# My so-called friend made a Super Bowl party event on facebook but didn't invite me. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 4, 2011, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103 "2011-02-04T01:52:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/21 "2011-02-04T03:33:38Z")
but then I can’t get free snacks ---
**Author:** ![BoBettie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@BoBettie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BoBettie)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/22 "2011-02-04T03:34:17Z")
It’s weird that they made an invite only party public. ---
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/23 "2011-02-04T03:35:08Z")
> [@BoBettie](#): > > It’s weird that they made an invite only party public. yes that is my reasoning for thinking that therefore it doesn’t matter whether I was invited or not ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/24 "2011-02-04T03:36:25Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > but then I can’t get free snacks This attitude is probably why you weren’t invited. ---
**Author:** ![pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a9a28c/32.png) [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pseudotriton_ruber_ruber)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/25 "2011-02-04T03:40:54Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > but then I can’t get free snacks If you were within arm’s reach of me right now, you would get several free smacks. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/26 "2011-02-04T03:55:11Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > but then I can’t get free snacks Do you ever bring snacks? Start bringing something that people love and you will always be invited. You’ll be the first one they think of when it comes time to invite people. ---
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 4:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/27 "2011-02-04T04:17:50Z")
I was just kidding; I would gladly go even if there were no snacks What should I bring? I have very little money and not good cooking skills ---
**Author:** ![CatherineZeta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e95f7d/32.png) [@CatherineZeta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CatherineZeta)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 4:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/28 "2011-02-04T04:22:18Z")
Well don’t bring anything to this party, since you weren’t invited. But to future parties, just bring something like tostitos and sala…or even a 40 oz or a 6 pack…it doesn’t have to be anything fancy. If it were a close friend I were truly broke, I might even offer to come over and help set up. Based on your threads though, I would consider finding a new group of friends. Do you have a job? Are you in any clubs? There are TONS of ways to meet people, and especially if you meet people at a job you’ll meet people from different backgrounds who may be more mature than your average college douche. ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/29 "2011-02-04T04:26:12Z")
You’ve already received the very good advice NOT TO GO. Are you a deliberate troll, or just that clueless? If I may be straight, and say what’s necessary, and be slightly cruel: **They don’t want you there.** You can ask your friend privately why you weren’t invited. Something like “Hey, I’ve been getting the vibe lately that you don’t want me around. Is that true? Because if it is, please come out and say it instead of pretending to be my friend. Throwing a huge party and not inviting me is not something a friend would do, and [other stuff that they’ve excluded you from] as well has culminated in making me feel very unwelcome among you guys. What gives?” If you show up to a party you were snubbed from getting an invitation to, be prepared to be embarrassed and roundly shunned by everyone in attendance. ---
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/30 "2011-02-04T04:29:55Z")
I’m sure it will be fine I am in college and the rules are different to boring adult parties and also you can’t understand the dynamic of our friendship ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/31 "2011-02-04T04:31:21Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > I’m sure it will be fine I am in college and the rules are different to boring adult parties and also you can’t understand the dynamic of our friendship I don’t think you understand the “dynamic” of inviting yourself to parties, either. Which is – don’t do it. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/32 "2011-02-04T04:33:32Z")
but it is an open event on facebook. that means anyone can come ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/33 "2011-02-04T04:35:49Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > but it is an open event on facebook. that means anyone can come Then why are you upset about not being invited, if invitations aren’t necessary? ---
**Author:** ![CatherineZeta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e95f7d/32.png) [@CatherineZeta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CatherineZeta)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/34 "2011-02-04T04:36:41Z")
**PSXer** …I just graduated from college. The only instance in which this was ok, was if it was a party where “guests” of invited people were allowed. That or the kind of keg party you see in movies where a kid throws fliers down a flight of stairs or whatever. You specifically stated that this is invitation only. No, I do not know the specific dynamics of your friendship but the dude didn’t invite you and did not respond when you asked if you were invited. I agree with the posters who said to ask him about it in private, but don’t be surprised if you’re received badly by just showing up. ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/35 "2011-02-04T04:36:50Z")
So why did you bother asking for advice? ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/36 "2011-02-04T04:39:48Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > but it is an open event on facebook. that means anyone can come Post back after you show up uninvited and let us know how it went. mk? Since clearly you didn’t post to get advice, you just wanted to validate yourself in being the wronged party, here. ---
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/37 "2011-02-04T04:44:26Z")
I don’t know if it is invite-only or not I am not a master of the facebook event rules. But maybe it is open. ---
**Author:** ![CatherineZeta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e95f7d/32.png) [@CatherineZeta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CatherineZeta)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/38 "2011-02-04T04:54:08Z")
If it’s an open event it’ll say so. If it’s invite only it’ll show you the people who were invited. ETA: If you’re actually friends with this dude, why don’t you flat out ask him which it is? ---
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/39 "2011-02-04T05:00:47Z")
I don’t like talking to people I avoid it whenever I can and what if I ask him and he says he didn’t invite me. I don’t think I could handle that kind of a rejection ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [February 4, 2011, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103/40 "2011-02-04T05:05:58Z")
> [@PSXer](#): > > I was just kidding; I would gladly go even if there were no snacks > What should I bring? I have very little money and not good cooking skills Any bacon roll-up thing will get you invited back. If that’s out of your range, I’ve seen people bring that dip made with melted Velveeta-salsa-canned chili and it gets devoured. Bring either one and he will instantly forget why it was he didn’t invite you. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-so-called-friend-made-a-super-bowl-party-event-on-facebook-but-didnt-invite-me/570103.md?page=3)