# My wife is banned from Facebook **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 26, 2023, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223 "2023-04-26T19:38:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Hari\_Seldon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hari_seldon/32/5173_2.png) [@Hari\_Seldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hari_Seldon)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/1 "2023-04-26T19:38:52Z")
She was reading her feed as usual one day last week and there was an item that it was international banana day. Since she was planning on bananes flambées for desert, she added a comment that she was about to flame a few of them. She was immediately banned. She protested; the ban was lifted and then eventually reinstated and appears to be permanent. Obviously whoever moderates FB are nothing at all like our superb moderators (whom I got to know somewhat during my brief stint and I know how seriously they take their jobs). ---
**Author:** ![Sage\_Rat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sage_rat/32/399_2.png) [@Sage\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sage_Rat)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/2 "2023-04-26T19:44:36Z")
I previously created a GD thread, arguing that one of the great issues with the big social sites is that they’re trying to cut corners on moderation by automating everything rather than having real humans do it. ---
**Author:** ![Walken\_After\_Midnight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/b487fb/32.png) [@Walken\_After\_Midnight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Walken_After_Midnight)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/3 "2023-04-26T19:54:27Z")
> [@Sage\_Rat](#): > > …they’re trying to cut corners on moderation by automating everything rather than having real humans do it. > [@Hari\_Seldon](#): > > Since she was planning on bananes flambées for **desert** … Maybe they read it literally and thought she was planning on leaving Facebook anyway? ---
**Author:** ![gnoitall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bb73d2/32.png) [@gnoitall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gnoitall)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/4 "2023-04-26T19:56:53Z")
Threatening to flame sounds bannable to me. 🤣 But more seriously, I think unprovoked bans on FB has become a meme since the beginning of the Musk era. The AI is botchy and there aren’t enough intelligent humans left to restrain it. ---
**Author:** ![Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba9def/32.png) [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Just_Asking_Questions)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/5 "2023-04-26T20:24:30Z")
And yet…I report people for actual threats of violence, and all I get back from FB is “this does not violate our community standards”. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/6 "2023-04-26T20:38:35Z")
Musk has nothing to do with Facebook. ---
**Author:** ![gnoitall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bb73d2/32.png) [@gnoitall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gnoitall)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 8:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/7 "2023-04-26T20:40:28Z")
Ok, now I’m embarrassed by my complete lack of exposure to the modern social media world. In my mind, they’re all the same. But practically speaking, it would be extraordinary for Musk to have any impact on a company he doesn’t own. But the “bodgy AI and insufficient human oversight” part holds. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/8 "2023-04-26T20:53:31Z")
No worries. But yeah, humans can manage a message board with a few hundred active members. Facebook has what, half a billion? ---
**Author:** ![JeffB](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jeffb/32/188_2.png) [@JeffB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JeffB)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/9 "2023-04-26T21:21:54Z")
Try 2.96 billion users. ---
**Author:** ![Shoeless](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shoeless/32/7099_2.png) [@Shoeless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shoeless)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/10 "2023-04-26T21:31:20Z")
> [@gnoitall](#): > > Threatening to flame sounds bannable to me. 🤣 In this case wouldn’t that be “bananable”? 😅 ---
**Author:** ![Hari\_Seldon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hari_seldon/32/5173_2.png) [@Hari\_Seldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hari_Seldon)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/11 "2023-04-26T22:01:27Z")
> [@gnoitall](#): > > Threatening to flame sounds bannable to me. No, it’s bananable. Sorry about the “desert”. Speling was never my strong point. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/12 "2023-04-26T22:10:23Z")
Well that made me laugh out loud!!☺🍌 ---
**Author:** ![crowmanyclouds](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crowmanyclouds/32/19884_2.png) [@crowmanyclouds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/crowmanyclouds)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/13 "2023-04-26T22:14:51Z")
While I have no evidence that this is the reason but, There, in some cases, is a particular usage similarity with banana, coconut, apple, Twinkie, and Oreo and saying you intend to ‘flame’ them might get automatically flagged. ---
**Author:** ![Walken\_After\_Midnight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/b487fb/32.png) [@Walken\_After\_Midnight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Walken_After_Midnight)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 10:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/14 "2023-04-26T22:27:48Z")
While flaming occurs on Facebook, it seems that instances of “self-reported flaming”, such as committed by your wife, are uncommon: > [@](#): > > In this study, flaming on Facebook is examined. > > … > > Flaming is defined as hostile posts (for example swearing, name-calling, insulting or otherwise offensive language) against another user (personal attacks) or his or her ideas in online communication. The results show that flaming occurs on Facebook, but self-reported flaming is low. Flaming was mostly seen on discussion sites (open groups or sites on Facebook). Moreover it was found that Facebook users have a negative attitude towards flaming on Facebook. [Flaming on Facebook - University of Twente Student Theses](https://essay.utwente.nl/62439/#:~:text=Flaming%20is%20defined%20as%20hostile,her%20ideas%20in%20online%20communication). ---
**Author:** ![Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba9def/32.png) [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Just_Asking_Questions)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2023, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/15 "2023-04-26T22:33:11Z")
On FB I have told someone to fuck off in both English and Spanish, called people idiots, morons, stupid, traitors, questioned their parentage, used numerous derogatory names for those of the republican persuasion, and never got a peep from FB. But I implied a female poster was ugly, and I got admonished and the post hidden within a minute. Can’t be damaging people’s self-esteem! ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2023, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/16 "2023-04-27T00:57:51Z")
A friend on FB posted a time travel joke. I commented ‘I would like to go back in time and shoot my grandfather. I do not have anything against him. I am just VERY curious as to what would happen’. He laughed. So did a few other readers. Then, FB hid my comment and told me it violated community standards. ---
**Author:** ![frognot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/frognot/32/8752_2.png) [@frognot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/frognot)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2023, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/17 "2023-04-30T02:44:51Z")
This one time at banned camp . . . there was this banana cream pie . . . ---
**Author:** ![cincinnatus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cincinnatus/32/7990_2.png) [@cincinnatus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cincinnatus)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2023, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/18 "2023-04-30T03:05:00Z")
> [@Larry\_Borgia](#): > > No worries. But yeah, humans can manage a message board with a few hundred active members. Facebook has what, half a billion? Clearly we should not grant Facebook any leeway for not having enough people to do a decent job. A good business stops taking new customers when the current number cannot be adequately supported. ---
**Author:** ![da\_pope](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ba0ec/32.png) [@da\_pope](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/da_pope)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2023, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/19 "2023-04-30T03:15:52Z")
re: Facebook You’re not the customer. You’re the product. ---
**Author:** ![I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/i_love_me_vol.i/32/521_2.png) [@I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/I_Love_Me_Vol.I)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2023, 5:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223/20 "2023-04-30T05:21:35Z")
Ban Anna? What’s your wife’s name? 🤑 [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-banned-from-facebook/983223.md?page=2)