# Neighbor accusations **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 2, 2013, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308 "2013-12-02T20:19:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 5:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/41 "2013-12-03T17:54:57Z")
> [@aruvqan](#): > > I had child welfare called on me for my kids running roughshod over the neighborhood on a daily basis … my goddaughters live a 4 hour drive away in New Jersey, and in the time frame of the accusation the 3 in the age range she was bitching about had documentably been off in a 6 week long summer camp in northern Virginia. Not to mention that they are platinum blonds with blue eyes, and both mrAru and I have brown hair which is nothing like platinum blond and have never had kids, never had kids registered in any CT school, and no records with the Navy of any kids on mrAru’s social security number [dependents are registered with their sponsors social.] The kids in question are registered with their father’s social at his duty station, in the school system in NJ and so forth. The lady investigating was seriously pissed off at the false charge, and the dumb bunny making the accusation got fined and a ticket for filing the false complaint. I had an old lady tear my mom a new asshole for riding my roller skates in the hallways of our apartment building. I never owned any roller skates - just “borrowed” them from the rink whenever I went. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/42 "2013-12-03T18:43:50Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Nice username/post combo, OP. Also, props for proper use of the masculine form. You’re going to like it here, I think. Which is good, because you may no longer enjoy living in your neighborhood. ☹ It’s curious how many new posters introduce themselves to the board in the form of a “Dear Abby” letter. Signed, Bewildered ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/43 "2013-12-03T18:48:38Z")
> [@madmonk28](#): > > She’s crazy. Minimize the crazy in your life and don’t interact with her. Don’t look at her on the street, don’t roll your eyes, just ignore her. Document every time she tries to interact with you, including this first interaction. Oh, so now you think you’re _better_ than she is?! Mandelbaum, Mandelbaum, Mandelbaum! ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/44 "2013-12-03T19:39:35Z")
The OP hasn’t posted since yesterday… ---
**Author:** ![MikeF](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@MikeF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MikeF)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/45 "2013-12-03T20:28:04Z")
I was going to say to get a car cover of your own but the remote start is much more elegant move. ---
**Author:** ![Rhiannon8404](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rhiannon8404/32/17929_2.png) [@Rhiannon8404](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhiannon8404)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 8:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/46 "2013-12-03T20:38:54Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > It’s curious how many new posters introduce themselves to the board in the form of a “Dear Abby” letter. > > Signed, > Bewildered It was such an interesting and decently written post that I didn’t realize it was a new poster until now. Welcome to the SDMB, **Blindsided**. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 8:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/47 "2013-12-03T20:52:23Z")
What, **Blindsided** is new?!? {Checks join date} Am I mistaking the name for someone else? Welcome to the Dope, anyway! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Dana\_Scully](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/5daacb/32.png) [@Dana\_Scully](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dana_Scully)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 8:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/48 "2013-12-03T20:53:21Z")
> [@Blindsided](#): > > I care because she also told me she went door to door looking until she found me. And also because she describes a months worth of interaction that didn’t happen. Sigh…it’s just very disturbing It really IS disturbing. I would avoid contact with her as much as possible, and I also advise you to record your contacts with her, in writing, in excruciating detail, including date, time, location, and anything either one of you says. I feel sorry for you; this is no way to live. She sounds like she has mental problems. ---
**Author:** ![muldoonthief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muldoonthief/32/3188_2.png) [@muldoonthief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/muldoonthief)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/49 "2013-12-03T21:31:17Z")
Some states (such as MA) have in law the ability to give someone a permanent “No Trespass” notice - you send them a form letter, return receipt requested, saying they are not permitted on your property ever again. You file the letter and the return receipt with the local police dept., and if the person comes onto your property for any reason whatsoever, including walking up to your front door, you can call the police and have them arrested. Probably not a good idea to escalate this now, but it’s definitely worth investigating in case she comes back. ---
**Author:** ![Kimballkid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b5a626/32.png) [@Kimballkid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimballkid)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/50 "2013-12-03T21:44:10Z")
I’m kind of confused on one point, in your OP you say the lady couldn’t describe you to your fiance and didn’t recognize your description when he described you to her, but then you say she knocked on all the neighbors doors until she found you. How could she know it was you if she didn’t recognize a description of you and couldn’t describe you? ---
**Author:** ![Blindsided](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ba9def/32.png) [@Blindsided](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blindsided)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/51 "2013-12-03T22:51:00Z")
Thanks for the welcome everyone! Yes I am brand new, and didn’t realize I’d taken on a username of someone else here. Sry for the confusion. To answer kimbalkids question, she was describing me as the lady that drives the white SUV. We only have one white suv on our block, and she also identified the location where I park it. I honestly don’t think she would have recognized me if I denied owning the car. (Also I think she only went to two houses looking for me. The homes between mine and hers) ---
**Author:** ![Blindsided](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ba9def/32.png) [@Blindsided](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blindsided)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 11:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/52 "2013-12-03T23:03:02Z")
Sry I somehow just lost my response. So this may be a duplicate. Thanks for the welcome! Yes I am brand new here. Sorry for the confusion, I didn’t realize I’d taken someone else’s name on here. To answer kimbalkids question, she was looking for ‘the lady that drives the white SUV’. She also identified the spot where I park it. Additionally, it’s the only white SUV on our block. I don’t think she would have recognized me if I didn’t admit to owning the vehicle. She couldn’t even confirm my race! Lol (fiancé and I are an interracial couple) I think she only went to one or two neighbors looking for me,only one neighbor has mentioned it and there are only two homes between us) ---
**Author:** ![Blindsided](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ba9def/32.png) [@Blindsided](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blindsided)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/53 "2013-12-03T23:16:37Z")
Hampshire I’ve lived here for 4 years, Fiancé has been here for 6. I’m guessing she was away at college or something until recently because fiancé met the mom years ago, but doesn’t remember her. I think they’ve been here way longer than we have though. The neighbor that lives between us (the one where she went looking for me) said he met her a couple months ago and thought she seemed odd. She knocked on his door, introduced herself, then ran off before he could say a single word. Literally RAN off/hair flying in the wind, before he could even say ‘nice to meet you’. He said it was odd ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 3, 2013, 11:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/54 "2013-12-03T23:30:29Z")
> [@Blindsided](#): > > Sry I somehow just lost my response. So this may be a duplicate. > > Thanks for the welcome! Yes I am brand new here. Sorry for the confusion, I didn’t realize I’d taken someone else’s name on here.\ I think it’s just my confusion - I think I’m mistaking your username for someone else. I don’t think you’re allowed to take a username that’s already in use. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2013, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/55 "2013-12-04T02:47:18Z")
Sure hope you can stay safe. This woman sounds like a doozy. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2013, 2:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/56 "2013-12-04T14:21:32Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > I think it’s just my confusion - I think I’m mistaking your username for someone else. I don’t think you’re allowed to take a username that’s already in use. 😕 No, you can’t. Don’t mind **Cat Whisperer, Blindsided** - she’s a little confused. We’ll just have her come over here and sit in the sun. 🙂 Welcome to the boards. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2013, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/57 "2013-12-04T14:37:28Z")
Do they have sun in Canada? ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2013, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/58 "2013-12-04T14:42:18Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Do they have sun in Canada? (I was just going to use a heat lamp and tell her it was the sun. Shh. She’ll never know.) ---
**Author:** ![QuickSilver](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quicksilver/32/7832_2.png) [@QuickSilver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QuickSilver)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2013, 3:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/59 "2013-12-04T15:10:31Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > (I was just going to use a heat lamp and tell her it was the sun. Shh. She’ll never know.) The OP is Canadian but I don’t think she’s a Newfie. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![toofs](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/4491bb/32.png) [@toofs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/toofs)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2013, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308/60 "2013-12-05T00:16:10Z")
Security camera systems are affordable now and fairly high quality. Consider installing a system with cameras that cover multiple angles of your entire front yard. This is easy to do. Most systems come with anywhere from 4 to 16 cameras, a hard drive based recorder and the ability to remotely log in to the system via a smart phone. I am looking at the [systems here](http://www.costco.com/surveillance-systems.html) that run from under $300 to $3,200. The sweet spot are the systems between $800 to $1,000. Thoughtfully placed cameras will capture a lot of information that can be used to prove your case should the need arise. This is a great way to truly document at all times any and all interactions that occur on or near your property. You have been wisely advised to document everything, so seriously consider a camera system. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/neighbor-accusations/675308.md?page=4)