# No, being gay doesn't mean you can have sex in public! **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 9, 2003, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228 "2003-07-09T14:01:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![OxyMoron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/e9a140/32.png) [@OxyMoron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OxyMoron)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/41 "2003-07-10T00:27:03Z")
There is a sort of morality to (semi-)public sex, IMHO: 1. If must be discreet. The clueless must be able to retain their ignorance…other than a sort of back-of-the-head, this restroom is awfully crowded for such an out-of-the-way location… and 1. It must not happen where children are likely to be present. The ideal? A university rest room with a double set of doors or a sort of spiral entryway - to give lots of warning for breaking up the extracurriculars in time. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/42 "2003-07-10T00:35:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by OxyMoron \* > \*\*The ideal? A university rest room with a double set of doors or a sort of spiral entryway - to give lots of warning for breaking up the extracurriculars in time. \*\* Or better yet, and probably the absolute ideal for this type of thing, a coin-operated outer door (as opposed to coin-op stalls). ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/43 "2003-07-10T00:56:19Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Kricket \* > \*\*\*got the panties, need to find the bra \* \*\* Aw, forget the bra. It’ll just get in the way. [Esprix voice] Those damned breeders are always butting their way into OUR public sex threads! [/Esprix voice] Warning! Horrible confession sure to sicken the faint of heart! My first time was on the grounds of a CHURCH! (gasp!) Some guy walked by with his dog and I looked up and wished him a good evening. It was dark but I think he had a fair idea what was going on. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/44 "2003-07-10T00:56:49Z")
Well, **Esprix** , I think it’s more that these people were claiming discrimination, rather than just having sex in a public place. Saying, “Well, we’re GAY, so you can’t arrest us”=dumbass. ---
**Author:** ![Harli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c0e974/32.png) [@Harli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harli)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/45 "2003-07-10T01:38:40Z")
**Kwyjibo** , you know I adore you, but I think you may have overreacted to **Esprix** ’s post. Someone correct me if I’m wrong, but **Esprix** appears to be siding with the OP, but warning that there might be those who would accuse you of general stereotyping. And the bitterness appears to be in regards to the thread he posted a link to, not to the OP. Am I mistaken? ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 1:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/46 "2003-07-10T01:59:26Z")
You got it, **Harli** - if everyone missed it, I’m agreeing with the OP. The first part of my post above was only a hypothetical, and, as I said, didn’t seem to be the case in this particular instance. The second part was meant to be sarcasm directed at my detractors who, when I said an equivalent thing you did about straight men, had my ass handed to me. It was not meant to antagonize you, or imply you meant anything other than what you wrote - my point was that we all get it, but only I seem to get taken to task for it when I say the exact same thing and mean it in the exact same way. **Kwyjibo** , you’re not an ignorant fuck, and I never said you were. I agree with you about your OP. These guys should be arrested, and their shouts of discrimination are appalling. **Guin** , you might want to read that, as well. But thanks all the same. Esprix ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/47 "2003-07-10T02:05:36Z")
You got it, **Harli** - if everyone missed it, I’m agreeing with the OP. The first part of my post above was only a hypothetical, and, as I said, didn’t seem to be the case in this particular instance. The second part was meant to be sarcasm directed at my detractors who, when I said an equivalent thing you did about straight men, had my ass handed to me. It was not meant to antagonize you, or imply you meant anything other than what you wrote - my point was that we all get it, but only I seem to get taken to task for it when I say the exact same thing and mean it in the exact same way. **Kwyjibo** , you’re not an ignorant fuck, and I never said you were. I agree with you about your OP. These guys should be arrested, and their shouts of discrimination are appalling. **Guin** , you might want to read that, as well. But thanks all the same. Esprix ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/48 "2003-07-10T02:08:05Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by delphica \* > \*\*places that served Earl Grey and cucumber sandwiches. \*\* Yes, I think I once served Earl Grey in one of those places - or maybe I didn’t catch his name after all. And, oh those cucumber sandwiches - especially the long ones! [collapses onto the fainting couch] ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/49 "2003-07-10T04:07:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Esprix \* > \*\*You got it, **Harli** - if everyone missed it, I’m agreeing with the OP. The first part of my post above was only a hypothetical, and, as I said, didn’t seem to be the case in this particular instance. The second part was meant to be sarcasm directed at my detractors who, when I said an equivalent thing you did about straight men, had my ass handed to me. It was not meant to antagonize you, or imply you meant anything other than what you wrote - my point was that we all get it, but only I seem to get taken to task for it when I say the exact same thing and mean it in the exact same way. > > **Kwyjibo** , you’re not an ignorant fuck, and I never said you were. I agree with you about your OP. These guys should be arrested, and their shouts of discrimination are appalling. **Guin** , you might want to read that, as well. > > But thanks all the same. > > Esprix \*\* Actually, I read that thread, **Esprix** , and I absolutely agreed with you-it’s such a stupid line that people use, and I knew you weren’t saying all straight men were that way. Oh, and you called someone a “choad.” That kicks ass. (And all I said in that thread was to ask if slash fiction written by straight females for other straight females and gay males is okay.) My guess is that these guys were probably so embarassed about getting caught, and this might have been a way to save face. _Maybe_. Dammit, people suck. ---
**Author:** ![SnoopyFan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d07c76/32.png) [@SnoopyFan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnoopyFan)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 4:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/50 "2003-07-10T04:27:08Z")
Sex in a public toilet. How romantic and fitting of something meant to be beautiful and special. Some people … ---
**Author:** ![Kricket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f14d63/32.png) [@Kricket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kricket)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/51 "2003-07-10T04:35:42Z")
Mockingbird, feel free to use it as a sig if you like, to spread the word. That and I’ve never been quoted in a sig line before so that would be kind of cool! blanx, you do realise that you would have to wear those chaps and only those chaps right? dropzone, you are so right, skip the bra! And you know, this could be a new goal for me. When I first started posting I remember Matt\_mcl, Esprix, and Sqrlcub getting hard times about popping into random threads and inserting gay stuff into perfectly good straight threads. Maybe I could do this for the breeders! But then again, I’m a bi-submissive and when I pop into the threads with gay oriented OPs I usually talk about that part of my life or my mom and her girlfriend. I must break this habit at once! You guys know I’m just kidding right? ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 4:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/52 "2003-07-10T04:46:44Z")
Pft. The only thing sex is _meant_ to be is reproductive. We gay folk have already thrown that one out for the most part, why should we be worried about romanticized notions that modern society has imposed on the sex act? ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 4:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/53 "2003-07-10T04:52:36Z")
Besides, wouldn’t it be kind of cramped? Unless they’re using the handicapped stall and in that case, what if someone needed it? ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/54 "2003-07-10T05:16:46Z")
I dunno. I think sex in a public washroom could be quite romantic, provided it was the washroom at Le Cirque. **d&r** ---
**Author:** ![Kricket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f14d63/32.png) [@Kricket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kricket)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 5:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/55 "2003-07-10T05:20:29Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by OxyMoron \* > \*\*There is a sort of morality to (semi-)public sex, IMHO: > > 1. If must be discreet. The clueless must be able to retain their ignorance…other than a sort of back-of-the-head, this restroom is awfully crowded for such an out-of-the-way location… > > and > > 1. It must not happen where children are likely to be present. > > The ideal? A university rest room with a double set of doors or a sort of spiral entryway - to give lots of warning for breaking up the extracurriculars in time. \*\* Exactly! Okay, so we don’t have the same ideal place, but everything else is right on. It’s the thrill of doing something and maybe getting caught, but also that there might be people around who don’t even know what is going on. No children around and not spread eagle on the busiest street in town either. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 5:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/56 "2003-07-10T05:32:46Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Kricket \* > \*\*…and not spread eagle on the busiest street in town either. \*\* Well, that would be one reason it’s the busiest street in town… ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 5:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/57 "2003-07-10T05:47:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Guinastasia \* > > Actually, I read that thread… I meant the sentence I’d just written, so you knew where I was coming from. > [@](#): > > _Originally posted by **SnoopyFan** _ > > Sex in a public toilet. How romantic and fitting of something meant to be beautiful and special. Maybe it’s “meant” to be that way for you, but obviously not everyone is you. M’kay now? Esprix ---
**Author:** ![Pixiesnix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/898d66/32.png) [@Pixiesnix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixiesnix)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 5:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/58 "2003-07-10T05:53:22Z")
This has nothing to do with anything, but if I ever walked in on a couple having sex in a public toilet, I would have an overpowering urge to leave, then come back with my Super Soaker firin’. It’s just the sadistic little kid in me. \ ---
**Author:** ![Kricket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f14d63/32.png) [@Kricket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kricket)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 6:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/59 "2003-07-10T06:33:46Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jayjay \* > \*\*Well, that would be one reason it’s the busiest street in town… \*\* Should I take that as a compliment or as people gathering at a train wreck kind of thing?😉 matt\_mcl, I don’t get the Le Cirque thing, but I can see how the smell of urinal cakes could be appealing to some. Okay, some people with a strange sense of smell, but I’m sure there is someone out there. ---
**Author:** ![Kwyjibo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/59ef9b/32.png) [@Kwyjibo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kwyjibo)\ **Post date:** [July 10, 2003, 12:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228/60 "2003-07-10T12:36:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Esprix \* > \*\*Kwyjibo, you’re not an ignorant fuck, and I never said you were. I agree with you about your OP. These guys should be arrested, and their shouts of discrimination are appalling. > But thanks all the same. > > Esprix \*\* :smack: My most sincere apologies to you Esprix. After re-reading your post (and a solid smack in the head from **Harli** , I realise that I did misread what your were saying and jumped the gun in a most Olympic style. (Gotta give me credit though. All the judges gave me a 10.) Assuming that you were jumping on me because of the subject matter was rather, how do you say, fuckingly ignorant of me. Again, my apologies. Kwyj. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-being-gay-doesnt-mean-you-can-have-sex-in-public/187228.md?page=4)