# My Papa Bear is gone. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 6, 2019, 12:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073 "2019-11-06T12:33:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Yllaria](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yllaria/32/3452_2.png) [@Yllaria](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yllaria)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2019, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/81 "2019-11-08T22:08:54Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your poem shows so much love. ---
**Author:** ![Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ccd318/32.png) [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Paul_in_Qatar)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2019, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/82 "2019-11-09T02:22:27Z")
I never know what to say. My words are so feeble. You and your husband shall be in my prayers. ---
**Author:** ![Morgyn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morgyn/32/3041_2.png) [@Morgyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgyn)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2019, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/83 "2019-11-09T02:52:03Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![P-man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/p-man/32/3606_2.png) [@P-man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/P-man)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2019, 3:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/84 "2019-11-09T03:44:02Z")
I can’t imagine. A good friend of mine lost his wife years ago, and I saw what he went through. My thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bosda_di_chi_of_tricor/32/16845_2.png) [@Bosda\_Di\_Chi\_of\_Tricor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bosda_Di_Chi_of_Tricor)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2019, 1:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/85 "2019-11-09T13:51:51Z")
I’m sorry for your troubles. ---
**Author:** ![Filbert](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/filbert/32/3433_2.png) [@Filbert](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Filbert)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2019, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/86 "2019-11-09T18:07:32Z")
I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2019, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/87 "2019-11-10T19:48:54Z")
You have my sincere condolences. Knowing that I logically won’t outlive one brother or **Girl Wonder** gives me angst; it’s precisely those two I would need to be here and strong for. ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2019, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/88 "2019-11-10T23:38:50Z")
I just saw this today. I’m so sorry for your loss, **Janis**. ---
**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2019, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/89 "2019-11-21T16:22:52Z")
I thank you all so very very much for your words of kindness… I’m hanging tough I guess… going to work, going through the motions of the day… I thought you guys might want to see this… I just got it posted a few days ago … I apologize for the cheezy music… there’s a button to turn it off : [https://www.macdonaldfuneral.com/notices/EdwardEddie-Hester](https://www.macdonaldfuneral.com/notices/EdwardEddie-Hester) ---
**Author:** ![TroutMan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/troutman/32/6721_2.png) [@TroutMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroutMan)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2019, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/90 "2019-11-21T16:46:29Z")
I was away and missed this at first. I’m so sorry, my thoughts are with you. He sounds like he was a great guy. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2019, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/91 "2019-11-21T16:59:14Z")
Thank you for sharing that. Again, I am sorry for your pain. ---
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [November 22, 2019, 7:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/92 "2019-11-22T07:35:09Z")
> [@janis\_and\_c0](#): > > I thank you all so very very much for your words of kindness… I’m hanging tough I guess… going to work, going through the motions of the day… I thought you guys might want to see this… I just got it posted a few days ago … I apologize for the cheezy music… there’s a button to turn it off : [https://www.macdonaldfuneral.com/notices/EdwardEddie-Hester](https://www.macdonaldfuneral.com/notices/EdwardEddie-Hester) What a beautiful tribute. He was so young. ☹ I noticed that your funeral home offers the same “Coping With Grief” daily emails that my husband’s did. The link to sign up is in the lower left. You might want to try them. They really helped me. Some made me mad, but that wasn’t necessarily a bad thing. Mine just ended and I miss them. You can always cancel if you don’t like them. ---
**Author:** ![PastTense](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pasttense/32/14550_2.png) [@PastTense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PastTense)\ **Post date:** [December 12, 2019, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/93 "2019-12-12T18:55:02Z")
Sorry for your loss. How are you doing now? ---
**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2019, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/94 "2019-12-13T00:55:59Z")
I’m no longer in the PITS OF BLACK DESPAIR ™ I’ve reached the “meh” stage… it’s not that I don’t care that he died, it’s just that I don’t care about much of anything, period. ---
**Author:** ![VOW](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/vow/32/3043_2.png) [@VOW](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VOW)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2019, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/95 "2019-12-13T01:25:02Z")
The first holidays after losing someone are always the hardest. One tiny little thing can bring the loss rushing at you like freight train. Just let the feelings come. And know the Dopers are thinking of you. ~VOW ---
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [December 13, 2019, 4:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/96 "2019-12-13T04:30:07Z")
> [@janis\_and\_c0](#): > > I’m no longer in the PITS OF BLACK DESPAIR ™ I’ve reached the “meh” stage… it’s not that I don’t care that he died, it’s just that I don’t care about much of anything, period. It’s so hard. Any way you feel is OK. I’m just now kind of starting to care about things again. ---
**Author:** ![janis\_and\_c0](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janis_and_c0/32/21_2.png) [@janis\_and\_c0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/janis_and_c0)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2020, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/97 "2020-11-05T21:01:39Z")
> With time, the pain will ease. Well, no, that’s not exactly right. The pain stays just as painful, but the times you experience it get further and further apart A year in, I can say that this is true. That being said, I still miss him every single day. I can’t believe it’s been a year… Thanks for helping me get through it. I love you guys. ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2020, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-papa-bear-is-gone/843073/98 "2020-11-06T20:41:01Z")
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