [@nonacetone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nonacetone)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2005, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/11 "2005-09-07T22:43:09Z")
That was wonderful, Tris. I’m very sorry for your loss. I’m sure your parents are together right now, in a beautiful place, doing all the things they loved to do. ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/12 "2005-09-08T00:52:34Z")
**Tris** – it’s clear your mother was a wonderful woman – and that she had a wonderful son. You are in my thoughts tonight. ---
**Author:** ![danceswithcats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9e8a1a/32.png) [@danceswithcats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/danceswithcats)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/13 "2005-09-08T02:27:23Z")
It’s obvious that the lady left her mark on you, and a good mark it is. Hugs to you, friend. ---
**Author:** ![SnakesCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4af34b/32.png) [@SnakesCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnakesCatLady)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/14 "2005-09-08T02:29:48Z")
What a beautiful tribute! I hope it eases your loss to know they are together again. ---
**Author:** ![AuntiePam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f19dbf/32.png) [@AuntiePam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AuntiePam)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/15 "2005-09-08T02:44:05Z")
Beautifully expressed, and heartfelt. I’ll bet your parents were as proud of you as you are of them. ---
**Author:** ![Cerowyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/82dd89/32.png) [@Cerowyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cerowyn)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/16 "2005-09-08T02:52:48Z")
A beautiful testament to your parents, Tris. The story could have been written about my grandparents, right down to my grandmother dying almost exactly a year after my grandfather. My thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![Lissla\_Lissar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@Lissla\_Lissar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lissla_Lissar)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/17 "2005-09-08T03:05:51Z")
What a beautiful post. God bless you, your family, and your parents. I’ll be praying for all of you. ---
**Author:** ![Kythereia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e8c25b/32.png) [@Kythereia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kythereia)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/18 "2005-09-08T03:15:43Z")
That was heartwrenching, **Tris**. _hugs_ My prayers are with you and your parents–they’re dancing around the stars tonight, by the light of the moon. ---
**Author:** ![LavenderBlue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e95f7d/32.png) [@LavenderBlue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LavenderBlue)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/19 "2005-09-08T03:55:07Z")
Sniff. Sniff. That was very moving. My sincerest condolences. ---
**Author:** ![Good\_Egg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/96bed5/32.png) [@Good\_Egg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Good_Egg)\ **Post date:** [September 8, 2005, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580/20 "2005-09-08T04:24:44Z")
My condolences. You are obviously a Good man. They were good parents. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-mother-left-today/320580.md?page=2)