# Need advice about the needy bitch across the hall. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 3, 2019, 9:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966 "2019-11-03T21:55:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![thorny\_locust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thorny_locust/32/431_2.png) [@thorny\_locust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thorny_locust)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2019, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/21 "2019-11-04T18:50:11Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > Near as I can determine, she is dementia free, though she did punch a staff member in th lunch room. Some people in some stages of dementia can present entirely normally in a short conversation, especially with people who don’t know them well – and I include in those people quite a lot of physicians. Symptoms, however, can include loss of judgement and loss of time sense, even while speech still seems normal and most of short-term as well as long-term memory is still working. Cite: my mother, who turned out to quite genuinely have no idea how long it took anyone to do anything, how long it was taking people to respond to her, or why a specific person couldn’t be continually present: and who also took to occasionally hitting people. It took way too long for me to recognize dementia, and then even longer before any of the medical people dealing with her saw it. I remember the podiatrist saying to me ‘Your mother’s still sharp as a tack’. I said to him ‘She just told you that she’s living alone in her apartment. She’s been living in an assisted care facility for the last three months.’ ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2019, 6:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/22 "2019-11-04T18:56:59Z")
Earplugs. And sunglasses indoors. IOW ignore it. Ultimately, she’s not your problem. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2019, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/23 "2019-11-04T18:57:28Z")
> [@nelliebly](#): > > Why is she yelling? Don’t patients have call buttons? They do, but staff can be busy and not always able to respond quickly enough. Some entitled people think that yelling will get someone to come right away. Assuming, as **dropzone** stated, she doesn’t have dementia. ---
**Author:** ![nelliebly](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nelliebly/32/5422_2.png) [@nelliebly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nelliebly)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2019, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/24 "2019-11-04T19:04:35Z")
Had a similar situation once when MIL was hospitalized. MIL, an empathetic soul, couldn’t rest and BP went up. They finally had to sedate Yelling Yolanda. ☹ Wading in to fix it when he doesn’t know the cause is a bad idea for OP. ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2019, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/25 "2019-11-04T19:07:48Z")
\>nose\<, cochrane So wha’chall are saying is that she is very possibly in the early stages of Alzheimer’s and I should be nicer to her? I hate you all. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2019, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/26 "2019-11-04T19:19:01Z")
No, no, no! You need to stew, to build all this up in your mind until she becomes your Great White Whale. Formulate witty comebacks to her, then foreign swear words and epithets from centuries ago, and then mega-rants with language that could never be uttered to any human being without both of you being shocked by the depths of your depravity. You need to invent clever little ways to get back at her, and up it by enlisting the help of staff, relatives and innocent bystanders in your nefarious schemes. You need to plan, to fill a wall with photos and red twine, to micromanage these machinations until the wee hours (don’t worry, the lack of sleep will give these revenges a piquant bouquet). Then you need to come back here and tell us all about it. ---
**Author:** ![PastTense](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pasttense/32/14550_2.png) [@PastTense](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PastTense)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2019, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/27 "2019-11-04T19:24:19Z")
Can’t you close the door? ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2019, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/28 "2019-11-04T19:24:27Z")
I know some japanese swear words. PM me I’ll give you a list. ---
**Author:** ![ThelmaLou](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thelmalou/32/390_2.png) [@ThelmaLou](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThelmaLou)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2019, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/29 "2019-11-04T21:11:09Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > \>nose\<, cochrane > > So wha’chall are saying is that she is very possibly in the early stages of Alzheimer’s and I should be nicer to her? > > I hate you all. I didn’t. I said ignore her. **tap, tap** Is this thing on? ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2019, 11:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/30 "2019-11-04T23:02:14Z")
> [@PastTense](#): > > Can’t you close the door? Not reliably. It was either closed or all the way open until maintenance fixed it. Now, even if it’s closed all the way, my ghost is likely to open it all the way. And don’t deny I have a ghost because I heard the dead bastard turn the knob this afternoon. I hate dead folk even more than I hate all y’all. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2019, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/31 "2019-11-04T23:23:10Z")
Ok, Mr. Moody-mad-face! We love you, tho’ (See how easy it is to be nice:)) ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2019, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/32 "2019-11-04T23:43:55Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > Not reliably. It was either closed or all the way open until maintenance fixed it. Now, even if it’s closed all the way, my ghost is likely to open it all the way. And don’t deny I have a ghost because I heard the dead bastard turn the knob this afternoon. > > I hate dead folk even more than I hate all y’all. Whoaaaa, now you’ve roused my competitive streak. Ok, gang, what can we do so **droopyzone** hates us even more than ghosts? I mocked his name for starters. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [November 4, 2019, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/33 "2019-11-04T23:48:49Z")
Ghosts can be your friends. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2019, 1:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/34 "2019-11-05T13:01:43Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > Near as I can determine, she is dementia free, though she did punch a staff member in th lunch room. A punch in the old lunch room, that’s gotta hurt. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2019, 3:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/35 "2019-11-05T15:49:55Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > Ghosts can be your friends. Although, I expect Casper would drive you up the wall before too long. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2019, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/36 "2019-11-05T16:38:08Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > A punch in the old lunch room, that’s gotta hurt. You shouldn’t make me giggle like that when I’m supposed to be working! ---
**Author:** ![EarlGrayHot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e480ec/32.png) [@EarlGrayHot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EarlGrayHot)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2019, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/37 "2019-11-06T16:21:08Z")
Sorry-you are in the wrong profession. You should not be yelling at ANY patients for any reason. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2019, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/38 "2019-11-06T16:30:05Z")
> [@EarlGrayHot](#): > > Sorry-you are in the wrong profession. You should not be yelling at ANY patients for any reason. dropzone is a patient, himself. A cranky one. Who wants outta that place so bad he doing his own therapy sessions. [If he falls and hurts himself I’m personally gonna go up there and punch him] ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2019, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/39 "2019-11-06T18:32:22Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > Ewwww! That’s far too peopley. Sometimes I like to pretend I’d do the kind “peopley” thing. IRL, no. Embrace the hate, **dropzone**. I’m with you. Bastards, all. ---
**Author:** ![cochrane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cochrane/32/10441_2.png) [@cochrane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cochrane)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2019, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966/40 "2019-11-06T18:48:34Z")
> [@Beckdawrek](#): > > dropzone is a patient, himself. A cranky one. Who wants outta that place so bad he doing his own therapy sessions. > > [If he falls and hurts himself I’m personally gonna go up there and punch him] Been there, done that myself. I sympathize with his situation. I’ve been in places with yellers. After awhile, you just want to say, “SHUT THE FUCK UP!!” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/need-advice-about-the-needy-bitch-across-the-hall/842966.md?page=3)