# My Son's Father Resurfaces After 14 Year Absence (So very long) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 23, 2014, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sons-father-resurfaces-after-14-year-absence-so-very-long/705385 "2014-11-23T02:52:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2014, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sons-father-resurfaces-after-14-year-absence-so-very-long/705385/21 "2014-11-24T19:03:46Z")
Does your son have any contact with his half-siblings? Maybe he’ll believe stories from them. Have you checked out the Hospice? Is it real? ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2014, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sons-father-resurfaces-after-14-year-absence-so-very-long/705385/22 "2014-11-24T19:11:46Z")
> [@Zebra](#): > > Does your son have any contact with his half-siblings? Maybe he’ll believe stories from them. > > Have you checked out the Hospice? Is it real? Yes, he does have contact with them. They are much older than he (I used to like older men) and very credible. He knows some of their stories, and he knows his father at least used to be a very bad man. What he thinks now is that he has changed. He doesn’t yet have the life experience or knowledge of humans to know that that is quite unlikely. And if the man is really on the verge of dying, I have to wonder what purpose it would even serve to disabuse him of that notion. Maybe it would be better for him to live the rest of his life thinking that his father did change and did become a great guy, or at least until he figures it out for himself that it’s probably not true. The hospice is definitely a real entity, and I have spoken to other people that work there, not just the social worker. I am pretty convinced that he’s dying- it feels very authentic to me, and I’m the most skeptical person I know. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/46a35a/32.png) [@Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_T-Bonham.net)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2014, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sons-father-resurfaces-after-14-year-absence-so-very-long/705385/23 "2014-11-25T03:37:46Z")
Make sure your claim for past-due child support is filed in time to be charged against his estate. ---
**Author:** ![48Willys](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/4/db5fbb/32.png) [@48Willys](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/48Willys)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2014, 7:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sons-father-resurfaces-after-14-year-absence-so-very-long/705385/24 "2014-11-25T07:13:27Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > The only kind of proof I have is that his daughter and I googled the name and phone number of the social worker and they both went back to an actual hospice in Yuma. Even if he is running a scam, I’m much too guarded now for him to possibly get anything from me, especially my son. I’m extremely suspicious every step of the way and examine every detail plus talk them out with other suspicious people. I know that almost anyone can get taken by someone, but I’m pretty confident about what’s going on. Good! I was fairly sure that you would have thought about this, but I wanted to make sure. I am relieved to hear that you have checked this latest story out. Thanks for the update, 48. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2014, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sons-father-resurfaces-after-14-year-absence-so-very-long/705385/25 "2014-11-25T20:48:39Z")
> [@t-bonham@scc.net](#): > > Make sure your claim for past-due child support is filed in time to be charged against his estate. That’s not the worst idea ever, especially if **Alice’s** son getting his father’s SS screws them over for Medicaid. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [November 25, 2014, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sons-father-resurfaces-after-14-year-absence-so-very-long/705385/26 "2014-11-25T21:26:14Z")
It would be a good idea if there was an estate. As it is, though, he gets a paltry disability check and lives in a furnished studio apt. He has nothing. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [November 26, 2014, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sons-father-resurfaces-after-14-year-absence-so-very-long/705385/27 "2014-11-26T17:46:35Z")
Well, I wish I could say I was surprised. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [December 6, 2014, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sons-father-resurfaces-after-14-year-absence-so-very-long/705385/28 "2014-12-06T18:07:21Z")
Well, that didn’t take long. He flipped his shit over the phone on me over something incredibly minor and innocuous, ranted and raved, and acted like a true narcissist, and told me our dealings were done now. Says he going to come back as a ghost and haunt me, but no ghost could possibly be as scary as him in his present form. I guess I was just waiting for it- unlike my son, I don’t believe that people like that ever change. I’m don’t regret being in touch with him, as I’m still glad that my son got to talk to his father and help close out that mystery for him. But I am glad and relieved that he’s gone again and I don’t have to wait for the other shoe to drop anymore. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-sons-father-resurfaces-after-14-year-absence-so-very-long/705385.md?page=1)