# Nihilism Award To Linda Carlson: She's Here, She's Queer & She's In eHarmony's Face **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [June 1, 2007, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nihilism-award-to-linda-carlson-shes-here-shes-queer-shes-in-eharmonys-face/406431 "2007-06-01T23:48:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![RickJay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bb73d2/32.png) [@RickJay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RickJay)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2007, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nihilism-award-to-linda-carlson-shes-here-shes-queer-shes-in-eharmonys-face/406431/101 "2007-06-06T17:18:27Z")
[QUOTE=Cheesesteak] I haven’t noticed any statement of this sort in their commercials. If this is their niche, they don’t seem to be talking about it publicly, they just deny service to anyone not in that niche. [/QUOTE] To whom are they **denying** service? ---
**Author:** ![DudleyGarrett](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d9b06d/32.png) [@DudleyGarrett](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DudleyGarrett)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2007, 5:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nihilism-award-to-linda-carlson-shes-here-shes-queer-shes-in-eharmonys-face/406431/102 "2007-06-06T17:24:39Z")
[QUOTE=RickJay] To whom are they **denying** service? [/QUOTE] 🆒 My rejection page didn’t say, “We currently can’t find any matches that fit your profile, but please check back. We’re aiming to get you your number one. If after a year, you still don’t have any matches, we will refund your money.” I’ll paraphrase what it said, “We currently cannot find any matches for you. Sorry. Best of luck to you.” I don’t know what criteria they used to determine this, but I was refused service. This is what I had going for me at the time: 1. 31 years old 2. College student 3. Separated 4. Living with mom 5. Unemployed 6. 5’ 8", 190 lbs Now who wouldn’t want a piece of that? ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2007, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nihilism-award-to-linda-carlson-shes-here-shes-queer-shes-in-eharmonys-face/406431/103 "2007-06-06T17:29:40Z")
[QUOTE=DudleyGarrett] This is what I had going for me at the time: 1. 31 years old 2. College student 3. Separated 4. Living with mom 5. Unemployed 6. 5’ 8", 190 lbs Now who wouldn’t want a piece of that? [/QUOTE] So…How YOU doin’? Though, since Eharmony won’t take either of us (I’m gay)…I guess it just isn’t meant to be. ::sniffle:: ---
**Author:** ![Sean\_Factotum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/50afbb/32.png) [@Sean\_Factotum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sean_Factotum)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2007, 8:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nihilism-award-to-linda-carlson-shes-here-shes-queer-shes-in-eharmonys-face/406431/104 "2007-06-06T20:14:52Z")
[QUOTE=Frank] They appear to be based in Pasadena. But it’s still a good question. Sort of similar to are internet providers of porn subject to the community standards of East Lower Nowhere, Kentucky? [/QUOTE] Tommy Chong was convicted by a court in Pennsylvania for selling paraphenelia even though his business is based across the country. Virginia is attempting to prosecute spammers and other Internet ne’er-do-wells using their law and the fact that a lot of the email goes through the AOL hub. But it looks like **Boyo Jim** found the smoking gun. eHarmony should not legally hold their customers to a standard that they themselves aren’t inclined to follow. ---
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2007, 8:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nihilism-award-to-linda-carlson-shes-here-shes-queer-shes-in-eharmonys-face/406431/105 "2007-06-06T20:31:24Z")
[QUOTE=RickJay] To whom are they **denying** service? [/QUOTE] Denying their service. To gays. You know, the thread topic? Algher suggested they were merely engaging in niche marketing. I submit that they are widely marketing their service, but refusing to serve certain people who don’t fit their profile, such as men who want to meet men and women who want to meet women. ---
**Author:** ![VarlosZ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/d78d45/32.png) [@VarlosZ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VarlosZ)\ **Post date:** [June 6, 2007, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nihilism-award-to-linda-carlson-shes-here-shes-queer-shes-in-eharmonys-face/406431/106 "2007-06-06T20:39:32Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > A matching system that works for straight people should work just as well for gay people, because the way gay people are attracted to each other is functionally identical to the way straight people are attracted to each other. That strikes me as _much_ more of an “extraordinary claim” than the opposite. A person’s gender informs virtually every aspect of his or her psychology. Why shouldn’t we then expect same-sex couples, on balance, to relate to each other differently than hetero couples in certain important ways? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nihilism-award-to-linda-carlson-shes-here-shes-queer-shes-in-eharmonys-face/406431.md?page=5)