My personal info is available if you know my cell #

[Zsofia]

She… uh… doesn’t know your name already?

[Fantome]

@Mr.Slant

Based on the underlined above, I’m suggesting a consultation with a trained clinical social worker, psychologist or psychiatrist.
If you can’t get your head together, you’re going to wind up making crappy decisions and right now it’s quite likely you need to make some good ones.

It’s okay, they’re not that crazy. I just can’t objectionably look at this situation and come to a conclusion as to if this girl is lying, or if she’s telling the truth if she’ll terminate the pregnancy now that she’s confident I don’t want a relationship. Yes, the pressure is killing me, but I’m not going to kill myself or anything. I wish I could get a brilliant answer telling me how to handle this, but I doubt there is one. I’m sorry to go on with this. I made my bed and I’ve got to lie in it.

[seodoa]

@Fantome

I made my bed and I’ve got to lie in it.

Exactly why I never make my bed.

…wait, what?

[sailor]

@Zsofia

She… uh… doesn’t know your name already?

I never give them my name until we’ve been going steady for a while. And then it’s “Mr. Sailor”.

[pudytat72]

Tell your wife. If it is making your thoughts “crazy”, she is going to sense your distress, and that will make her thoughts “crazy”. Would you rather she hear about it from the other woman?

You won’t know for sure if the child is yours until you get paternity testing. (not sure if that can be done prenatally).

My suggestion: make an appointment with a marriage counselor for the two of you and tell her there. You will show that you are serious about your relationship and want to learn how to make it better, and figure out why you thought you could not be faithful to your partner.

[Zsofia]

@sailor

I never give them my name until we’ve been going steady for a while. And then it’s “Mr. Sailor”.

I thought that was only if you’re nasty?

[Really_Not_All_That_Bright]

I know this is GQ and you didn’t ask for advice, but I’d go see a Family Law attorney if I were you. I assume you’re prepared to pay child support if she asks for it, but if she isn’t, it could be kind of a problem if you suddenly get a judgment in the mail requiring you to pay 13 years’ worth of back child support plus penalties and interest…

[Mr.Slant]

@Fantome

It’s okay, they’re not that crazy. I just can’t objectionably look at this situation and come to a conclusion as to if this girl is lying, or if she’s telling the truth if she’ll terminate the pregnancy now that she’s confident I don’t want a relationship. Yes, the pressure is killing me, but I’m not going to kill myself or anything. I wish I could get a brilliant answer telling me how to handle this, but I doubt there is one. I’m sorry to go on with this. I made my bed and I’ve got to lie in it.

I didn’t mean that THEY might have use for a shrink, I meant YOU had use for a shrink.
Don’t take this as an insult, it’s meant in the spirit of helpfulness!

[Fantome]

@Really_Not_All_That_Bright

I assume you’re prepared to pay child support if she asks for it, but if she isn’t, it could be kind of a problem if you suddenly get a judgment in the mail requiring you to pay 13 years’ worth of back child support plus penalties and interest…

Unemployed, broke and having a rough time paying the mortgage.

@Mr.Slant

I didn’t mean that THEY might have use for a shrink, I meant YOU had use for a shrink.
Don’t take this as an insult, it’s meant in the spirit of helpfulness!

I know, you seem pretty sympathetic. By “they’re” I meant my thoughts, not someone else.

Do you mind if I contact you via PM? I just feel so lonely right now and could use some objective advice.

[Mr.Slant]

My apologies for the misunderstanding.
PM away as you like.
Any Straight Doper who isn’t selling herbal viagra is free to PM me as much as they like…