# My wife is dying \[Edited: RIP\] **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 10, 2020, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745 "2020-08-10T21:42:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 11
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/201 "2020-08-21T00:36:53Z")
I’m so sorry. Take care. ---
**Author:** ![swampspruce](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampspruce/32/261_2.png) [@swampspruce](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampspruce)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/202 "2020-08-21T02:56:07Z")
My deepest condolences. ---
**Author:** ![elfkin477](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a9a28c/32.png) [@elfkin477](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfkin477)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/203 "2020-08-21T03:38:22Z")
Oh, Silenus, I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Infovore](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/infovore/32/420_2.png) [@Infovore](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Infovore)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/204 "2020-08-21T03:47:00Z")
I’m so sorry for your loss, **silenus**. ---
**Author:** ![Guy\_Incognito](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guy_incognito/32/3920_2.png) [@Guy\_Incognito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guy_Incognito)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/205 "2020-08-21T03:56:09Z")
Oh God, I’m so sorry. Her fight is over and she is at rest. See to yourself and your loved ones and please accept my sincere condolences. ---
**Author:** ![Kron](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kron/32/12444_2.png) [@Kron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kron)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/206 "2020-08-21T04:00:50Z")
My absolutely inadequate condolences, **silenus**. ---
**Author:** ![LegendsofClear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/77aa72/32.png) [@LegendsofClear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LegendsofClear)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/207 "2020-08-21T04:02:52Z")
That’s heavy man, I’m sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![TRC4941](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trc4941/32/6792_2.png) [@TRC4941](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TRC4941)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/208 "2020-08-21T13:43:53Z")
I wish you and your family peace. 💐 Don’t let anyone tell you how you should grieve. You do whatever you need to do. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/209 "2020-08-21T14:19:46Z")
**silenus** : I still have no words. You’re in my thoughts, and I wish you peace. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/210 "2020-08-21T15:33:14Z")
My deepest condolences and my wishes for peace for yourself and your family, **silenus**. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/211 "2020-08-21T20:25:46Z")
I’m so, so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/212 "2020-08-21T20:52:02Z")
I’m sorry, Man. You’ve always been one of my favorites. I’ll have a little home-brew for the both of you. Please take care of yourself. ---
**Author:** ![thorny\_locust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thorny_locust/32/431_2.png) [@thorny\_locust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thorny_locust)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 9:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/213 "2020-08-21T21:15:25Z")
I hope you can find some comfort in the love of your family, friends, and cats. And the love that you and your wife made between you still exists in the world, even though one of you has left it. And yes: grieve any way you need to. ---
**Author:** ![brachyrhynchos](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/brachyrhynchos/32/376_2.png) [@brachyrhynchos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brachyrhynchos)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/214 "2020-08-21T21:33:27Z")
I wish you peace silenus. ---
**Author:** ![velomont](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/8491ac/32.png) [@velomont](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/velomont)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/215 "2020-08-21T23:40:09Z")
So sorry to hear of your loss silenus. It’s a horrible thing to have to go through. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2020, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/216 "2020-08-21T23:49:28Z")
I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Kent\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kent_clark/32/105_2.png) [@Kent\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kent_Clark)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2020, 12:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/217 "2020-08-22T00:40:11Z")
So sorry, **silenus** ---
**Author:** ![Face\_Intentionally\_Left\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/face_intentionally_left_blank/32/288_2.png) [@Face\_Intentionally\_Left\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Face_Intentionally_Left_Blank)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2020, 4:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/218 "2020-08-22T04:59:46Z")
No words I know can ever help, but in the absence of ones that do, let me just say that I am truly sorry for your loss. Joy seems so transitory, and pain so deep and lasting. ---
**Author:** ![DesertDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/desertdog/32/11503_2.png) [@DesertDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DesertDog)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2020, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/219 "2020-08-22T15:31:06Z")
Went on a trip to Grand Canyon this week. Got rear-ended but no injuries beyond a gimpy ankle – his car rolled but still no injuries but a bump on the head. On the way back home the dog-sitter calls to say the A/C has quit. No replacement possible before Wednesday. Then I open the Dope for the first time in five days, and it all becomes inconsequential. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [August 22, 2020, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/220 "2020-08-22T18:26:37Z")
Update: The raw panic has subsided. The sheer avalanche of support I’ve gotten from Dopers, Raffers, fellow teachers, former students and random strangers has been almost overwhelming (in a GOOD way!) We managed to get all the semi-valuable or sentimental stuff out of the storage units, so Goodwill will get the rest and I won’t have that to worry about. It’ll be a year before I can park in my garage again, but what are ya gonna do? Weird dreams last night, combining two of my stressors: Started out not knowing where the class was I signed up to teach, then ended up chasing my wife all over campus, just missing here everywhere. Job stress and feelings of abandonment combined. Oh, joy. Then the cats snuggled close and I relaxed a bit. Whoever said that I would have every emotion possible, in the most inappropriate way/time possible spoke wisdom. I KNOW I haven’t even remotely come to grips with this, no matter how calm my demeanor during the day. I know I will see her on the Other Side one day, and that gives me some peace. One day at a time, my boy. One day at a time. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745.md?page=10) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745.md?page=12)