# My son may be a bit of a prude **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 14, 2003, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-may-be-a-bit-of-a-prude/218981 "2003-12-14T19:48:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Saint\_Zero](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c4cdca/32.png) [@Saint\_Zero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saint_Zero)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2003, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-may-be-a-bit-of-a-prude/218981/61 "2003-12-16T22:12:25Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by msmith537 \* > \*\*I think once Ivyboy gets past the “pure and chaste angel on a pesdestal” stage of veiwing women and starts seeing them as sex objects, he’ll be better off. \*\* Women aren’t sex objects. That’s the problem the rest of his class has. If the girl he wanted wants to act like that, fine. There are girls around who’ll like a guy who can keep his pants up. ---
**Author:** ![Saint\_Zero](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c4cdca/32.png) [@Saint\_Zero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Saint_Zero)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2003, 10:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-may-be-a-bit-of-a-prude/218981/62 "2003-12-16T22:21:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by gex gex \* > \*\*If everyone took the conservative route, we’d still be back in the 1500s. Thank god there are some teens stupid enough to reject societal norms and carve a new way forward. \*\* Lemme guess… you’re a kid? I’ve got bad news for you if you are. You’ll grow out of it, if you’re lucky. ---
**Author:** ![Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spectre_of_pithecanthropus/32/12343_2.png) [@Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spectre_of_Pithecanthropus)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2003, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-may-be-a-bit-of-a-prude/218981/63 "2003-12-16T23:48:14Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by DeaganTheWolf \* > \*\*Gods forbid someone doesn’t want to be at a place where all they play is mindless repetitive music. Not all teens love rap. I boycotted most dances because of the idot music, and the freak dancing. I’m not a prude, I’m a metalhead, and frankly that music irritates the hell out of me. I turned out fine. \*\* Me too. I honestly would not want to be 30 years younger than I am if it meant continually being subjected to rap and hip-hop based on the assumption that they’re what all kids like. Not to mention the oversize pants I’d be expected to wear in order to be cool. ---
**Author:** ![mangeorge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d78d45/32.png) [@mangeorge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mangeorge)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2003, 12:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-may-be-a-bit-of-a-prude/218981/64 "2003-12-17T00:51:15Z")
I wouldn’t want to be 30 years younger than I am. Period. I had my turn, and it was (is) mostly pretty cool 🆒 . But, I do like some rap. I listen. Pretty good rhyme, most of it. Freakin’? you got me there, I’ve only seen it on the tube. My granddaughter (14) say’s it’s not for everybody, including her group. And the school definately doesn’t allow it at sanctioned dances. Not the groin grinding stuff, anyway. But she goes to public school, not an academy. I wonder at the folks here who have decided what a fine young man Ivyboy is based entirely on the OP. He was pissed-off by something that happened at a dance, so he’s an angel? I mean, give the kid a break. Talk about your pedestal. BTW; my GD likes group dating. ---
**Author:** ![Ms2001](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ms2001/32/18463_2.png) [@Ms2001](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ms2001)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2003, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-may-be-a-bit-of-a-prude/218981/65 "2003-12-17T01:58:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by msmith537 \* > **Almost forgot… You might want to encourage Ivyboy to seek out other girls. I think that young kids tend to focus on the hottest, high profile girls (and thus least obtainable through sheer competition) and thus overlook girls who may actually like them (I know I had to be hit in the face with a shovel to realize a girl liked me).** Indeed. When I was in junior high, a nice but plain girl asked me out, but I was more interested in the hotter girls (coincidentally, so were all the other guys) so I turned her down. Result? I missed an opportunity to learn how to interact with girls, and was pretty miserable in that regard until about 4 years later. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2003, 5:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-may-be-a-bit-of-a-prude/218981/66 "2003-12-17T05:33:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by athelas \* > \*\*\>Same place they’ve always been. Holding the wall up at the > \>party, too afraid to approach you. Either that or playing with > \>their collection of dead animals. > > Bosh. Now anyone who has standards of decency (whether the dancing was indeed of an indecent nature is up to debate, of course) become a target of cultural liberalists branding as dead-animal-collectors? Sheesh! \*\* Shyness and awkwardness is not a standard of decency. If you never approach the opposite sex, the decision has been taken away from you. If Ivyboy was really a decent person, he would not be angry that his “girl” was getting her freak on. he would simply refocus his affections to someone who had his own value system. Now, if it was his actual girlfriend who was doing the humpty bumpty dance, then he would be justified in his anger. When a person goes to a venue, they have the option of participating or not. A school dance can’t accomadate every musical taste so it generally focuses on DANCE music. It’s like when we used to have fraternity parties in college. Some guys would always request Nirvana or Green Day or Metallica so they could ‘mosh’ to it. Sorry, but chicks don’t dig a bunch of guys smashing into each other. If a tape loop of ABBA, “I Will Survive”, and various dance tracks keep the ladies coming back for more, that’s what gets played. If you don’t like it well, your sausage won’t be missed. mangeorge > [@](#): > > BTW; my GD likes group dating. Yeah I saw something about that on 60 Minutes 😃 Seriously though, I don’t call that ‘dating’. That’s a mixed group of people hanging out. If they are older, it’s a mixed group of people hanging out, hoping that after a few drinks, they will ‘couple off’ and hook up. ---
**Author:** ![gex\_gex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/94ad74/32.png) [@gex\_gex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gex_gex)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2003, 12:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-may-be-a-bit-of-a-prude/218981/67 "2003-12-17T12:27:23Z")
> [@](#): > > _originally posted by Saint Zero_ > Lemme guess… you’re a kid? I’ve got bad news for you if you are. > You’ll grow out of it, if you’re lucky. Oh, my, so condescending :roll eyes:. Not that is it’s relevant, but I’m 20. I can recognise, though, that older generations have always been disgusted at the loose morals of younger generations and that the younger generation will usually triumph. Have you seen bathing suits from the beginning of last century? Society moves forward by younger genrations reshaping it. If every kid in the '50s was like Ivyboy, we’d still be sitting around shocked at the way Elvis moves his hips. I’m not sure what age you are, but I’m going to assume that you think your moral standards are superior to everyone else’s simply because you’re self-righteous, not because of your birth date. ---
**Author:** ![gex\_gex](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/94ad74/32.png) [@gex\_gex](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gex_gex)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2003, 12:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-may-be-a-bit-of-a-prude/218981/68 "2003-12-17T12:34:06Z")
> [@](#): > > _originally posted by me_ > Oh, my, so condescending :roll eyes: If you want to be condescending about my inability to use similies correctly, that’s perfectly fine. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-son-may-be-a-bit-of-a-prude/218981.md?page=3)