# My wife poisoned my tadpoles :( **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 12, 2014, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337 "2014-08-12T00:58:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_great_unwashed/32/4791_2.png) [@The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Great_Unwashed)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/82 "2014-08-13T17:46:40Z")
> [@spudbucket](#): > > This whole situation has everything to do with communication (or lack thereof) and spinning it as an irrational ignorance makes little sense. Do y’all have different versions of the OP than I have? > [@](#): > > Man, she is just angry as hell saying I brought it on myself bringing “crapow” in the house twice brining a blight on us. If you came home one day to find that your wife had left some fried liver in the kitchen and you angrily fed it to the neighbour’s dog you would find my support of your actions completely absent. ---
**Author:** ![spudbucket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85e7bf/32.png) [@spudbucket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spudbucket)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/83 "2014-08-13T17:52:35Z")
> [@The\_Great\_Unwashed](#): > > Do y’all have different versions of the OP than I have? I have the one where the OP was asked by his wife to take the tadpoles out of the house and he brought them back in. > [@The\_Great\_Unwashed](#): > > If you came home one day to find that your wife had left some fried liver in the kitchen and you angrily fed it to the neighbour’s dog you would find my support of your actions completely absent. OK. Fair enough. But the point was that my wife doesn’t put me in the position of dealing with something I prefer not to deal with. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/84 "2014-08-13T18:07:46Z")
> [@spudbucket](#): > > I have the one where the OP was asked by his wife to take the tadpoles out of the house and he brought them back in. > . And then destroyed something he wanted because of that. If she got really mad at him, yelled at him, took the bucket back again it’d be fine. She destroyed something he wanted. Seems petty and vindictive, to me. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_great_unwashed/32/4791_2.png) [@The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Great_Unwashed)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/85 "2014-08-13T18:20:07Z")
> [@spudbucket](#): > > OK. Fair enough. But the point was that my wife doesn’t put me in the position of dealing with something I prefer not to deal with. And my point is, were she to put you in such a position _inadvertently_, and were you to respond like a “smug pompous control freak”, and were she to post about the event here, I would say that I disapproved of your behaviour. I bet you one whole million virtual pounds sterling that you’d agree with me. I don’t think mrs grupe gets a free pass because she allows herself to be entertained by bizarro beliefs in froggie-voodoo. ---
**Author:** ![spudbucket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85e7bf/32.png) [@spudbucket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spudbucket)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 6:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/86 "2014-08-13T18:22:15Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > And then destroyed something he wanted because of that. If she got really mad at him, yelled at him, took the bucket back again it’d be fine. She destroyed something he wanted. Seems petty and vindictive, to me. Because she thought (as reported by grude) he was trying to gross her out. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/87 "2014-08-13T18:25:18Z")
> [@spudbucket](#): > > Because she thought (as reported by grude) he was trying to gross her out. Right. She can be as mad as she wants. She doesn’t get to destroy other people’s things. ---
**Author:** ![spudbucket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85e7bf/32.png) [@spudbucket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spudbucket)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/88 "2014-08-13T18:28:35Z")
> [@The\_Great\_Unwashed](#): > > And my point is, were she to put you in such a position _inadvertently_, and were you to respond like a “smug pompous control freak”, and were she to post about the event here, I would say that I disapproved of your behaviour. > > I bet you one whole million virtual pounds sterling that you’d agree with me. > > I don’t think mrs grupe gets a free pass because she allows herself to be entertained by bizarro beliefs in froggie-voodoo. And I’m on record as saying that she could have handled it better. See upstream. And I would agree with your disapproval of my hypothetical behavior (albeit without the “smug pompous control freak” part, doesn’t seem like there is enough context in the OP to characterize it like that). Also to be clear, I’m not saying that mrs grupe gets a free pass but simply that the reason behind her preference to keep tadpoles out of the house is largely irrelevant. ---
**Author:** ![spudbucket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85e7bf/32.png) [@spudbucket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spudbucket)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/89 "2014-08-13T18:34:48Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > Right. She can be as mad as she wants. She doesn’t get to destroy other people’s things. Agreed…but [you knew there had to be a but] 1) not such a big deal (as some were highlighting upstream) as questioning continuing to share a bed and 2) the reason behind why she was upset is a bit of red herring. It doesn’t really matter (in the context of grude’s life) whether her preference to keep tadpoles out was based on double-blind scientific studies or superstition. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_great_unwashed/32/4791_2.png) [@The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Great_Unwashed)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/90 "2014-08-13T18:42:21Z")
> [@spudbucket](#): > > … the reason behind her preference to keep tadpoles out of the house is largely irrelevant. Fair enough. You seem like a reasonable guy (no sarcasm intended). I hope in turn that you will acknowledge that my first post on this thread spoke only of her actions and not of her motivations, which only came into play when someone offered them as mitigation. So where are we? Oh yeah… If it’s not about mrs grupes irrational ignorance then what are we left with? That she is disrespectful of her husband’s desires (and property), and will cruelly destroy other living things to make her point? I don’t see how the case for the defence has improved. ---
**Author:** ![spudbucket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85e7bf/32.png) [@spudbucket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spudbucket)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/91 "2014-08-13T18:53:28Z")
> [@The\_Great\_Unwashed](#): > > So where are we? Oh yeah… > > If it’s not about mrs grupes irrational ignorance then what are we left with? That she is disrespectful of her husband’s desires (and property), and will cruelly destroy other living things to make her point? > > I don’t see how the case for the defence has improved. I guess to put in these terms I would say that both grude and mrs grude were disrespectful towards each other’s desires. His desire to watch tadpoles grow and hers to keep tadpoles out of the house. ---
**Author:** ![spudbucket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85e7bf/32.png) [@spudbucket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spudbucket)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/92 "2014-08-13T18:55:49Z")
> [@The\_Great\_Unwashed](#): > > Fair enough. You seem like a reasonable guy (no sarcasm intended). I hope in turn that you will acknowledge that my first post on this thread spoke only of her actions and not of her motivations, which only came into play when someone offered them as mitigation. Thanks…you seem reasonable as well and your first post was about her action BUT you did use the term “pompous control freak” which seems a bit unwarranted based on the OP. ---
**Author:** ![spudbucket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85e7bf/32.png) [@spudbucket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spudbucket)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/93 "2014-08-13T18:58:03Z")
> [@spudbucket](#): > > Thanks…you seem reasonable as well and your first post was about her action BUT you did use the term “pompous control freak” which seems a bit unwarranted based on the OP. oops…sorry, i see that you were referring a previous poster who used that term, so my bad, critique withdrawn. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_great_unwashed/32/4791_2.png) [@The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Great_Unwashed)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/94 "2014-08-13T19:02:01Z")
> [@spudbucket](#): > > oops…sorry, i see that you were referring a previous poster who used that term, so my bad, critique withdrawn. That was my fault. Now let’s just hug and agree that everyone I know that lives in Trinidad (grube and his mrs) are barking mad. ---
**Author:** ![spudbucket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85e7bf/32.png) [@spudbucket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spudbucket)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/95 "2014-08-13T19:09:05Z")
> [@The\_Great\_Unwashed](#): > > That was my fault. Now let’s just hug and agree that everyone I know that lives in Trinidad (grube and his mrs) are barking mad. {{{{{{{{{{{{{ The Great Unwashed }}}}}}}}}}}}}} sniff, sniff…hmmmmm…you weren’t kidding 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Whiskey\_Dickens](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/9fc348/32.png) [@Whiskey\_Dickens](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whiskey_Dickens)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/96 "2014-08-13T19:41:11Z")
The number of people suggesting that \*\*grude \*\*see things from his wife’s perspective is shocking! Superstition should be public enemy #1 at the Straight Dope! \*\*“Fighting Ignorance since 1973”\*\*Unless it’s in your wife Then it’s OK 😛 ---
**Author:** ![spudbucket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/85e7bf/32.png) [@spudbucket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spudbucket)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/97 "2014-08-13T23:11:54Z")
> [@Whiskey\_Dickens](#): > > The number of people suggesting that \*\*grude \*\*see things from his wife’s perspective is shocking! Superstition should be public enemy #1 at the Straight Dope! But the superstitious angle is a red herring. It is about lack of communication. ---
**Author:** ![chiroptera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@chiroptera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chiroptera)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 11:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/98 "2014-08-13T23:36:03Z")
This is not about “won’t somebody think about the tadpoles.” It is about grude and his wife not understanding each other. And about how grude’s wife is as irrational as a bowl of hair about fucking tadpoles in the house, which is about as harmful as Cheerios spilled on the floor. ---
**Author:** ![DingoelGringo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9d8465/32.png) [@DingoelGringo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DingoelGringo)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/99 "2014-08-13T23:40:28Z")
> [@grude](#): > > I’m not superstitious at all, I have none. So it really only came up with her, and minor stuff like a bracelet she insisted our son wear as a new born or stuff like that. She also insisted as a baby and a toddler he not be exposed to “dew” which is drizzleing rain or mist which it is believed will make a baby or toddler sick, I kind of discounted this as not scientific but had total strangers stopping me and explaining the concept. But in a place with a rainy and dry season, which means for half the year it rains and doesn’t the other half it was almost impossible to go anywhere with your kid and not get some drizzle on you. No kidding total strangers would stop me and say hey you’re letting that baby get dew :mad:! > > [http://www.disneybaby.com/blog/baby-customs-traditions-rituals-around-world/](http://www.disneybaby.com/blog/baby-customs-traditions-rituals-around-world/) > > I basically just got into the habit of ignoring local superstitions as nonsense. > > I don’t think she did it to hurt me or make me angry at all, she just views it like she got rid of dangerous vermin I was ignoring her about. Like if I was raising cockroaches that could spread a deadly disease and kept bringing them inside. > > EDIT:Another one I remembered is she would warn me from the first time I did it not to pick up coins on the ground in public, if I saw a coin higher than a penny I’d pick it up. Apparently this is seriously bad, you’re absorbing the luck or troubles of whoever dropped it which could be horrible. I was just picking it up because it was money, and even told her in the USA people think coins you find like a penny is lucky, people will say hey lucky penny. You start out this post saying you are not superstitious at all. Everyone is in their own way.even if you don’t believe in a God of any kind I am sure you have some superstitions. ---
**Author:** ![DingoelGringo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9d8465/32.png) [@DingoelGringo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DingoelGringo)\ **Post date:** [August 13, 2014, 11:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/100 "2014-08-13T23:46:49Z")
> [@Green\_Bean](#): > > So what if he says “god bless you?” Engaging in superstitious behavior does not mean that one truly believes in magic. > > Consider the difference between these two statements: > “Frogs will bring a blight on the house.” > “In Trinidad, we have strong taboos against having frogs in the house. This bucket of tadpoles is making me feel very uncomfortable. Please take it outside and don’t bring ot back in.” The second sounds like a watered down version of what one really means and would be a lot easier to ignore and feel it wasn’t sincere. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_great_unwashed/32/4791_2.png) [@The\_Great\_Unwashed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Great_Unwashed)\ **Post date:** [August 14, 2014, 7:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337/101 "2014-08-14T07:52:22Z")
> [@DingoelGringo](#): > > You start out this post saying you are not superstitious at all. Everyone is in their own way I can only believe that that’s a superstition that you entertain, because it certainly isn’t true. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-poisoned-my-tadpoles/695337.md?page=6)