# New rules for the BBQ Pit **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [March 24, 2000, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-rules-for-the-bbq-pit/5461 "2000-03-24T23:57:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![ultress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/7c8e57/32.png) [@ultress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultress)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2000, 12:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-rules-for-the-bbq-pit/5461/21 "2000-03-26T00:21:00Z")
Please leave the little dog out of this. * * * _I’ve learned that if someone says something unkind about me, I must live so that no one will believe it._ ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2000, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-rules-for-the-bbq-pit/5461/22 "2000-03-26T01:08:00Z")
I really need to scratch myself. I hate that hour you must wait before you wash the henna off the tatoo area. Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. . . . * * * Pardon me while I burst into flames. ---
**Author:** ![ReservoirDog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/8edcca/32.png) [@ReservoirDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ReservoirDog)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2000, 3:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-rules-for-the-bbq-pit/5461/23 "2000-03-26T03:09:00Z")
Diane, Hello. How are you? Fine, thanks. About the henna. Might you explain to what you are referring? Just curious. Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [March 27, 2000, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-rules-for-the-bbq-pit/5461/24 "2000-03-27T17:36:00Z")
Let me start off by saying that a warning system is commendable and wholly appropriate. But: [QUOTE] Originally posted by **Ed Zotti** : … As before, flame wars (arguments that have gotten too intense and/or personal) are allowed only in the Pit… … we allow more latitude of expression in the Pit. You want to duke it out with somebody, go ahead… … We will once in a while decide that a poster or group of posters has gone too far. Unprovoked, go-for-the-balls personal abuse, for example, makes us twitchy… [quote] OK, maybe I’m just too new, but the above makes _me_ “twitchy.” What’s the difference between the above? They sound the same to me. What’s “too far?” Where’s the line? Frankly, I’d like some previous examples as reference. Esprix, who has been known to shoot off his mouth on more than one occassion and doen’t want to do it in front of these nice people * * * [Ask the Gay Guy!](http://boards.straightdope.com/ubb/Forum7/HTML/001376.html) ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2000, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-rules-for-the-bbq-pit/5461/25 "2000-03-28T06:04:00Z")
Dear ReservoirDog (BTW - one of my favorite movies), I am fine, thank you. I was going to type out a long explanation but decided to just post a site that explains it better that I could. [http://www.geocities.com/Eureka/Park/7445/mehndi.htm](http://www.geocities.com/Eureka/Park/7445/mehndi.htm) Sincerely, Diane ---
**Author:** ![Ed\_Zotti](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/fbc32d/32.png) [@Ed\_Zotti](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ed_Zotti)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2000, 2:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-rules-for-the-bbq-pit/5461/26 "2000-03-28T02:21:00Z")
Esprix writes: > [@](#): > > OK, maybe I’m just too new, but the above makes me “twitchy.” What’s the difference between the above? They sound the same to me. What’s “too far?” Where’s the line? Frankly, I’d like some previous examples as reference. Read and learn, bubba. There are lots of threads in the Pit. Most of them do not have warnings in them. While not an infallible guide, this may reasonably be taken as an indication that we did not find the contents objectionable. Another good rule of thumb is to ask oneself: if I were to say this to someone in person, would it likely result in my getting the shit kicked out of me? This should keep you out of most jams. ---
**Author:** ![Cartooniverse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cartooniverse/32/3084_2.png) [@Cartooniverse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cartooniverse)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2000, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-rules-for-the-bbq-pit/5461/27 "2000-03-28T02:36:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by manhattan: > \*\*You know, it’s funny you should mention hijacking. I’ve been thinking a lot about the balance between personal freedom and air safety. I’m leaning toward the position that > whilst the searches of baggage (for bombs, etc.) are not stringent enough, the personal > searches (turn on your laptop, etc.) go to far. What do you think about this? > \*\* ``` Y'know, Manny, it's funny you should mention mentioning hijacking. I carry the laptop, cellular, etc. While I have never been singled out for a body cavity search ( "Sir ! They call them cavities, but there's NO call for a Rool Canal here!" ), I have to say that the small indignities visited upon me thus far are pretty much nothing.....compared to realizing for a few seconds ( before the lack of O2 puts you down) that somebody just bombed your jet aeroplane. I'm a real left-wing liberal hoo-hah, but when it comes to this stuff? I find that the rules have a zero humor content. They want to tell us we can't joke about bombs? Good, let 'em. The upside is that security people do their best against an endless tide of VERY creative terrorists. Personal freedoms? You have none, when you purchase an airline ticket, there is this REALLY small type on the back. I've read it, and it outlines in no small detail what the rights of the passenger are. I don't WANNA die on a plane somewhere over New Jersey. I wanna get hit by a bus !! ``` Cartooniverse * * * If you want to kiss the sky, you’d better learn how to kneel. ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2000, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-rules-for-the-bbq-pit/5461/28 "2000-03-28T15:52:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by **Ed Zotti** : > > Read and learn, bubba… > > Another good rule of thumb is to ask oneself: if I were to say this to someone in person, would it likely result in my getting the shit kicked out of me? This should keep you out of most jams. Very wise words, Ed, and I take them to heart. But, um, Ed? _Don’t_ call me “Bubba” again. _That_ would get the shit kicked out of _you_. :mad: Esprix * * * [Ask the Gay Guy!](http://boards.straightdope.com/ubb/Forum7/HTML/001376.html) ---
**Author:** ![andros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@andros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andros)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2000, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-rules-for-the-bbq-pit/5461/29 "2000-03-28T16:00:00Z")
Geez louise, **Esprix** , you’d prefer he called you “bubbe?” ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2000, 6:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-rules-for-the-bbq-pit/5461/30 "2000-03-29T06:43:00Z")
> [@](#): > > Originally posted by **andros** : > > Geez louise, **Esprix** , you’d prefer he called you “bubbe?” Why, some of my best friends… oh, never mind! 😛 Esprix * * * [Ask the Gay Guy!](http://boards.straightdope.com/ubb/Forum7/HTML/001376.html) [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-rules-for-the-bbq-pit/5461.md?page=1)