Real CPR, not the TV kind, is frickin’ traumatic to the person getting it. There’s a disconnect between what the medical people see and what the general public thinks it is.
I find it questionable to do CPR on someone near the end of life, especially if they’re fragile (especially with fragile bones - flail chest in an octogenarian is not a good thing at all) and heal slowly/poorly. If there is no DNR then the medical folks have to perform this unlikely-to-succeed procedure that is likely to cause significant injury if it does work on someone who has little life expectancy.
However, the general public, including patients, hear “DNR” and think they’re going to just let me die!!! A DNR means (or is supposed to mean) that if your heart stops they won’t try to reverse that but otherwise they’ll still treat you. I mean, heck, my mom walked around for 20 years with a DNR in her purse, underwent medical procedures with a DNR, waived the DNR around everywhere she went that was medical (mom REALLY did not want CPR again. Or several other medical things ever again and carried around the paperwork to make sure they wouldn’t happen again. And they didn’t.)
But, again, pressuring people to sign one while in an highly emotional state with a dollop of fear on top is NOT, in my mind, ethical.
Also, sometimes the paperwork ISN’T just DNR, you do have to read it. Fine print, usually. In a highly emotional state with a dollop of fear on top.
I’m probably better informed about end-of-life, medical directives, DNRs, DNI’s (another thing mom never wanted again) and the like than most laypeople and I can find it very confusing and stressful.
There’s all out medical care.
There’s palliative care, which is not concerned with curing but with comfort.
There’s hospice, which is end-of-life, and has palliative care but I’ve also seen hospice situations where they just don’t treat anything, even when it would make the patient more comfortable or give higher quality of life, they just dose with painkillers and tranquilizers. So… there’s quality hospice and shitty hospice, just like every other medical thing.
There’s DNR, which might be signed by someone fully conscious, upright, walking, and seemingly healthy. If said person falls over with a heart attack then medical sorts will not attempt resuscitation, yes, they will “just let them die” but that is with the consent of the patient (or appropriate medical proxy), without one it’s full-out try-to-bring-them-back, smashed ribs and cracked sternum and all. Meanwhile, such a person can still have surgery, antibiotics, chemo, etc. But I would definitely say that it is VERY important to actually read anything before you sign it.
There’s DNI which is Do Not Intubate. My-sister-the-doctor, who has severe heart problems and for whom covid is almost certainly not something she would survive, currently has one of these. But that is a choice she made, with the medical knowledge she has about both resuscitation and her own health. In the event she gets severe covid she doesn’t see the point of wasting medical resources on herself when there is almost no chance they would do any good whatsoever, especially during the height of the epidemic. (Yes, she’s fully vaccinated - we’re hoping she doesn’t have to go through covid at all, but that is she does catch it at this point it won’t make her seriously ill.)
But yeah, the way consents and DNR’s are approached at times look like they were devised to cause maximum distress and panic.
I don’t really have a good answer to this. Me, I’ve got my medical and financial proxies in place for “just in case”, and I’ve discussed my feelings about things with those who may have to make these decisions for me. A lot of people don’t do this, so when the shit hits the fan decision making gets to be a mess.