# My wife wants one thing, I want the opposite (food related) **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 28, 2011, 11:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905 "2011-02-28T11:49:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![multimediac17](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/839c29/32.png) [@multimediac17](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/multimediac17)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2011, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/101 "2011-03-02T23:17:32Z")
I just think this whole thing is a little eggstreme and nothing to get into a flap over. ---
**Author:** ![67java89](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/aeb1de/32.png) [@67java89](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/67java89)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2011, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/102 "2011-03-03T03:01:41Z")
Mmmmm, chicken ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2011, 3:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/103 "2011-03-03T03:09:57Z")
> [@Kyla](#): > > Am I the only person here who’s surprised this is genuinely about chickens? Well, its Practically about chickens…and the OP just hates thawing chickens so much, he just has to put them out of their misery… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2011, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/104 "2011-03-03T04:33:47Z")
Wow, this one even made Threadspotting. ---
**Author:** ![sandra\_nz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@sandra\_nz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sandra_nz)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2011, 8:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/105 "2011-03-03T08:28:05Z")
I fear we will never know the truth behind the GFCS2011\*. ☹ - Great Frozen Chicken Saga of 2011 ---
**Author:** ![constanze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f9ae1b/32.png) [@constanze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/constanze)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2011, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/106 "2011-03-03T14:27:35Z")
To the OP, and since it’s Cracked week: [Here’s an article](http://www.cracked.com/article_18804_the-6-wrong-questions-men-love-to-ask-about-women.html) about understanding what women mean. I direct your attention esp. to point 2, only in this case for “What do women mean when they say X”, substitute “what does my wife mean when she defrosted two chicken”. > [@](#): > > The right question (Plan A): > > “Girl, what did you mean when you said X?” > > Believe it or not, there is, in fact, no universal woman-code language. > > snip > So which one is it? Well, Plan A --and I know this is going to sound crazy – is to ask her. I’m sure that you, the socially well-adjusted Cracked reader, would have already done that, but many people will just nod in understanding at the girl and then run away to ask other people, or complain on the Internet. I’d strongly suggest Plan A, but if that goes wrong, like she’s terrible at explaining things, you might have to ask someone else. > > The right question (Plan B): > > “What did [specific girl] mean when she said X?” > > Here I would suggest asking someone – and this is going to sound crazy again – who knows her. Not someone who knows “girls,” someone who knows this girl. “What does a girl mean when she says X?” is going to get you nowhere, but “What does Sheila mean when she says X?” might actually turn up something – if you’re asking someone who knows Sheila. ---
**Author:** ![Irishman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b487fb/32.png) [@Irishman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Irishman)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2011, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/107 "2011-03-03T20:51:37Z")
Okay, so you bought specially cooked chickens, and wanted to save a couple for later. You told your wife she could defrost one if she wanted, but requested(?) she only defrost 1 and leave the other for you later. I can understand being a bit annoyed - “I specifically asked to save one!” And just because he wanted to keep one a bit longer doesn’t mean he was going to save it until December. I’m having trouble understanding why she would need to defrost 2 chickens. How big are these birds? To me, a chicken is large enough that 1 can feed a family of 4 with leftovers, I can’t imagine why you need 2. Unless they are chicken halves? I disagree with those who say that if he isn’t responsible for buying the food in general and planning all the meals, then he isn’t allowed to be annoyed. These were special food items he selected/purchased. If she had asked him, “would you like to have your special chickens tonight” that would be one thing, but just defrosting both against his request is inconsiderate. Regardless of any other behavior patterns between the two of them. Yeah, ask her, “Honey, I thought I asked you to only defrost one and save one, why did you defrost both?” Then accept her answer graciously (unless he says, “I know and I did it on purpose to annoy you - so glad it worked!”). Then calmly mention “I was hoping to save one to make it last a little longer, since they are so hard to acquire.” ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2011, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/108 "2011-03-03T21:05:52Z")
> [@Count\_Blucher](#): > > Well, its Practically about chickens…and the OP just hates thawing chickens so much, he just has to put them out of their misery… 😃 And right into ours. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2011, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/109 "2011-03-03T21:27:36Z")
> [@Irishman](#): > > I disagree with those who say that if he isn’t responsible for buying the food in general and planning all the meals, then he isn’t allowed to be annoyed. These were special food items he selected/purchased. To me, it’s _not_ a matter of he’s not ‘allowed to be annoyed’; for one thing, what you feel is what you feel. If you feel annoyance, you feel annoyance. You have a right to that. The question is, what do you _do_ with that annoyance? Well, the first thing, imho, is to _ask_ her why she chose to defrost both chickens. The OP has not addressed this at all, at this point. If he asked her, and in his estimation, her reason was, well, lame (“I just thought if I was defrosting one, I’d do them both”), then by all means, I’d say he should express his annoyance. If she had a more sound reason (“Well, they always get all mushy after a few months in the freezer, so I thought I’d defrost them both, and maybe salvage some better meat from them”), then maybe he’d better just swallow his annoyance and deal. But either way it goes, _annoyance_ is as far as it _should_ go (again, imho); in a relationship which you wish to maintain as healthy, it’s not worth _fighting_ about, which is what the OP was asking for. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2011, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/110 "2011-03-03T23:37:49Z")
So how did the chickens turn out? Were they any good? ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2011, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/111 "2011-03-03T23:41:59Z")
I bet she ate they both and didn’t share. Just like her to do that. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2011, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/112 "2011-03-03T23:45:09Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > I bet she ate they both and didn’t share. Just like her to do that. Well, at least we can’t criticize him for calling her Stone Butt now. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [March 3, 2011, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/113 "2011-03-03T23:47:31Z")
Sooooo, like, where is **Superhal**? Hello? Bueller? ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2011, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/114 "2011-03-04T00:04:12Z")
He won’t come back. He’s . . . . Chicken. ---
**Author:** ![Grapefruit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/73ab20/32.png) [@Grapefruit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grapefruit)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2011, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/115 "2011-03-04T00:19:24Z")
> [@IvoryTowerDenizen](#): > > He won’t come back. > > He’s > . > . > . > . > > Chicken. I groaned at all the puns in this thread, but this one actually make me giggle. Also, I can’t believe I’ve followed this thread to three pages, and there hasn’t been a resolution to the simple question of “What does your wife think?” It’s so bizarre. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2011, 2:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/116 "2011-03-04T14:47:07Z")
Q: Why did his wife defrost the second chicken? A: To cross it to the other side… 😛 ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2011, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/117 "2011-03-04T15:53:55Z")
Oh, man. This is like hearing the 1st seven notes of a scale. Or [like this](http://xkcd.com/859/). I want resolution, dammit!! Also, to hear **SuperHal’sWife** ’s side of all this. ---
**Author:** ![Bridget\_Burke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7cd45c/32.png) [@Bridget\_Burke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bridget_Burke)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2011, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/118 "2011-03-04T16:26:42Z")
Perhaps he should feel lucky she thawed both chickens. Wasn’t there an Alfred Hitchcock episode about what a disgruntled wife could accomplish with a frozen leg of lamb? ---
**Author:** ![Wheelz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wheelz/32/5718_2.png) [@Wheelz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wheelz)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2011, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/119 "2011-03-04T18:04:23Z")
To me, the oddest thing about this thread is its title… I thought it was going to be a disgreement about _what_ to eat, not _how much_ of it. How is one chicken the “opposite” of two chickens? ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [March 4, 2011, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905/120 "2011-03-04T18:42:28Z")
Yeah, I thought approx. the same thing when I first saw it: “Lemme guess: she wants Korean food.” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-wife-wants-one-thing-i-want-the-opposite-food-related/572905.md?page=7)