# My wife died this afternoon!!! **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 24, 2004, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939 "2004-06-24T03:34:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![FilmGeek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b19c9b/32.png) [@FilmGeek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FilmGeek)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/101 "2004-06-24T18:38:19Z")
How are you doing, hlanelee? ---
**Author:** ![Sister\_Vigilante](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9de0a6/32.png) [@Sister\_Vigilante](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sister_Vigilante)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/102 "2004-06-24T19:05:54Z")
My condolences. ---
**Author:** ![Greywolf73](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/d9b06d/32.png) [@Greywolf73](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Greywolf73)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/103 "2004-06-24T19:09:26Z")
My deepest condolences to you. ---
**Author:** ![LVgeogeek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/b19c9b/32.png) [@LVgeogeek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LVgeogeek)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/104 "2004-06-24T19:21:39Z")
**hlanelee** ; my deepest sympathy for your loss. As I do not know you and you do not know me except from out posts at SDMB, I do want to say that I even though I cannot imagine the pain you feel now, you and your family are in my heart & thoughts. This is a poem, that I am sure many have seen, but I like to read it when I feel down about the death of a loved one or a friend, both of which I have experienced in the last year. I do not know who wrote it so forgive there being no cite. **I’m Glad you’re in my Dash** I read of a man who stood to speak at the funeral of a friend. He referred to the dates on her tombstone from the beginning…to the end. He noted that first came her date of birth And spoke the following date with tears, But he said what mattered most of all Was the dash between those years For that dash represents all the time That she spent alive on earth… And now only those who loved her Know what that little line is worth. For it matters not, how much we own; The cars…the house…the cash, What matters is how we live and love And how we spend our dash. So think about this long and hard… Are there things you’d like to change? For you never know how much time is left, That can still be rearranged. If we could just slow down enough To consider what’s true and real, And always try to understand The way other people feel. And be less quick to anger, And show appreciation more And love the people in our lives Like we’ve never loved before. If we treat each other with respect, And more often wear a smile… Remembering that this special dash Might only last a little while! So, when your eulogy’s being read With your life’s actions to rehash… Would you be proud of the things they say About how you spent your dash?. I am glad that you’re part of my dash. -Becki ---
**Author:** ![DaToad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@DaToad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DaToad)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/105 "2004-06-24T19:26:17Z")
**hlanelee** , I’m sorry to hear of your loss. I send you and your family my warmest thoughts and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![Noone\_Special](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/noone_special/32/2863_2.png) [@Noone\_Special](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Noone_Special)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/106 "2004-06-24T19:36:35Z")
My condolences on your loss, **hlanelee**. May you know no more sorrow. ---
**Author:** ![carimwc](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ac8455/32.png) [@carimwc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carimwc)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/107 "2004-06-24T19:36:36Z")
I’m so very sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![World\_Eater](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f04885/32.png) [@World\_Eater](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/World_Eater)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/108 "2004-06-24T19:39:01Z")
My deepest condolences go out to you. Take care of yourself, and don’t forget we’re here for you should you need any help. ---
**Author:** ![brachyrhynchos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/brachyrhynchos/32/376_2.png) [@brachyrhynchos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brachyrhynchos)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/109 "2004-06-24T19:44:49Z")
☹ hlanelee, I am so very sorry. I wish I had the words to express myself better. My condolences. Lisa ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/110 "2004-06-24T19:58:51Z")
I’m so _very_ sorry. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Liberal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/848f3c/32.png) [@Liberal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Liberal)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/111 "2004-06-24T20:00:13Z")
God go with you, Hlanelee. Is there anything we can do to help comfort you? ---
**Author:** ![TroubleAgain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e480ec/32.png) [@TroubleAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroubleAgain)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/112 "2004-06-24T20:09:00Z")
hlanelee, I’m so sorry. I dreamt once I lost my husband. I couldn’t believe the hurt and pain I felt. I’m so sorry you’re feeling it for real! ---
**Author:** ![Aldebaran](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Aldebaran](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aldebaran)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/113 "2004-06-24T20:48:49Z")
My most sincere condolences. Going through a similar situation right now I can come in to how you must feel. Salaam. A ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/114 "2004-06-24T21:14:10Z")
My sincere condolances. Nothing that I say will lessen the pain, but know that you are in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![t-keela](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a3d4f5/32.png) [@t-keela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/t-keela)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/115 "2004-06-24T21:15:30Z")
My lord, what a week it’s been. I am so incredibly sorry to know you’re suffering this tragedy. Please believe me when I say you’re loved by us here and if there is anything you’d like to express we’re here for you. Write me if you like, I’ll even send you my telephone number if you would like to talk sometime. I’m not sure where you live (my brain’s kinda numb too) but since we’re sort of in the same boat I’ll help you get through this if there’s anyway I can help. I’m so sad it’s beyond words but at the same time I’m grateful to have had her as long as I did. It was a wonderful marriage with true love between us which never failed. Honeymooners 'til the end… Take care **hlanelee** and remember the good things. Never dwell on the other and never say what if…no good can come of it. If Connie was like my Therese, she wouldn’t want you to suffer. Hold that love close and share it with all who care. regards, Jay G. ---
**Author:** ![rowrrbazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rowrrbazzle/32/414_2.png) [@rowrrbazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rowrrbazzle)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/116 "2004-06-24T21:21:53Z")
My deepest condolences. ---
**Author:** ![Algernon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a183cd/32.png) [@Algernon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Algernon)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/117 "2004-06-24T21:31:08Z")
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish there was more that could be said or done in these circumstances. As I sympathize with you **hlanelee** and **t-keela** for your respective losses, I feel so inadequate. You and your loved ones are in my thoughts and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![\_Deep\_F\_ied](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/_/7cd45c/32.png) [@\_Deep\_F\_ied](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_Deep_F_ied)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/118 "2004-06-24T22:00:41Z")
My deepest sypmpathies for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![NinjaChick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/71c47a/32.png) [@NinjaChick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinjaChick)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2004, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/119 "2004-06-24T22:22:10Z")
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Please, take care of yourself, as hard as it may be. ---
**Author:** ![porcupine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ac91a4/32.png) [@porcupine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/porcupine)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2004, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-died-this-afternoon/251939/120 "2004-06-25T03:35:07Z")
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