# My sister is why we can't have nice things **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 28, 2009, 10:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sister-is-why-we-cant-have-nice-things/501289 "2009-06-28T22:53:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2009, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sister-is-why-we-cant-have-nice-things/501289/21 "2009-07-04T05:12:50Z")
Possibly your sister was pouting because deep down she knows she’s a horses ass and can’t help it. giver her another 5 years she may grow up. ---
**Author:** ![legalsnugs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/45deac/32.png) [@legalsnugs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/legalsnugs)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2009, 7:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sister-is-why-we-cant-have-nice-things/501289/22 "2009-07-04T07:22:47Z")
Sorry, Sweetie. All I had to go by was your own words and all you said about your conduct was that you berated your sister and got all pissy at both of them. Good for you for trying to help your mom. I wasn’t going to post anything at all until you posted that your mother’s knee was broken, which made you angrier _at your sister_! That and your response to \*\*TrueCelt \*\*makes me believe you are more like your sister than you’d like to think. You can’t do anything about your sister’s behavior, but you can change your own. I hope your mother heals quickly and feels better soon. > [@Pyper](#): > > Wow, that’s a lot of conclusions you’re jumping to, there. In the interests of not making my post 10 pages long, do you think I might have edited some stuff? Maybe you could have politely asked if I did any of that stuff before you decided to lambast me. > > My mother is in her early 50’s, so no, I did not warn her about the curb or offer my arm. It was an unfortunate accident that she tripped, not a result of her frail condition. > > I did insist we go to the ER right then, actually. My mother refused. Was I supposed to kidnap her? She insisted it didn’t hurt that much after the fall. We went to my house where I got her some ice and some ibuprofen, told her again to go to the ER, she refused, then they drove home. Later that day, I found out, she _cleaned the house._ According to her doctor, broken kneecaps are frequently not that painful. I called her that evening and again told her to go to the doctor. She finally took my advice the next morning when she couldn’t move her lower leg. Sorry I didn’t include all this in my OP, but it seems that in trying to avoid painting myself as the perfect daughter, I’ve gotten you all hot and bothered. > > I wasn’t pissed off that we missed lunch. I was pissed off that my horrible sister made a bad situation worse with her attitude. There’s a difference between a day being ruined by a random twist of fate and a day being ruined by the actions of someone else. If my mother had fallen and my sister hadn’t acted the way she did, we all would have probably stopped for some fast food and eaten it at my house while my mother refused to go to the ER. Everyone would have gone home in a pretty good mood, despite things. Instead, everybody ended up pissed off at everybody else and we all went our separate ways in a bad mood. > > I don’t think my sister has offered to do one thing to help my mother since this happened. She is still off in her week-long sulk. ---
**Author:** ![Kimmy\_Gibbler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Kimmy\_Gibbler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimmy_Gibbler)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2009, 7:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sister-is-why-we-cant-have-nice-things/501289/23 "2009-07-04T07:36:58Z")
> [@Pyper](#): > > To Sister: Stop attempting to compensate for your obvious intellectual deficits by acting superior to and criticizing everyone around you. It’s especially grating when you act this way toward our parents and our uncle. They are your elders and your superiors, are in no way mentally-impaired (unlike you), and there is no reason to constantly treat them as if they are exasperating small children. When people call you on your obnoxious behavior, stop pouting and crying like a small child. You are worse than my preschool age students, who at least can contain their tantrums to a maximum of ten minutes when they are scolded. In short: Grow the fuck up. You know, it could be that your sister has real-deal emotional problems and could benefit from seeing a shrink. Your mother’s reactions seems to indicate that she’s pretty familiar with this kind of behavior on your sister’s part and problem is so perky, as you called it, because she doesn’t want to confront the fact that your sister’s immaturity is possibly pathological. Of course, if that is the case, just telling her to “grow the fuck up” won’t accomplish much either. ---
**Author:** ![picunurse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@picunurse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picunurse)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2009, 7:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sister-is-why-we-cant-have-nice-things/501289/24 "2009-07-04T07:42:45Z")
Do you watch [In Plain Sight](http://us.imdb.com/title/tt0935095/)? your sister sounds like Brandy. ---
**Author:** ![Pyper](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Pyper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pyper)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2009, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sister-is-why-we-cant-have-nice-things/501289/25 "2009-07-04T15:50:54Z")
> [@Kimmy\_Gibbler](#): > > You know, it could be that your sister has real-deal emotional problems and could benefit from seeing a shrink. Your mother’s reactions seems to indicate that she’s pretty familiar with this kind of behavior on your sister’s part and problem is so perky, as you called it, because she doesn’t want to confront the fact that your sister’s immaturity is possibly pathological. > > Of course, if that is the case, just telling her to “grow the fuck up” won’t accomplish much either. I know my mother has sent my sister to a psychiatrist in the past, but it hasn’t been shared with me if she’s been diagnosed with anything. You’re right, telling her to grow up won’t accomplish anything if she hasn’t managed to do so by now. That’s why I rant about it on this message board instead of telling it to my sister’s face. ---
**Author:** ![MagicEyes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5daacb/32.png) [@MagicEyes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MagicEyes)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2009, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sister-is-why-we-cant-have-nice-things/501289/26 "2009-07-04T16:19:24Z")
> [@legalsnugs](#): > > Sorry, Sweetie. All I had to go by was your own words and all you said about your conduct was that you berated your sister and got all pissy at both of them. Good for you for trying to help your mom. I wasn’t going to post anything at all until you posted that your mother’s knee was broken, which made you angrier _at your sister_! That and your response to \*\*TrueCelt \*\*makes me believe you are more like your sister than you’d like to think. You’re really missing something here. Pyper was angry because her sister berated her mother for tripping and then started sulking and ruined lunch when someone called her on it. Sure, things would have been fine if Pyper hadn’t said anything, but if I saw someone treating my mother like this, I’d sure as hell do something about it. If you don’t understand that, you must hate your mother. That’s okay, but not all families are like that. ---
**Author:** ![Eats\_Crayons](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/278dde/32.png) [@Eats\_Crayons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eats_Crayons)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2009, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sister-is-why-we-cant-have-nice-things/501289/27 "2009-07-04T18:14:37Z")
> [@legalsnugs](#): > > Sorry, Sweetie. All I had to go by was your own words and all you said about your conduct was that you berated your sister and got all pissy at both of them. You interpretation of the OP is unnecessarily confrontational/argumentative and really rather ridiculous. ---
**Author:** ![legalsnugs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/45deac/32.png) [@legalsnugs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/legalsnugs)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2009, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sister-is-why-we-cant-have-nice-things/501289/28 "2009-07-04T19:04:48Z")
Never mind. ---
**Author:** ![ashman165](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8e8cbc/32.png) [@ashman165](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ashman165)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2009, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sister-is-why-we-cant-have-nice-things/501289/29 "2009-07-04T19:20:29Z")
I’m simply reminded of [this](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XH7p3xWyv7g). ---
**Author:** ![ashman165](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8e8cbc/32.png) [@ashman165](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ashman165)\ **Post date:** [July 4, 2009, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sister-is-why-we-cant-have-nice-things/501289/30 "2009-07-04T19:21:34Z")
> [@Pyper](#): > > I know my mother has sent my sister to a psychiatrist in the past, but it hasn’t been shared with me if she’s been diagnosed with anything. > > You’re right, telling her to grow up won’t accomplish anything if she hasn’t managed to do so by now. That’s why I rant about it on this message board instead of telling it to my sister’s face. Indeed, as Kathy Griffin says: if you have anything bad to say about someone, say it behind their back. It’s called manners. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sister-is-why-we-cant-have-nice-things/501289.md?page=1)