# My wife has died. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 21, 2018, 2:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268 "2018-02-21T14:20:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/1 "2018-02-21T14:20:35Z")
She was in declining health for several years. About two weeks ago, her blood sugar crashed(she was a diabetic) and yo-yoed up and down for two days. When it stabilized, she was foggy and unwilling to eat or drink. I finally persuaded her to go to the hospital but over the week she was there, she had, essentially, a whole system shutdown. Yesterday, I honored her wish to not be kept alive by machine. We had over 37 years of good(with a few rocky patches) times. I’ll miss you, honey. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/2 "2018-02-21T14:22:40Z")
Oh no, I am so sorry! My wife and I celebrated 30 years together last year, so I am truly horrified for you. ---
**Author:** ![iiandyiiii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/iiandyiiii/32/7924_2.png) [@iiandyiiii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iiandyiiii)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/3 "2018-02-21T14:23:15Z")
Condolences and best wishes to you and family in this difficult time. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/4 "2018-02-21T14:26:29Z")
> [@running\_coach](#): > > She was in declining health for several years. About two weeks ago, her blood sugar crashed(she was a diabetic) and yo-yoed up and down for two days. When it stabilized, she was foggy and unwilling to eat or drink. I finally persuaded her to go to the hospital but over the week she was there, she had, essentially, a whole system shutdown. > Yesterday, I honored her wish to not be kept alive by machine. > > We had over 37 years of good(with a few rocky patches) times. > I’ll miss you, honey. I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_what_you_d_expect/32/3246_2.png) [@not\_what\_you\_d\_expect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_what_you_d_expect)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/5 "2018-02-21T14:26:48Z")
Oh running coach, I’m so sorry. Take care of yourself. I hope your memories will bring you comfort. And may she RIP. ---
**Author:** ![Northern\_Piper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/northern_piper/32/5304_2.png) [@Northern\_Piper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Northern_Piper)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/6 "2018-02-21T14:27:18Z")
My deepest condolences, **running coach**. Big internet hug: {{{{{{{ **running coach** }}}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Crotalus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crotalus/32/41_2.png) [@Crotalus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crotalus)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/7 "2018-02-21T14:27:45Z")
I’m so sorry, coach. ---
**Author:** ![Annie-Xmas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecc23a/32.png) [@Annie-Xmas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Annie-Xmas)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/8 "2018-02-21T14:28:10Z")
Very very sorry to hear this. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/9 "2018-02-21T14:28:38Z")
I am so sorry, my friend. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/10 "2018-02-21T14:29:56Z")
My God have mercy, that’s awful. I am so sorry for your loss. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![nonacetone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nonacetone/32/2819_2.png) [@nonacetone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nonacetone)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/11 "2018-02-21T14:32:35Z")
I’m so sorry. I send you, and yours, my most sincere condolences. May you find peace. ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/12 "2018-02-21T14:36:36Z")
I am sorry to hear this, RC. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/13 "2018-02-21T14:37:08Z")
I am sad to hear that, **running coach**. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/14 "2018-02-21T14:38:53Z")
I am so very, very sorry. May her memory be a blessing. Treat yourself kindly. ---
**Author:** ![MacCat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/maccat/32/216_2.png) [@MacCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MacCat)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/15 "2018-02-21T14:40:01Z")
> [@running\_coach](#): > > Yesterday, I honored her wish to not be kept alive by machine. A most loving act. > [@](#): > > We had over 37 years of good(with a few rocky patches) times. > I’ll miss you, honey. Sincerest condolences. May the memories of those good times ease your grieving. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/16 "2018-02-21T14:42:33Z")
What a terrible experience for you to have, **running coach**. My heart breaks for you. Please let us know if you need anything. Peace to you. ---
**Author:** ![ElvisL1ves](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/5daacb/32.png) [@ElvisL1ves](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ElvisL1ves)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/17 "2018-02-21T14:45:11Z")
I am stunned and saddened to learn the news, **running coach**. We’re thinking of you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/18 "2018-02-21T14:49:43Z")
Sad to learn of this RC. Take care of yourself. I don’t know what it is like to lose a spouse. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/19 "2018-02-21T14:51:35Z")
Thanks, everyone. The past year has been especially rough as her decline accelerated. Even when you know it’s coming, _it hurts._ ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [February 21, 2018, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268/20 "2018-02-21T14:54:04Z")
My heart is breaking for you. ☹ [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-has-died/809268.md?page=2)