# My wife and I have a parenting disagreement. Who's right? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 4, 2009, 6:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-and-i-have-a-parenting-disagreement-whos-right/512523 "2009-10-04T06:33:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Translucent\_Daydream](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/translucent_daydream/32/16170_2.png) [@Translucent\_Daydream](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Translucent_Daydream)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 1:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-and-i-have-a-parenting-disagreement-whos-right/512523/101 "2009-10-08T13:08:04Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Wow. That’s kind of creepy. I mean if a very young child wrote about an instance of sexual molestation or drew something they probably shouldn’t know about, reporting sounds normal. But just saying that they are against porn? It’s not like they’re talking about how great porn is and how Max Hardcore is their fave director. This just seems a little big brotherish to me. > > She is. She changed it to the environment. No it isn’t the content, its just that a 9-10 year old would take such an open ended assignement and come up with something with a sexual theme, that is what would concern them. ---
**Author:** ![Mighty\_Girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7bcc69/32.png) [@Mighty\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mighty_Girl)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-and-i-have-a-parenting-disagreement-whos-right/512523/102 "2009-10-08T14:19:35Z")
> [@delphica](#): > > YI say this as someone who had a Lisa Simpson childhood myself, and often fueled my own anxieties because I couldn’t articulate my worries to my well-intentioned parents because my imagination and my emotional maturity weren’t synced up. I could be projecting, but I wanted to put it out there as something to think about. Are you me? I had already being exposed to porn at that age (classmates found some magazines in the garbage), it was the most vanilla stuff I can imagine, and yet it was scandalous to all of us. It wasn’t so much that I thought it was degrading, it was just disgusting. I can imagine if I had the gumption to admit in front of the nuns that I had seen porn I would have also come out against it. > [@thirdwarning](#): > > I don’t know where or why she got this idea, but it isn’t completely out of line for a ten year old to have an opinion on this. As a 10 yo I had an opinion on everything. Now I find most of those opinions utterly ridiculous and misinformed, but by Og did I have an opinion! If I, growing up in a Catholic country small town, going to Catholic school, managed to see porn at 10 (earlier, actually), I can’t see why kids these days wouldn’t. I have Google images set to “no filter” (my daughter is 4, she still is not using our computers), and sometimes searching for something innocent I come across an “arrghhhhhhhhhhh! WTF? Sweet Mary mother of Jesus! Hmmm…” image. And I thought nothing could surprise me now. I am not a prude, but judging from my own childhood as a very precocious kid, \*sometimes \*kids have to be sheltered from things they’d be embarrassed to ask about. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 2:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-and-i-have-a-parenting-disagreement-whos-right/512523/103 "2009-10-08T14:56:40Z")
Just to reiterate, my wife wasn’t serious about making me sleep on the couch. She was being sarcastic, not literal. She doesn’t have many hot button topics, but porn is one of them. ---
**Author:** ![Mighty\_Girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7bcc69/32.png) [@Mighty\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mighty_Girl)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-and-i-have-a-parenting-disagreement-whos-right/512523/104 "2009-10-08T17:40:39Z")
I think that was pretty obvious. ---
**Author:** ![jimpatro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/b9e5f3/32.png) [@jimpatro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jimpatro)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 9:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-and-i-have-a-parenting-disagreement-whos-right/512523/105 "2009-10-08T21:29:10Z")
I think your daughter should write about what she wants to. Not about what her mom wants her to. Again, a very touchy subject for a girl her age to delve into anyway. If she had happened upon graphic photos of open heart surgery, she may have been just as disturbed. But no reason for open heart surgery to be banned by the president. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-and-i-have-a-parenting-disagreement-whos-right/512523.md?page=5)