# My wife is dying \[Edited: RIP\] **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 10, 2020, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745 "2020-08-10T21:42:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [August 12, 2020, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/121 "2020-08-12T23:35:54Z")
Just checked in here for the first time in awhile. Silenus, I’m so sorry to hear this news. You and your wife are in my prayers: may her passing be gentle, and may you find comfort. And by all means grieve how and when grief hits you. It will. ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2020, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/122 "2020-08-13T02:00:14Z")
Take gentle care of yourself, silenius. May you both find peace ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2020, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/123 "2020-08-18T13:22:01Z")
Thinking of you, **silenus**. ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2020, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/124 "2020-08-18T13:39:49Z")
There’s nothing I can say that won’t sound cliché, but you have my condolences. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2020, 2:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/125 "2020-08-18T14:15:32Z")
Stating the obvious, it’s been a week since she was expected to last a day. With no communication from @silenus since this sounds like “Overdue and presumed lost”. We’re here to help when you’re ready for us. ---
**Author:** ![asahi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asahi/32/8693_2.png) [@asahi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/asahi)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2020, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/126 "2020-08-18T14:19:14Z")
Ditto what LSLGuy said. No rush, but when ready. ---
**Author:** ![ricksummon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ricksummon/32/3333_2.png) [@ricksummon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ricksummon)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2020, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/127 "2020-08-18T14:29:03Z")
I offer my sincere condolences and prayers in your time of need. ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2020, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/128 "2020-08-18T14:38:12Z")
As do I. Keep your chin up, **silenus** , and know that there are many, many Dopers in your corner. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2020, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/129 "2020-08-18T15:30:43Z")
She is still hanging in there. Everybody including the doctors expected her to pass last week, but she is very stubborn and will go when she is damn well ready to, and not a minute before. No hope of recovery, and before too long even the strongest person will not be able to keep things at bay. At least they have moved her out of ICU and into a quieter room, and are allowing us visitation rights.So her sister and I go every day, hold her hands and try to tell her not to worry about things. Then we go home and cry a lot. At least the cats will keep me from being totally alone in the house after family goes back home. Thank you all for your prayers and support. It means a lot. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2020, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/130 "2020-08-18T15:39:42Z")
Thank you, silenus. I hope she is comfortable. ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2020, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/131 "2020-08-18T15:46:05Z")
Treasure these last moments, as painful as they are. We will be here for you when you need us, and when you are ready to be here. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2020, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/132 "2020-08-18T16:04:09Z")
> [@silenus](#): > > At least they have moved her out of ICU and into a quieter room, and are allowing us visitation rights. I’m thankful you have this. ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2020, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/133 "2020-08-18T17:59:47Z")
Wishing you strength in her and your hours of need. ---
**Author:** ![MikeG](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mikeg/32/4329_2.png) [@MikeG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MikeG)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2020, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/134 "2020-08-18T18:51:50Z")
I’m thinking you both every day. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2020, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/135 "2020-08-18T19:30:22Z")
You’re in my thoughts as well. So happy y’all are getting to be with her. ---
**Author:** ![ratatoskK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ratatoskk/32/2987_2.png) [@ratatoskK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ratatoskK)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2020, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/136 "2020-08-19T00:00:19Z")
Thinking of you. Peace. ---
**Author:** ![Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mean_mr.mustard/32/3865_2.png) [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mean_Mr.Mustard)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2020, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/137 "2020-08-19T01:24:38Z")
This may be the saddest thread title I’ve ever seen, it stopped me cold. So very sorry this is happening, **Silenus**. Wishing you strength. mmm ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2020, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/138 "2020-08-19T01:25:57Z")
> [@Broomstick](#): > > Treasure these last moments, as painful as they are. This. I am so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Die\_Capacitrix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/die_capacitrix/32/9_2.png) [@Die\_Capacitrix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Die_Capacitrix)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2020, 5:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/139 "2020-08-19T05:37:47Z")
> [@silenus](#): > > are allowing us visitation rights This. So very important. Glad to have a bit of light in these dark days. Thinking of you. ---
**Author:** ![dalej42](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@dalej42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dalej42)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2020, 6:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-dying-edited-rip/917745/140 "2020-08-19T06:37:03Z")
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