# My Papa Bear is gone. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 6, 2019, 12:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073 "2019-11-06T12:33:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2019, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/61 "2019-11-07T03:23:15Z")
I’m so sorry Janis. Lumpy has it right, it’s going to hurt. But the pain will ease. May your memories bring you comfort. RIP Papa Bear. ---
**Author:** ![Euphonious\_Polemic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/euphonious_polemic/32/3002_2.png) [@Euphonious\_Polemic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Euphonious_Polemic)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2019, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/62 "2019-11-07T03:42:55Z")
My god. Is there anyone close to you that you can reach out to? You’ll need support. ---
**Author:** ![DesertDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/desertdog/32/11503_2.png) [@DesertDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DesertDog)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2019, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/63 "2019-11-07T15:42:08Z")
I am not religious but I fully understand where Genesis 2.24 came from:That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.A part of you, a most comfortable part, is now missing and no amount of condolences from us or anyone else will help with that, for the moment, but let your friends and family support you. Now, of all times, is when you need them most. ---
**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2019, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/64 "2019-11-07T15:47:25Z")
My sincere condolences. It’s been my experience in these first few days that you just keep putting one step in front of the other. Be patient with yourself. StG ---
**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2019, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/65 "2019-11-07T17:02:06Z")
Thank you guys for all the love… I wrote this this morning… A Widows Prayer Hold my precious husband , Lord and keep him in your care Tho’ my heart is sorrowful, I reach out and he’s not there, Yet I look forward to tomorrow, Lord, when we’ll both be with You I know Your Promises and Love, Lord, will surely see me through. Please Bless the loving hearts, Lord, that pray for me and mine, Though it seems that I’d give anything to hold him one last time The love of them is strong, Lord, and it’s helping me get by It fills my heart with gladness, Lord, even while I cry. Comfort me with memories, Lord, the good ones and the sad Help me to hold onto love, the good times that we had Help me the days I smile, Lord, and the days that I have pain Hold us both together Lord, till I see him again. Amen. ---
**Author:** ![Ceejaytee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ceejaytee/32/2956_2.png) [@Ceejaytee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ceejaytee)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2019, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/66 "2019-11-07T20:41:09Z")
I am so sorry for your loss **janis**. ---
**Author:** ![Kobal2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kobal2/32/20_2.png) [@Kobal2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kobal2)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2019, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/67 "2019-11-07T22:34:28Z")
Hang in there. The pain never really goes away - but you do get used to it, in time. Somehow. Meantime, take care of yourself, don’t be ashamed of anything you do, and don’t be afraid to call for help, any help, with anything no matter how trifling. Even just to pour the sorrow out, like lancing a boil. People understand. If you’re lucky and loved, they even give a shit. ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2019, 11:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/68 "2019-11-07T23:14:05Z")
**{{{Pearl}}}** I am so sorry for your loss. You, your husband, and family are in my prayers. ---
**Author:** ![HoneyBadgerDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honeybadgerdc/32/1033_2.png) [@HoneyBadgerDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoneyBadgerDC)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2019, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/69 "2019-11-07T23:54:06Z")
Your poem was beautiful, so sorry for your loss. I lost my mate a year ago, it does get better. ---
**Author:** ![iiandyiiii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/iiandyiiii/32/7924_2.png) [@iiandyiiii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iiandyiiii)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2019, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/70 "2019-11-07T23:54:30Z")
Very sorry for your loss; best wishes to you and family. ---
**Author:** ![robby](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robby/32/11048_2.png) [@robby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robby)\ **Post date:** [November 7, 2019, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/71 "2019-11-07T23:57:14Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss, **janis**. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Two\_Many\_Cats](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8dc957/32.png) [@Two\_Many\_Cats](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Two_Many_Cats)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2019, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/72 "2019-11-08T00:01:50Z")
I can’t imagine the shock of such a thing. Take good care of yourself. I’m sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2019, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/73 "2019-11-08T00:04:32Z")
I am so sorry for your loss; words escape me. For what its worth you will be in our thoughts and our prayers and our best to you and all the family. ---
**Author:** ![DummyGladHands](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/49beb7/32.png) [@DummyGladHands](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DummyGladHands)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2019, 4:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/74 "2019-11-08T04:13:00Z")
Sorry for your loss. I was widowed 17 yrs ago after his long illness. I thought I was losing my mind. I found a message board called “Widownet” which, and this is not hyperbole, saved my life. It’s mostly moribund these days but there is a FB group called the same. You may want to look it up. There is also WIDDA and Widowed Village among others. My only comfort was “talking” to people in my same situation. I wish you peace ---
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2019, 11:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/75 "2019-11-08T11:03:27Z")
I’m so sorry, **janis**. It will be a year ago tomorrow that I lost my husband. There are a lot of us here who have lost a spouse so don’t hesitate to reach out if you need it. Hugs. ---
**Author:** ![TubaDiva](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tubadiva/32/507_2.png) [@TubaDiva](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TubaDiva)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2019, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/76 "2019-11-08T15:01:46Z")
Condolences to you and your family, janis. May his memory be a blessing. Jenny your humble TubaDiva ---
**Author:** ![Pardel-Lux](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pardel-lux/32/20182_2.png) [@Pardel-Lux](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pardel-Lux)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2019, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/77 "2019-11-08T16:04:11Z")
Reading your post made my heart ache, I feel so sorry for you. I wish you strength and wish to express my sincere condolences. ---
**Author:** ![Apodder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/apodder/32/17727_2.png) [@Apodder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Apodder)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2019, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/78 "2019-11-08T19:31:28Z")
How awful! And how much I feel for you. What a nightmare. Big hugs coming your way. :’( ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2019, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/79 "2019-11-08T19:37:36Z")
I am so very sorry for your loss. What an awful thing to happen. I wish you peace in the future. Please reach out to the people in this thread who’ve undergone something similar, if you want to. ---
**Author:** ![abcdefghij](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/43a26b/32.png) [@abcdefghij](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/abcdefghij)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2019, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/80 "2019-11-08T20:45:43Z")
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