# Need Advice about REALLY Skeevy Guy, kids might be in danger **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 9, 2004, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-really-skeevy-guy-kids-might-be-in-danger/254238 "2004-07-09T04:56:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2004, 11:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-really-skeevy-guy-kids-might-be-in-danger/254238/101 "2004-07-19T23:42:54Z")
Okay, first off, **Ghanima** , I’m not really liking your tone. You may not have meant for your post to come across as implying that I’ve been putting you all on or that I’m stupid and gullible (would I have started this thread if I had believed everything he said?), but that’s sure as hell how it came across and I don’t appreciate it. I’ve never spoken directly to the sister, I’ve never _met_ the sister and believe she’s quite stupid for believing everything he’s told her hook line and sinker, which I’ve mentioned multiple times throughout the thread. Considering you’ve taken the time to keep track of every post number I’ve made and what I’ve said in each, I’m suprised you missed that. Everything I’m getting, I’m getting second hand. The whole story is wacky so pardon me if certain things don’t add up. I’m just as confused as all of you and am doing my best to put the pieces together. ---
**Author:** ![Ghanima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Ghanima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ghanima)\ **Post date:** [July 19, 2004, 11:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-really-skeevy-guy-kids-might-be-in-danger/254238/102 "2004-07-19T23:53:00Z")
Yeah, the first draft sounded even more bitchy so I toned it down, obviously not enough. My apologies. Monday is my only excuse. Sister-of-a-friend. That’s right. Actually, I _haven’t_ been paying that much attention, so when I saw your last post I went - “Wait a second?” then I scanned your posts for mentions of the $50K (and referenced where I found them.) Should have done a bit more homework - I forgot you were getting all of this third-hand. Still, a slap on the wrist for you. And one for me. There, we’re even. ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2004, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-really-skeevy-guy-kids-might-be-in-danger/254238/103 "2004-07-20T00:25:00Z")
> [@lezlers](#): > > So, do I have cause to be concerned on behalf of my friend? If it was just sister getting involved in this, I wouldn’t care, she’s a grown woman, if she wants to be stupid, that’s her trip. I’m worried about the kids. The 14 year old is really uneasy about this, understandably so. She doesn’t want to be left alone with this guy. Also, understandably so. The five year old is calling him “daddy” after knowing him for 3 days and no one seems to care. I haven’t talked to the 11 year old about it, so I don’t know what his take on it is. She’s over 21, and they are not your kids. Is there anything you could call the Police or CPS about? If so, do so- then butt out. If not- then butt out. The wonderful about America is that people have the right to choose their very own handbasket to go to Hell in. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2004, 1:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-really-skeevy-guy-kids-might-be-in-danger/254238/104 "2004-07-20T01:15:16Z")
No, DrDeth, no!! It’s within an adult’s rights to mess up their own lives, but not their children’s. Children are not property to do with as you wish. It’s the responsibility of everyone to look out for children. I was abused at home as a child, and I wish to God someone had made me their business. I’m still working on forgiving my own family, both inside and outside the home, for turning a blind eye. It is just and it is right for people to be concerned about these kids. And for whomever has the means to find out what’s going on and get them out of it if it’s damaging to them, to do so. BUTT IN!! ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2004, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-really-skeevy-guy-kids-might-be-in-danger/254238/105 "2004-07-20T02:29:06Z")
> [@Ghanima](#): > > Yeah, the first draft sounded even more bitchy so I toned it down, obviously not enough. My apologies. Monday is my only excuse. > Sister-of-a-friend. That’s right. Actually, I _haven’t_ been paying that much attention, so when I saw your last post I went - “Wait a second?” then I scanned your posts for mentions of the $50K (and referenced where I found them.) Should have done a bit more homework - I forgot you were getting all of this third-hand. > Still, a slap on the wrist for you. And one for me. There, we’re even. No worries. Although I _do_ have to wonder what my slap on the wrist is for. I was suspicious of this guy from the beginning, so it’s not like I bought his story, even for a second. Hence, you know, this thread. ---
**Author:** ![vanilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f19dbf/32.png) [@vanilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vanilla)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2004, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-really-skeevy-guy-kids-might-be-in-danger/254238/106 "2004-07-20T04:10:01Z")
so…she is supporting him now? This is a true soap opera. It could go on for pages… ---
**Author:** ![ccwaterback](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@ccwaterback](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ccwaterback)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2004, 5:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-really-skeevy-guy-kids-might-be-in-danger/254238/107 "2004-07-20T05:00:50Z")
> [@ccwaterback](#): > > And of course, I wouldn’t believe a word this guy says. If it’s not in black-and-white, seeing-is-believing, I would assume everything he says is total bullshit. Like I said. ---
**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2004, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-really-skeevy-guy-kids-might-be-in-danger/254238/108 "2004-07-20T05:08:53Z")
> [@Ghanima](#): > > Ummm… what about the money in the bank account? You did say that he deposited $50,000 into her account (post #1) then you confirmed that it was in cash (post #22). THEN you said he put it in a different account with her name on it so she could access it (post #67). > Then you say he hasn’t any money. So was the whole $50K and the bank account just a complete lie? Because if she really believed him without a shred of proof or evidence, then she is a complete idiot. The sad thing is, I can see exactly how this happened. “If you love someone, you don’t go around checking up on them! What kind of relationship would this be if I treated him like a potential criminal or something? Besides, I don’t want him to think I only care about the money! Even if he didn’t have a dime, I’d still loooooove him!” Someone once told me, “Trust is not something you just give to someone. They have to **earn** it.” ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [July 20, 2004, 5:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-really-skeevy-guy-kids-might-be-in-danger/254238/109 "2004-07-20T05:09:33Z")
> [@trublmakr](#): > > No, DrDeth, no!! It’s within an adult’s rights to mess up their own lives, but not their children’s. Children are not property to do with as you wish. > It’s the responsibility of everyone to look out for children. I was abused at home as a child, and I wish to God someone had made me their business. I’m still working on forgiving my own family, both inside and outside the home, for turning a blind eye. > It is just and it is right for people to be concerned about these kids. And for whomever has the means to find out what’s going on and get them out of it if it’s damaging to them, to do so. > BUTT IN!! You’re absolutely right, which is why I mentioned CPS (Child Protective Services). It is their job to worry about other peoples kids. It is our job to inform them, and having informed them- get back to our own business. ---
**Author:** ![35340](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/3/8baadc/32.png) [@35340](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/35340)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2004, 12:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-really-skeevy-guy-kids-might-be-in-danger/254238/110 "2004-08-11T12:37:22Z")
_bump_ any kind of update? everyone okay? ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2004, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-really-skeevy-guy-kids-might-be-in-danger/254238/111 "2004-08-11T19:41:56Z")
> [@DrDeth](#): > > You’re absolutely right, which is why I mentioned CPS (Child Protective Services). It is their job to worry about other peoples kids. It is our job to inform them, and having informed them- get back to our own business. Calling CPS doesn’t always get the job done. I’ve known of a few stories where CPS checked out a situation and thought things were ok, and then something terrible happens. A CPS working in Indy got in trouble for that very thing. ---
**Author:** ![EddyTeddyFreddy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eddyteddyfreddy/32/18796_2.png) [@EddyTeddyFreddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EddyTeddyFreddy)\ **Post date:** [August 25, 2004, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-really-skeevy-guy-kids-might-be-in-danger/254238/112 "2004-08-25T18:45:29Z")
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