# My so-called friend made a Super Bowl party event on facebook but didn't invite me. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 4, 2011, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103 "2011-02-04T01:52:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/1 "2011-02-04T01:52:10Z")
And there are like 40 people invited so it can’t be a small thing only. I posted on the event wall “can I come?” but no one responded. What am I to do? I am planning just to show up anyway. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/2 "2011-02-04T01:53:31Z")
Is this the friend who keeps asking you to post SDMB questions? I say retaliate by posting really embarrassing questions so we’ll think less of him. ---
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/3 "2011-02-04T01:56:49Z")
no it’s a different friend ---
**Author:** ![Darth\_Sensitive](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/58956e/32.png) [@Darth\_Sensitive](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darth_Sensitive)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 2:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/4 "2011-02-04T02:10:48Z")
Is it the gal that you’re not actually dating? Her actual boyfriend? ---
**Author:** ![kapri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4491bb/32.png) [@kapri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kapri)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/5 "2011-02-04T02:13:07Z")
If you’re not invited, don’t ask if you can come. It makes you look semi-desperate. (Too late, though, I guess.) ---
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/6 "2011-02-04T02:13:29Z")
but I am desperate ---
**Author:** ![kapri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4491bb/32.png) [@kapri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kapri)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 2:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/7 "2011-02-04T02:21:05Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > but I am desperate To go to a Super Bowl party? I don’t get it. I guess I won’t be much help to you. [SIZE=“1”](or are you joking?)[/SIZE] ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/8 "2011-02-04T02:27:23Z")
Host your own Superball Party. That’ll teach 'em. ---
**Author:** ![Crawlspace](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Crawlspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crawlspace)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/9 "2011-02-04T02:29:46Z")
Maybe it’s because you broke his weed smoker. ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/10 "2011-02-04T02:31:11Z")
Don’t go. You’re not invited. If you do, you’ll alienate your friend and the other guests and it’s very unlikely they’ll invite you to other stuff in the future. If you want to watch the game with people, consider going to a bar or some other public venue. If you’re really interested in going to the party, taking it up with your friend in private would have been much more effective and discreet. Don’t beg for an invitation and hope for pity. You’ve probably heard this before, **PSXer** , but most people don’t respond well to desperation. At best they’re going to find it off-putting and unattractive, at worst they’ll find it really creepy. That’s not exactly what most people look for in a friend. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/11 "2011-02-04T02:32:41Z")
Super Bowl parties are overrated anyway. ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/12 "2011-02-04T02:35:42Z")
Show up anyway to a party you’re not invited to? Please don’t do this. You were not invited, and if it were a mistake they would have noticed your post and immediately corrected the mistake. If you go, you are putting the host in a very awkward position to have to deal with your rudeness either gracefully and allow you to be at a party where you are unwanted, or to tell you in person that you were not invited for a reason. And then you might not ever find yourself invited to very much ever again. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/13 "2011-02-04T02:38:51Z")
Go to his wall and delete your comment now, before it gets a response and you can’t get rid of it. Then find a volunteer opportunity for the day - I’m certain that a local food bank or homeless shelter will need extra hands that day. Do something usefula nd fulfilling with the time, such that if you do get an invite you can honestly say “I’m sorry, I’ve made other plans.” ---
**Author:** ![guizot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guizot/32/3636_2.png) [@guizot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/guizot)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/14 "2011-02-04T02:46:57Z")
This is a so-called party anyway that your so-called friend (who is not the one that supposedly wants to know so many so-called things) is not inviting you to. What good is a party on Facebook? You want to go to a _real_ party, my friend. They’ll be everywhere on Sunday–just wander around until you find one. And by half-time no one will be sober enough to care who invited whom anyway. You won’t even have to leave the dorm. ---
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/15 "2011-02-04T02:54:36Z")
> [@kapri](#): > > To go to a Super Bowl party? > > I don’t get it. I guess I won’t be much help to you. [SIZE=“1”](or are you joking?)[/SIZE] What’s not to get? I want to watch the Superbowl, and I want to see my friend (whom I rarely see anymore since he graduated, although we were good friends last year) ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/16 "2011-02-04T03:06:50Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > What’s not to get? I want to watch the Superbowl, and I want to see my friend (whom I rarely see anymore since he graduated, although we were good friends last year) Apparently you are not anymore. Move on. ---
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/17 "2011-02-04T03:12:01Z")
sure we still are anymore. He invited me to his Halloween party and other things. It must have just slipped his mind this time. This is the problem with all my friends: they are more important to me than I am to them. What am I to do? ---
**Author:** ![Grapefruit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/73ab20/32.png) [@Grapefruit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grapefruit)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/18 "2011-02-04T03:18:35Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > This is the problem with all my friends: they are more important to me than I am to them. What am I to do? Find new friends. ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 3:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/19 "2011-02-04T03:21:34Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > He invited me to his Halloween party and other things. It must have just slipped his mind this time. I think he has decided that you are no fun at parties. ---
**Author:** ![blondebear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blondebear/32/1022_2.png) [@blondebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/blondebear)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/20 "2011-02-04T03:26:03Z")
I can almost guarantee you there will be a active thread here on Sunday. You have a TV, right? Watch that and hang out with the your fellow Dopers! [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103.md?page=2)