# my wife is leaving **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 5, 2009, 8:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402 "2009-08-05T08:43:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 9
**Author:** ![Stauderhorse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce7236/32.png) [@Stauderhorse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stauderhorse)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 1:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/161 "2009-08-06T13:26:59Z")
I’m damned sorry about this, **Skald**. You are a valuable poster here and I know you’ll pull through this all right. Take care. ---
**Author:** ![Mama\_Zappa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/71e660/32.png) [@Mama\_Zappa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mama_Zappa)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/162 "2009-08-06T14:08:48Z")
Dammit, dammit, dammit. This really, really sucks ☹ Is stepdaughter going with mother? (I forget how old SD is and whether she still lives with you). ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/163 "2009-08-06T14:26:30Z")
> [@Mama\_Zappa](#): > > Dammit, dammit, dammit. This really, really sucks ☹ > > Is stepdaughter going with mother? (I forget how old SD is and whether she still lives with you). If I remember correctly, SD is from a previous relationship; not Kim’s daughter. ---
**Author:** ![black\_rabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f19dbf/32.png) [@black\_rabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/black_rabbit)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/164 "2009-08-06T14:45:11Z")
Kim’s in her early twenties, right? Religion, a messed up family, youth, and a touch of the cray-cray are not a good combo. It’s taken me a while to realize this. Be glad you’re rid of her. ---
**Author:** ![Carl\_Corey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Carl\_Corey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carl_Corey)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/165 "2009-08-06T15:02:53Z")
I’m really sorry that you are going through this, **Skald**. ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/166 "2009-08-06T15:24:51Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > I feel sick. I’ve never had a hangover before; do they generally last all day? The particularly splendid ones can, yes. They’re generally some combination of dehydration + alcohol withdrawal + alcohol poisoning. So, the best way to deal with them is lots of water + possibly a small hair of the dog + sleep through as much of it as you can. ---
**Author:** ![WolfpackJeep](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wolfpackjeep/32/2921_2.png) [@WolfpackJeep](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WolfpackJeep)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/167 "2009-08-06T16:51:08Z")
Aww, **Skald**. ☹ Take care of yourself now, OK? You’ll be in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![alexandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e68b1a/32.png) [@alexandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alexandra)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/168 "2009-08-06T17:08:38Z")
I’m so sorry - you poor guy. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Cosmopolitan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/94ad74/32.png) [@Cosmopolitan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cosmopolitan)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/169 "2009-08-06T17:22:22Z")
I’m sorry about this… Perhaps if you’re both willing, counseling could be helpful. Even if she won’t go, it might be good for you. Either way, I wish you luck. ---
**Author:** ![CarnalK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnalk/32/486_2.png) [@CarnalK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CarnalK)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/170 "2009-08-06T18:36:10Z")
> [@black\_rabbit](#): > > Kim’s in her early twenties, right? > > Religion, a messed up family, youth, and a touch of the cray-cray are not a good combo. It’s taken me a while to realize this. Be glad you’re rid of her. Agreed. But I thought it was [Beth](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=393619) [the](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=392182) [Rhymer](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=417400)\* not Kim the Rhymer. \*links provided by Kimmy\_Gibbler on page 3 ---
**Author:** ![Mama\_Zappa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/71e660/32.png) [@Mama\_Zappa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mama_Zappa)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/171 "2009-08-06T18:45:10Z")
> [@black\_rabbit](#): > > Kim’s in her early twenties, right? > > Religion, a messed up family, youth, and a touch of the cray-cray are not a good combo. It’s taken me a while to realize this. Be glad you’re rid of her. :rolleyes: Need some Charmin Ultra? ---
**Author:** ![black\_rabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f19dbf/32.png) [@black\_rabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/black_rabbit)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/172 "2009-08-06T19:04:58Z")
> [@CarnalK](#): > > Agreed. But I thought it was [Beth](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=393619) [the](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=392182) [Rhymer](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=417400)\* not Kim the Rhymer. > \*links provided by Kimmy\_Gibbler on page 3 Oops. For some reason I got confused about the name. > [@Mama\_Zappa](#): > > :rolleyes: > Need some Charmin Ultra? What, because I advised a grown man to make a clean break from his relationship with much younger woman who also happens to be a religious nutcase? ---
**Author:** ![devilsknew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/4da419/32.png) [@devilsknew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/devilsknew)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/173 "2009-08-06T19:51:04Z")
Sorry, about this **Mag Creature**. It’s gonna be tough… don’t jump into anything, keep your head straight, try not to wallow, give it some time. It’s gonna leave a hole, be careful how you fill it. ---
**Author:** ![BwanaBob](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bwanabob/32/2985_2.png) [@BwanaBob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BwanaBob)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/174 "2009-08-06T19:52:25Z")
Strength to you. Be easy on yourself. ---
**Author:** ![2gigch1](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/2gigch1/32/3313_2.png) [@2gigch1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/2gigch1)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/175 "2009-08-06T20:52:35Z")
Sir; you don’t know me and I don’t know you but you have my heartfelt condolances nevertheless. Unasked for advice forthcoming: If you can save your marriage by all means try to do so. If you cannot be prepared to protect yourself. Unfortunately that means legal counsel. It is nice to be nice but you do have to be smart. (As a side note I tried to be nice when this happened to me in the last two years - but I also retained legal counsel. Thank goodness I did because when it all began to fall apart I was protected.) Be good to yourself and be careful. Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![ratatoskK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ratatoskk/32/2987_2.png) [@ratatoskK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ratatoskK)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/176 "2009-08-06T22:06:13Z")
I’m so sorry to hear about this, really sorry. Good luck and be strong. ---
**Author:** ![Apollyon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/apollyon/32/4238_2.png) [@Apollyon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Apollyon)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 11:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/177 "2009-08-06T23:01:33Z")
Just another Doper who enjoys your posts and thinks of you as someone with a good heart and pleasantly impish sense of humour. Good luck **Skald**. Re: hangovers – yep, there’s a point where they shade over into alcohol poisoning. Had that once after a good friend’s wake. Unfun. ---
**Author:** ![Silver\_Tyger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/fbc32d/32.png) [@Silver\_Tyger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Silver_Tyger)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2009, 4:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/178 "2009-08-07T04:49:23Z")
I know we haven’t talked in a while, and I’m not about to put down your wife because, well, she has issues and she’s in a bad place. I will offer some advice: find people to talk to. Not just people who will take your side, but preferably somebody who knows both sides and can be somewhat objective. I know you’re a good enough person to listen to them. (and getting drunk again is probably not a good idea. Do something physical and exhausting.) ((hugs)) ---
**Author:** ![mudkicker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d6d6ee/32.png) [@mudkicker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mudkicker)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2009, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/179 "2009-08-07T15:03:08Z")
Aw Skald. You’re one of my favourite posters here. When I read the thread title I went to click on it, then saw it was by you and was shocked. Your thread about Kim being harassed at work was the first one I ever read on the Dope, and I was so impressed by how you stepped back and let her handle it. Not much else to say here except [[[[hugs]]]]. xx ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2009, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402/180 "2009-08-08T02:45:28Z")
I’m so sorry, **Skald**. I thought you were kidding (why you’d kid about that, I don’t know - brain fart on my part). Hang in there, dude, and use us as much for support as you can. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402.md?page=8) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-is-leaving/505402.md?page=10)