# Negative response for refusing food

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/negative-response-for-refusing-food/398878>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [April 5, 2007, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/negative-response-for-refusing-food/398878 "2007-04-05T18:16:42Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\
**Post date:** [April 6, 2007, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/negative-response-for-refusing-food/398878/21 "2007-04-06T16:58:03Z")

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[QUOTE=Stonebow]  
It could have been taken home, thrown out, given away.  
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Yeah, but as she already said, had she tried to do that, she would have eaten it anyway. A lot of people get their food discipline by avoiding temptation in the first place.

And I don’t want to put it all on the giver, but if he knew about the OP watching her weight (and I see no evidence that he did), then he made a very poor choice for a gift. And what with the sometimes strange diets that people are on these days, food is sort of a dicey choice of gift for anyone you don’t know well.

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**Author:** ![Stonebow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Stonebow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stonebow)\
**Post date:** [April 6, 2007, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/negative-response-for-refusing-food/398878/22 "2007-04-06T17:30:27Z")

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[QUOTE=tdn]  
And what with the sometimes strange diets that people are on these days, food is sort of a dicey choice of gift for anyone you don’t know well.  
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True. Though he does know her well enough to know that this particular item was a childhood favorite- I don’t think that you can level a charge of thoughtlessness at him.  
And on the scale of food gifts one could give, a factory-made, factory wrapped nut-less candy item that one describes fondly in childhood memories is pretty safe, all things considered.

Anyway, the Op was a bit rude, but not super rude. If she wants to mend fences, she can, I think, do it pretty easily…but the first step is in accepting that it’s not the other guy’s malfunction.

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**Author:** ![Lionne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Lionne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lionne)\
**Post date:** [April 7, 2007, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/negative-response-for-refusing-food/398878/23 "2007-04-07T16:12:17Z")

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All is well and good. He got in touch with me after work and apologized for “being such an idiot”. I offered my apologies too and said maybe I overreacted and explained why. He \*\*does \*\* know I’m watching what I eat, but he thought I’d make an exception due to the holiday and the memories surrounding it.

TDN got it exactly - I avoid temptation cause it’s the easiest way for me to stick to my choice. He and I have a close enough relationship that I assumed he’d fully understand where I was coming from at the time, but it goes to show I still have a lot to learn!

[QUOTE=tdn]  
If that doesn’t work, offer him a blowjob.  
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😃 And to think I nearly skipped this line…

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