# My son has died **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 6, 2018, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541 "2018-06-06T14:26:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 10:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/121 "2018-06-07T10:12:32Z")
Sorry for your loss and for all the pain his pain meant to all of your family. ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 10:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/122 "2018-06-07T10:54:02Z")
I am so sorry to hear this. But he went peacefully, if not pleasantly, and you were there at the end. That will help a lot, going forward. Be well. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 11:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/123 "2018-06-07T11:57:59Z")
I am so, so sorry. This is my reoccurring nightmare with my own son. May you and he find peace. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 12:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/124 "2018-06-07T12:36:54Z")
> [@Chefguy](#): > > My son Keith passed away on Friday, June 1st ((( **Chefguy** ))) ---
**Author:** ![Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ccd318/32.png) [@Paul\_in\_Qatar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Paul_in_Qatar)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 1:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/125 "2018-06-07T13:25:29Z")
I do not know the words to say. God bless you. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 1:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/126 "2018-06-07T13:29:50Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > This is very good advice. There are bottom feeders in the world who will try to con a grieving family by telling them that they are responsible for a relative’s debts, and it might take a lawyer getting involved to make them back off. I copied **Bricker’s** post and sent it to my ex-wife, so she is aware. ---
**Author:** ![nelliebly](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nelliebly/32/5422_2.png) [@nelliebly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nelliebly)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 3:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/127 "2018-06-07T15:32:15Z")
**Chefguy** , I’m so sorry you lost your beautiful boy. I can’t help thinking your post, so unflinching and heartbreaking, should reach a wider audience. It would touch a chord for a lot of people. Just a thought to tuck away for later. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/128 "2018-06-07T15:33:05Z")
Thank you to everyone for your thoughts and wishes. And thank you to those who sent a donation. My daughter says she has thanked everyone personally, and was deeply touched by the generosity of strangers. Today, family and friends will be gathering to give a rousing goodbye to Keith at their local Catholic church, and to offer each other solace. While Keith was not much for religion, he would be happy to see everyone together in laughter and tears, probably trying to console everyone and lift them out of their sadness. I could not be there for several reasons, but they know that I am with them in spirit. At this point, I am trudging through the daily routines, trying to see the beauty of what is around me, and profoundly sad that my son can no longer enjoy this world. I don’t believe in heaven and hell, but I do hope that there is some other plane of existence, some parallel universe, where his doppelganger is enjoying life of a different sort. Thank you again, my pixelated friends. You are far more to me than dots on a screen. ---
**Author:** ![EmilyG](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/emilyg/32/364_2.png) [@EmilyG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmilyG)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/129 "2018-06-07T18:51:56Z")
\*\*Chefguy, \*\*from what you wrote about your son, he sounds like he was a wonderful person. Love to you and your family. Here’s hoping you can find the beauty that you seek in life. ---
**Author:** ![purplehearingaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7bcc69/32.png) [@purplehearingaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehearingaid)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/130 "2018-06-07T19:18:19Z")
Chefguy I just saw your very moving thread today and was so sad to learn about your son untimely death . My condolences to you and your family . ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/131 "2018-06-07T19:21:56Z")
Chefguy, I am so sorry. My heart is breaking for you. ---
**Author:** ![hopesperson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e95f7d/32.png) [@hopesperson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hopesperson)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 2018, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/132 "2018-06-07T19:40:08Z")
I’m sorry for your loss. Best wishes to you and everyone else affected. ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2018, 6:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/133 "2018-06-08T06:51:29Z")
**Chefguy** , sorry for your loss and sending good thoughts your way. ---
**Author:** ![Tibby](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tibby/32/17030_2.png) [@Tibby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tibby)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2018, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/134 "2018-06-09T19:24:48Z")
Condolences on your terrible loss. It sounds like your son brought joy to many. Hopefully the happiness in his life far exceeded the depression. He had a caring father and family so I’m sure it did. It’s tragic when a parent outlives a child. My oldest daughter (17) has borderline personality disorder and battles with depression. She’s given her sister and I many scares over the years (a bad one just a couple months ago). My pulse quickens when the phone rings and I don’t recognize the number. Take heart that the demons no longer torment your son. You don’t need to live to 80 to have a good life. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2018, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/135 "2018-06-09T22:49:25Z")
> [@Chefguy](#): > > Today, family and friends will be gathering to give a rousing goodbye to Keith at their local Catholic church, and to offer each other solace. While Keith was not much for religion, he would be happy to see everyone together in laughter and tears, probably trying to console everyone and lift them out of their sadness. So, yer Irish, are ye? Brother, I’m weeping, It’s what we do. ---
**Author:** ![Lamar\_Mundane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/85f322/32.png) [@Lamar\_Mundane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamar_Mundane)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2018, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/136 "2018-06-09T23:20:31Z")
I’m very sorry for your and his family, **Chefguy.** ---
**Author:** ![DesertDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/desertdog/32/11503_2.png) [@DesertDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DesertDog)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2018, 11:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/137 "2018-06-10T11:59:35Z")
For me, one of the most poignant moments in _The Two Towers_ is when Theoden is standing with Gandalf before the just-sealed grave of Theodred. He turns to the wizard and manages to get out an anguished, “No parent should have to bury their child,” before dropping to his knees and sobbing. Turns out that when Bernard Hill was in the waiting room for the flight to Wellington, a mother flying to New Zealand to pick up her son’s body told him that. Hugs, **Chefguy** ; the world is not supposed to work that way… ---
**Author:** ![Dante](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dante/32/9673_2.png) [@Dante](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dante)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2018, 1:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/138 "2018-06-10T13:58:07Z")
So sorry to hear this **Chefguy**. I hope you find peace in the weeks and months ahead. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2018, 3:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/139 "2018-06-10T15:14:42Z")
I am so, so sorry, Chefguy. My thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2018, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-has-died/815541/140 "2018-06-10T18:09:50Z")
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