# My wife has Bipolar 2 Disorder... and I need to vent/whine

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**Created:** [June 23, 2022, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-bipolar-2-disorder-and-i-need-to-vent-whine/966680 "2022-06-23T15:17:56Z")\
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**Author:** ![DavidNRockies](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/davidnrockies/32/6279_2.png) [@DavidNRockies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DavidNRockies)\
**Post date:** [June 23, 2022, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-bipolar-2-disorder-and-i-need-to-vent-whine/966680/16 "2022-06-23T22:47:40Z")

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May I ask you – if I promise I’m not being even the slightest bit judgmental – if Bipolar 2 Disorder was ‘the asshole’ you pitted back here (at least, as you see it now) ?

> [@I pit the asshole who drugged my wife](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-pit-the-asshole-who-drugged-my-wife/943791):
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> Last Wednesday, my wife went to a bar in a nearby major city to see a band she likes. She went with some friends, but they flaked on her and left early. She stayed because she enjoyed the music. I didn’t go because I had an early trip on Thursday morning. (I drive a motorcoach for a charter company. I can’t just be drowsy at work and muscle through it. People could die.) When she left home on Wednesday evening, everything was fine. She was cheerful, pleased to be going out with friends, a…

I remembered that you posted that.

I’m sick. I had an adverse drug reaction that turned my athletic heart into a fibrotic (scar tissue) stiff bag that doesn’t work well, and isn’t slated to work for that much longer. I’m on borrowed time and my quality of life is nil.

And I had a pretty good life once upon a time.

And maybe the worst thing about watching my life slip away before my eyes … is … knowing that my wife is collateral damage. I can’t help that, and I can’t help her. And I can’t help _her_ feelings of helplessness.

The entire thing just sucks.

I _think_ I manage my emotions pretty well, but – because I’m not really battling _mental_ illness – I can. I’m very glad for that.

And I’m glad for that because I can’t imagine putting my wife through more than the fact of _my_ illness puts her through.

All of this is my way of saying … I’m so powerfully sorry. I hope they find a treatment regimen that either brings your beloved back to you as you remember her, or – at the very least – leaves you somebody that you find awfully damned charming and with whom you can live **far** more easily.

All the best to you both/all.

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