# New to me dating site scam

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-to-me-dating-site-scam/971030>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [September 6, 2022, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-to-me-dating-site-scam/971030 "2022-09-06T01:53:02Z")\
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**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\
**Post date:** [September 6, 2022, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-to-me-dating-site-scam/971030/21 "2022-09-06T14:40:57Z")

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Life is just too funny! 😆

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**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\
**Post date:** [September 6, 2022, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-to-me-dating-site-scam/971030/22 "2022-09-06T16:19:04Z")

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> [@HoneyBadgerDC](#):
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> Lately these girls are insisting on meeting after only one minimal chatting session

Maybe your reputation has gotten around!

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**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\
**Post date:** [September 7, 2022, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/new-to-me-dating-site-scam/971030/23 "2022-09-07T03:00:26Z")

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What is the scam where you get a message saying “I was on the site. Already found a soul mate, but my really good friend was looking over my shoulder and that you were freaking awesome. Please email “[clickbait@scammer.com](mailto:clickbait@scammer.com)” and she will send you a photo that rocks your socks off.”

I’ve gotten dozens of these replies on a dating site the purports to be for “highly educated” singles.

Anyone know what the scam is?

Back to the OP, if you’re not in my area and willing to grab a coffee in a public place in the next week or two, then certainly I lose interest. Plus, myself personally, find talking on the phone to be something I didn’t enjoy back in high school and that was decades ago. Let’s have a quick meet and greet, see if there is chemistry, see if your photo was a decade and a kilogram out of shape, or otherwise have a quick screen if it might make for an interesing dinner.

I’ve had plenty of enjoyable coffees that went exactly nowhere. No harm no foul.

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