# Never got over my first crush and we just recently reconnected **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 13, 2013, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/never-got-over-my-first-crush-and-we-just-recently-reconnected/660876 "2013-06-13T03:56:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Ferret\_Herder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e47774/32.png) [@Ferret\_Herder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ferret_Herder)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2013, 2:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/never-got-over-my-first-crush-and-we-just-recently-reconnected/660876/21 "2013-07-03T14:54:09Z")
> [@bucketybuck](#): > > Why does everything on this board have to come back to counseling? What happened to just thinking things through, getting your head straight and realising that there isn’t a relationship there, then acting accordingly? Instead everybody here seems to think nothing can be sorted without going to see some shrink. IMO, someone who hasn’t figured out the reality of the situation by this point could use a professionally-delivered reality check. ---
**Author:** ![PSXer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/48db29/32.png) [@PSXer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PSXer)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2013, 3:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/never-got-over-my-first-crush-and-we-just-recently-reconnected/660876/22 "2013-07-03T15:09:47Z")
Don’t bother. You can’t trust junkies ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2013, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/never-got-over-my-first-crush-and-we-just-recently-reconnected/660876/23 "2013-07-03T18:43:02Z")
> [@bucketybuck](#): > > Why does everything on this board have to come back to counseling? It’s a polite way to tell someone that they’re off base. And since we’re just strangers on an internet board, and not necessarily impartial or even fit to give advice. they should ask an impartial 3rd party professional to weigh in. ---
**Author:** ![AboutAsWeirdAsYouCanGet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@AboutAsWeirdAsYouCanGet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AboutAsWeirdAsYouCanGet)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2013, 11:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/never-got-over-my-first-crush-and-we-just-recently-reconnected/660876/24 "2013-07-08T11:16:53Z")
> [@bucketybuck](#): > > Why does everything on this board have to come back to counseling? What happened to just thinking things through, getting your head straight and realising that there isn’t a relationship there, then acting accordingly? Instead everybody here seems to think nothing can be sorted without going to see some shrink. > > Is it just the people on this board, or is this some wider American thing? B/c the OP doesn’t seem to have the ABILTY to realize that there’s no relationship THERE in the first place. And there’s also signs that he seems deeply distrubed. Yes, he’s not following the girl around, but he has strong feelings for someone whom he barely knows. That is a sign there is something deeply/ seriously wrong. Maybe if he got into treatment he could avoid situtions like someone accusing him of stalking, or even learn about healthy realtionships, so he could actually have a real realtionship with a girl, instead of some fanasty he built up inside his head about her. I am giving him some leeway…Sometimes people don’t develop emotionally for whatever reason. One of the guys I mentioned didn’t develop emotionally since he was a blind mainstreamed dude, and seemed not to have any idea of how he should meet girls, and how real healthy realtionships develop. ---
**Author:** ![Mixolydian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/da6949/32.png) [@Mixolydian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mixolydian)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2013, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/never-got-over-my-first-crush-and-we-just-recently-reconnected/660876/25 "2013-07-08T18:47:23Z")
Some interesting related reading: [Wiki entry - “Limerence”](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence) ---
**Author:** ![BubbaDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bubbadog/32/333_2.png) [@BubbaDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BubbaDog)\ **Post date:** [July 8, 2013, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/never-got-over-my-first-crush-and-we-just-recently-reconnected/660876/26 "2013-07-08T20:01:21Z")
> [@AboutAsWeirdAsYouCanGet](#): > > B/c the OP doesn’t seem to have the ABILTY to realize that there’s no relationship THERE in the first place. > [snip]. He lacks focus too. Joins a message board, writes one post asking for advice, doesn’t respond to any of the 25 comments received over the next 20 days, doesn’t post anywhere else on the board. So either he’s forgotten that he posted here or he unburdened his soul to the girl, got shot down, and is curled up in a cave somewhere plotting his domination of the world as penance for treating him so cruelly. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/never-got-over-my-first-crush-and-we-just-recently-reconnected/660876.md?page=1)