# My Standards Are Not Too High For Girls **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 28, 2012, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094 "2012-03-28T23:43:13Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 7:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094/141 "2012-03-30T07:33:18Z")
> [@Dublin11](#): > > That would nearly be sensible, if everyone on here had said that paying for prostitutes **was** sinful or evil. > But no. > No one has said that. > > From what I can see, no one is telling you off because they think you are evil or a sinner. Are you somehow seeing it differently? Well, over the course of his 5 threads, there have been many suggestions to the effect that Mr. **Yakuza** ’s choices haven’t been as, uh… _optimal_ as might be possible – phrased with varying degrees of tactfulness or lack thereof. I don’t recall any overt accusation of actual evil. There have been a few ruffled responses over his 'tude toward females (e.g., **anya marie** , 3 posts above.) ---
**Author:** ![Senegoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senegoid/32/6606_2.png) [@Senegoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Senegoid)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 7:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094/142 "2012-03-30T07:43:32Z")
> [@florez](#): > > The Yakuza method, could become very popular, and Yakuza could be looked upon as more of a role model and guru, before he gets into politics, or at least gets his own talk show. Oh, Florez, your interpretation is so poetic. And **Yakuza** -san is such a free spirit upon the earth. If I were but 40 years younger, I’d be soooo tempted to choose as he has, instead of the ways I did! To be so care-free! And to get laid so! The good life calls, and **Yakuza** has answered that call. As for politics and talk shows – All’s he has to do is write his memoirs first (with you, **Florez** to edit his gramer speling and punchation), and he will have enough money for a nice apartment .AND. a good many _free_ girls! (I haven’t understood yet why he needs _more_ money to get _free_ girls, but he’s mentioned it several times.) ---
**Author:** ![Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b38774/32.png) [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Attack_from_the_3rd_dimension)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 8:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094/143 "2012-03-30T08:01:07Z")
> [@Yakuza](#): > > Pathetic, how a low level human like u think u can hurt my feelings Are you not human? 01110011011001010111100001101001011100110111010000100000011100100111010101101110011011100110100101101110011001110010000001100100011011110110011100101110 ---
**Author:** ![fjs1fs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/9e8a1a/32.png) [@fjs1fs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fjs1fs)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094/144 "2012-03-30T15:48:39Z")
> [@FinnAgain](#): > > No. You may have been thinking that, but that isn’t what’s indicated. The semiotic value of laughter is not, in fact, necessarily an indicator that someone is being facetious. Within the construction you used, the indication would actually be “[Thing you said], I find that laughable.” > > Now, you could’ve avoided the sloppiness in your verbiage by writing like an adult. Ya know, like people are expected to do on the Dope. Unless of course you feel like writing like the OP, whose near universally negative reception you still have yet to grok. Semiotic value of Laughter - LOL LOL LOL!!! You’re looking for indicators that a writer is being facetious? So you really thought that I believed you were kicking me off of the Dope? For someone with such an extraordinary vocabulary as yours, and such a high opinion of his or her own ability to write, it’s amazing how you could lack even a rudimentary level of reading comprehension. I just can’t help but LOL AT YOU! Here’s my tip for you: Get over yourself and your obvious erudition, and either discuss the topic of the thread or don’t. I know I have broken this rule, and I apologize to everyone on here. My original point was that despite the OP’s imperfect command of grammar (much like my own, apparently, per Professor FinnAgain), the OP’s story is pretty interesting. And I still contend that the OP is playing Everybody on this board by exaggerating his lack of polish. ---
**Author:** ![septimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/septimus/32/410_2.png) [@septimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/septimus)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094/145 "2012-03-30T16:41:37Z")
> [@Reply](#): > > What’s with all this unnecessary teasing?.. > > I know this is the Dope and all, where we value non-abbreviation and punctuation almost as a religion unto itself, but really… can we at least TRY to comprehend the substance of his post? For example, so maybe income isn’t as big a factor as he believes. Fine, let him know. But the rest of the mocking, slamming, etc… this isn’t even the Pit. What the heck? I’ll go on record as supporting **Reply** ’s comments. I would have posted earlier, but wasn’t sure how to phrase a comment without either sounding condescending to **Yakuza** or becoming a target myself. Perhaps **Yakuza** has a psychological disability, but that’s a reason for empathy, not ridicule. At least he seems candid and sincere, which is more than can be said for some of his detractors. ---
**Author:** ![FinnAgain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/finnagain/32/12500_2.png) [@FinnAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FinnAgain)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094/146 "2012-03-30T16:44:51Z")
> [@fjs1fs](#): > > You’re looking for indicators that a writer is being facetious? Is English not your first language? Yes, there are contextual clues when a writer is being facetious. And rather obviously as I already pointed out to you and you did not comprehend, “[Thing you said], I find that laughable” is a cogent interpretation of your sloppy verbiage, and “You want to kick me off the dope, that’s laughable” is consistent with your text. That you meant to write something that was clear instead of sloppy is hardly my fault. > [@fjs1fs](#): > > My original point was that despite the OP’s imperfect command of grammar […]the OP’s story is pretty interesting. The OP’s lack of grammar displays the fact that he’s not paying proper respect to the community standards of the Dope. It’s a bit like farting in a crowded elevator. Yeah, there are no laws against it, but it’s a bad thing to do. The fact that the OP has had numerous opportunities to rectify his mistake indicates that it’s deliberate. Further, the OP’s story is hardly “interesting” in any dynamic other than rubbernecking. He’s a voluntarily homeless person who views women as a commodity and wastes half of his monthly income of whores rather than actually getting his shit together and getting a girlfriend. And that’s assuming that he’s not yanking our chains, which is a big ol’ assumption. ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094/147 "2012-03-30T17:17:43Z")
> [@septimus](#): > > I’ll go on record as supporting **Reply** ’s comments. I would have posted earlier, but wasn’t sure how to phrase a comment without either sounding condescending to **Yakuza** or becoming a target myself. > > Perhaps **Yakuza** has a psychological disability, but that’s a reason for empathy, not ridicule. At least he seems candid and sincere, which is more than can be said for some of his detractors. The only thing I find annoying about **Yakuza** ’s posts is his continued insistence on using “chatspeak” (especially “2” and “4”) when he’s been told numerous times that pretty much everybody else here finds it annoying. I kind of start getting the feeling that he’s doing it on purpose, and every one of those "2"s and "4"s is like a tiny little “screw you, I do what I want!” when I read it. The rest of his posts (the talk of “free girls” and whatnot) is more amusing to me than annoying, and if it’s part of his posting style then I’ll just continue to be amused and make my own assumptions about \*\*Yak \*\*based on the content of his posts. But those "2"s and "4"s…ugh. ---
**Author:** ![jackdavinci](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackdavinci/32/3259_2.png) [@jackdavinci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackdavinci)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094/148 "2012-03-30T17:19:25Z")
Florez I think you’ve got something. “The Yakuza Method: The Life 4 U” sounds like something that could be lucritatively marketed and turned into a motivational speaking gig, which would surround Yakuza with an endless supply of groupies, a longstanding wellspring of “free girls”. ---
**Author:** ![florez](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b9e5f3/32.png) [@florez](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/florez)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094/149 "2012-03-30T17:52:07Z")
> [@jackdavinci](#): > > Florez I think you’ve got something. > > “The Yakuza Method: The Life 4 U” sounds like something that could be lucritatively marketed and turned into a motivational speaking gig, which would surround Yakuza with an endless supply of groupies, a longstanding wellspring of “free girls”. I have seen a number of even more ridiculous philosophies marketed to the public, which brought profit to the prophet. ---
**Author:** ![Dublin11](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Dublin11](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dublin11)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094/150 "2012-03-30T18:20:50Z")
> [@Senegoid](#): > > Well, over the course of his 5 threads, there have been many suggestions to the effect that Mr. **Yakuza** ’s choices haven’t been as, uh… _optimal_ as might be possible – phrased with varying degrees of tactfulness or lack thereof. I don’t recall any overt accusation of actual evil. There have been a few ruffled responses over his 'tude toward females (e.g., **anya marie** , 3 posts above.) Well, yup; I know that. So that’s why I asked him why he kept posting here if his life was all as happy as he said. Why post in a place where all of your threads turn into you being lambasted for your life choices and your attitude to women, when you don’t need to? But his answer about the reason **why** he keeps starting threads is because he wants us all to know a man who uses prostitutes is not a sinner or an evil man. Which no one here has said, anyway. That’s like me asking you where you live and you answering “I wear a pink tutu on my head and ride my unicycle to the moon every Tuesday” ---
**Author:** ![Gary\_T](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Gary\_T](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gary_T)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094/151 "2012-03-30T19:16:36Z")
> [@Dublin11](#): > > That would nearly be sensible, if everyone on here had said that paying for prostitutes **was** sinful or evil. > But no. > No one has said that. > [@Dublin11](#): > > But his answer about the reason **why** he keeps starting threads is because he wants us all to know a man who uses prostitutes is not a sinner or an evil man. > Which no one here has said, anyway. But what about people he meets in person? I wouldn’t be surprised if some of them have chastised him. He may have even been criticized by a free girl. ---
**Author:** ![Dublin11](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Dublin11](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dublin11)\ **Post date:** [March 30, 2012, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094/152 "2012-03-30T19:31:57Z")
> [@Gary\_T](#): > > But what about people he meets in person? I wouldn’t be surprised if some of them have chastised him. He may have even been criticized by a free girl. If free girls in the real world are chastising because he tells them he spends all his money on prostitutes\*, why isn’t he telling **them** that he’s not a sinner? Why are we geting all the fun? 😛 \*Speaking as a free girl, I can honestly say I’ve never met a free boy who’s told me anything like that. Wonder what I’d say if one did. ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2012, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094/153 "2012-03-31T13:46:21Z")
> [@Gary\_T](#): > > But what about people he meets in person? I wouldn’t be surprised if some of them have chastised him. He may have even been criticized by a free girl. What **Dublin** said. If somebody else somewhere else said something you disagree with, tell your disagreement to _them_. Most of us here could give two fucks about the morality or lack thereof of prostitution, so telling us about it over and over again is rather silly and pointless and a waste of everyone’s time. As for the OP, yeah, your standards, as an entire package, are too high. Overall, you’re looking for someone who is not only prettier than average, but doesn’t mind dating a misogynistic homeless guy. Not a poor guy, a homeless guy. They are two totally separate hurdles to clear, and the homelessness is far and away the higher one. There’s lots of ways to spend an evening together that are free or nearly so, but all of those things require a place to be while you do them, and many of them are…not suited to public places. Or to storage units, frankly. And if you do all of these things at her place, your prospective girlfriend would have to be okay with letting you leave knowing you have nowhere to go but the park. If she felt guilty about it, as I think most good-hearted people would, she’d feel obliged to ask you to stay whether she really wanted you to or not. Before long, you’d basically be living with her, and how can she break up with you knowing that it means throwing you back out onto the streets? That’s not a scenario most people want to get themselves into, frankly. Then too, you have the issue that a great many of the homeless are mentally ill. Women are, rightly or wrongly, going to judge that the homeless guy hitting on them is more likely to be mentally ill than the non-homeless guy hitting on them. There’s generally not people lining up around the block to get mentally ill partners, ya know? And that’s before you open your mouth and start referring to women as “females” and “girls” and explain how you spend half your income on hookers because “free girls” are basically hookers too, just of a kind you can’t afford. So what you’re looking for is a woman who is willing to date someone who is more likely than normal to _pantalones de loco_ and will basically wind up living with them in pretty short order and who essentially thinks she’s a whore…and she has to be really pretty. Good luck with that. ---
**Author:** ![Gary\_T](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/3ec8ea/32.png) [@Gary\_T](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gary_T)\ **Post date:** [March 31, 2012, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094/154 "2012-03-31T14:38:32Z")
> [@Dublin11](#): > > If free girls in the real world are chastising because he tells them he spends all his money on prostitutes\*, why isn’t he telling **them** that he’s not a sinner? > > Why are we geting all the fun? 😛 > [@CrazyCatLady](#): > > What **Dublin** said. If somebody else somewhere else said something you disagree with, tell your disagreement to _them_. Well, sure – for normal people with normal perspectives and normal social skills. I suspect this fellow knows precious few who will listen to him, and that those (fewer yet) who bother to respond are far less kind and accepting than the world of Dopedom. He’s gotta make the case to _someone_ that his behavior is okay. Who better than a message board that automatically listens, and where at least some of the replies are not negatively influenced by how he comes across in person? Because we’re here, he doesn’t have to natter to himself. ☹ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-standards-are-not-too-high-for-girls/617094.md?page=7)