# My son has died **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 6, 2018, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541 "2018-06-06T14:26:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/burpo_the_wonder_mutt/32/365_2.png) [@burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burpo_the_wonder_mutt)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/101 "2018-06-07T01:15:29Z")
**Chefguy** , I’m truly sorry. Take time to grieve and heal. ---
**Author:** ![Yllaria](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yllaria/32/3452_2.png) [@Yllaria](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yllaria)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 1:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/102 "2018-06-07T01:27:04Z")
Your description shows your love for him plainly, **Chefguy**. I’m so sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 1:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/103 "2018-06-07T01:34:59Z")
My deepest condolences to you and your family, **Chefguy**. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/104 "2018-06-07T01:35:25Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss. I literally can’t imagine what you must be going through. May his memory be a blessing. ---
**Author:** ![SmartAleq](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/smartaleq/32/163_2.png) [@SmartAleq](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmartAleq)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/105 "2018-06-07T01:45:26Z")
How sad–your son was the same age as my daughter and I can’t imagine what it would be like to lose a child that young, and in such a heartbreaking way. My condolences to you and your family, sending you peace and strength. ---
**Author:** ![Springtime\_for\_Spacers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Springtime\_for\_Spacers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Springtime_for_Spacers)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/106 "2018-06-07T01:57:05Z")
> [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](#): > > My condolences. The struggle to survive an addiction is real; it’s a hell of a horrible disease, and it takes a lot of our best people, sadly transforming us into something far, far from our best before it’s done with us. > > I know it’s little comfort now, but know that he did do himself and others good with what he did to recover; he did inspire others to get and stay clean with every meeting he ever went to. And if he was at all like me, he found many moments of peace and happiness along the way, amidst the storm that is battling the addiction. I am very sorry for your loss Chefguy. This is well put, I feel inadequate to express it better so i would like Qagdop’s words to stand in place of mine. ---
**Author:** ![Kimstu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ecd19e/32.png) [@Kimstu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimstu)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 2:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/107 "2018-06-07T02:10:01Z")
I’m so, so sorry, **Chefguy**. Just joining the “been there” chorus to agree that the premature death of a family member who was in some ways unstable and self-destructive can be really torturing. It is natural and okay to simultaneously feel that you’re devastated at losing them and that you’re angry at their irresponsibility and that you’re guilty about your anger and that you’re glad they’re no longer suffering. He loved you, he knew you loved him, that’s what really matters in the end. You’ll keep all the good things about him in memory and in time they will comfort you. All best wishes and cyberhugs. ---
**Author:** ![fervour](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@fervour](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fervour)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/108 "2018-06-07T02:17:38Z")
OHHHHHHH! Chefguy, (((((((hugs)))))))) A little piece of me has died. ---
**Author:** ![fervour](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@fervour](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fervour)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/109 "2018-06-07T02:22:45Z")
OHHHHHHH! Chefguy. (((((((((hugs)))))))). A bit of me has died. I love you. I am dead, and have to find a reason. ---
**Author:** ![pool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pool/32/4152_2.png) [@pool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pool)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 2:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/110 "2018-06-07T02:31:27Z")
God man, I’m so sorry, losing my children is my biggest fear. You have two beautiful, handsome grandsons, I hope that maybe if there can be a silver lining here at all, maybe you can develop a closer relationship with the two of them, I’m sure they need your love during this time. ---
**Author:** ![anomalous1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e56c9b/32.png) [@anomalous1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anomalous1)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/111 "2018-06-07T02:53:43Z")
I am so sorry for this **chefguy**. thoughts, prayers and condolences be with you. That is absurdly too young to go. I hope in time you will be able to rid your mind of the thoughts of him in the hospital and replace that with the memories that count. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Knig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/cdc98d/32.png) [@Typo\_Knig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Knig)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/112 "2018-06-07T03:37:20Z")
I am so sorry about your loss, **chefguy** , and your family’s, and the world’s. At times like this I turn to my heritage, and wish that the Father of Peace brings Peace to all who mourn. I hope that’s a start. ---
**Author:** ![wolfpup](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wolfpup/32/10618_2.png) [@wolfpup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wolfpup)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/113 "2018-06-07T03:55:49Z")
I don’t usually comment on this kind of thing because, well, because there are no words. But you should know that I read your post and it was very moving and sad beyond imagining. My thoughts and best wishes are with you. ---
**Author:** ![Amara\_1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/7993a0/32.png) [@Amara\_1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Amara_1)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 4:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/114 "2018-06-07T04:55:54Z")
Please add me to the condolences. I’m so sorry Chefguy ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/115 "2018-06-07T05:16:51Z")
My condolences. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 5:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/116 "2018-06-07T05:51:44Z")
**Chefguy** , I am so very sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/117 "2018-06-07T06:50:25Z")
> [@Broomstick](#): > > \Seriously, she needs to consult with a lawyer to find out what she is and isn’t actually responsible to pay. This is very good advice. There are bottom feeders in the world who will try to con a grieving family by telling them that they are responsible for a relative’s debts, and it might take a lawyer getting involved to make them back off. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 7:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/118 "2018-06-07T07:06:30Z")
I’m really sorry to hear this. ---
**Author:** ![Alessan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alessan/32/465_2.png) [@Alessan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alessan)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/119 "2018-06-07T07:14:47Z")
You have my condolences and prayers. Parents should never bury their children. ---
**Author:** ![pullin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c57346/32.png) [@pullin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pullin)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 10:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/120 "2018-06-07T10:11:44Z")
Add me to the condolences as well. Very sorry to hear what happened and hoping for whatever peace can be found. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541.md?page=7)