# 'No' Means November Rants **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 31, 2013, 7:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729 "2013-10-31T07:36:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 15
**Author:** ![Catamount](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/catamount/32/2840_2.png) [@Catamount](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Catamount)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2013, 7:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/281 "2013-11-10T19:27:32Z")
> [@Chimera](#): > > I’d get her some special food, but the damned cat is so spoiled rotten that she won’t eat anything but the best anyway. (Fancy Feast ‘Mornings’ souffle food) Served in a crystal goblet on a velvet cushion, no less! ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2013, 10:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/282 "2013-11-10T22:18:16Z")
> [@SpazCat](#): > > Served in a crystal goblet on a velvet cushion, no less! Bah! Fie on thee for suggesting she might settle for such peasant faux rich salvers. Nothing less than a diamond and ruby encrusted gold serving bowl on a hand woven silk brocade will do. ---
**Author:** ![curlcoat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ea5d25/32.png) [@curlcoat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/curlcoat)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/283 "2013-11-11T02:53:17Z")
> [@flatlined](#): > > Knows that this is pretty minor considering everyone’s pain, but I think our 3 year old cat won’t be coming home from the vet. Cat’s aren’t people, cats aren’t kids, cats are just pets. I know this. It doesn’t matter, we love our big boy and this really sucks. Wait, what? I’ve been out of town and not following closely - what happened??? Which cat? Please tell me it came out ok, I am terrified of losing Psycho Kitty, I know your pain. ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/284 "2013-11-11T22:55:58Z")
Every time you open your mouth, you double down on the arrogant and stupid. That is all. ---
**Author:** ![Seanette](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/seanette/32/9139_2.png) [@Seanette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Seanette)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/285 "2013-11-11T23:07:17Z")
What did His Egosity say/do now? ---
**Author:** ![Morgyn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morgyn/32/3041_2.png) [@Morgyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgyn)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/286 "2013-11-11T23:08:38Z")
> [@Seanette](#): > > What did His Egosity say/do now? Breathed in a superior manner? ---
**Author:** ![Rhiannon8404](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rhiannon8404/32/17929_2.png) [@Rhiannon8404](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhiannon8404)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2013, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/287 "2013-11-11T23:39:37Z")
> [@curlcoat](#): > > Wait, what? I’ve been out of town and not following closely - what happened??? Which cat? Please tell me it came out ok, I am terrified of losing Psycho Kitty, I know your pain. Update [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=707399), in case **flatlined** doesn’t get back to this thread. ---
**Author:** ![flatlined](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/eb9ed0/32.png) [@flatlined](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flatlined)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/288 "2013-11-12T00:02:20Z")
Thanks everyone for the kind words and thoughts. Baker is home, but he’s still a very sick lil furface. He’s got a URI, an infection somewhere that isn’t responding to antibiotics and has lost 3/4 of a pound since Friday. That’s pretty significant for a critter who’s “fighting weight” is 11 1/2 pounds. A 9 percent weight loss over 72 hours is really not good for cats. He’s in quarentine and we are wearing disposable painters’ overalls and surgical booties when we visit him, then tossing those and using hand sanatizer when we leave the room. The kittens who I suspect started this are at the rescue vet and showing no signs of being sick. She’s going to keep them for a couple of weeks just to be sure that they aren’t sick before they go to adoptions. Our vet says that this probably wasn’t the kittens, that we probably brought it in from somewhere else or that one of the stray cats I feed was looking through the window and sneezed at one of them. No matter how it happened, I feel terrible guilty. When we brought him into our family, we promised to take good care of him for the rest of his life and now this is happening because I got careless. Poor little fuzzbutt deserves a better caretaker. PHS, I’m glad the yard sale is over. When I did mine, I hated it as well and it was all _my_ stuff. Yeah, its nice to have people come and pay you to take it away so you don’t have to haul it to St. Vincents, but OMG, the demands for discounts and add-ins made me nutz. After about an hour, I made Tony deal with them. He didn’t have the emotional attachment to my stuff that I did. The first thing he did was to double the prices on everything, and changed my “free stuff” boxes to $1.00 a box. I don’t know if we made more that way, but Tony enjoyed dickering with them and almost all of my stuff went away. ---
**Author:** ![LavenderBlue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e95f7d/32.png) [@LavenderBlue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LavenderBlue)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/289 "2013-11-12T01:17:34Z")
> [@EmilyG](#): > > Well, that sounds like it may be a very small step in the right direction, then. > > I wish you and your family the best of luck, **LavenderBlue.** Thank you. > [@Chimera](#): > > Two color words… > LavenderBlue… > > _My Gawd, she’s reading the dope!_ :eek: > > 😃 Very possibly. 😃 So go post lots of pictures of cats. Since this is the pit, [go fuck yourself, Jenny McCarthy.](http://www.newrepublic.com/article/115551/jenny-mccarthy-anti-vaccination-movement-blame-whooping-cough) I swear that dumb bitch could break a rib from pertussis and she would still argue against the vaccine. They had a case at the local elementary last year damn it. ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 2:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/290 "2013-11-12T02:46:22Z")
> [@flatlined](#): > > PHS, I’m glad the yard sale is over. When I did mine, I hated it as well and it was all _my_ stuff. Yeah, its nice to have people come and pay you to take it away so you don’t have to haul it to St. Vincents, but OMG, the demands for discounts and add-ins made me nutz. After about an hour, I made Tony deal with them. He didn’t have the emotional attachment to my stuff that I did. The first thing he did was to double the prices on everything, and changed my “free stuff” boxes to $1.00 a box. I don’t know if we made more that way, but Tony enjoyed dickering with them and almost all of my stuff went away. I LOVE that story. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/291 "2013-11-12T03:40:31Z")
> [@flatlined](#): > > \ No matter how it happened, I feel terrible guilty. When we brought him into our family, we promised to take good care of him for the rest of his life and now this is happening because I got careless. Poor little fuzzbutt deserves a better caretaker.\ I don’t agree with that at all - you’re not perfect, just like the rest of us who share our lives with little animals. You don’t know where Baker picked up his virus - maybe you were careless, or maybe it just showed up - you can’t keep cats in a bubble (Lord knows they’d claw their way out if you tried!). ---
**Author:** ![Rhiannon8404](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rhiannon8404/32/17929_2.png) [@Rhiannon8404](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhiannon8404)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/292 "2013-11-12T04:06:42Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > I don’t agree with that at all - you’re not perfect, just like the rest of us who share our lives with little animals. You don’t know where Baker picked up his virus - maybe you were careless, or maybe it just showed up - you can’t keep cats in a bubble (Lord knows they’d claw their way out if you tried!). I agree with **Cat Whisperer** ’s disagreement. You just can’t know how it happened. Try not to feel bad. Hugs! ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 4:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/293 "2013-11-12T04:29:41Z")
> [@Hung\_Mung](#): > > My wife, I love you. But work with me here. I’m not happy you are home with our newborn while I work any more than you are. > [@Chimera](#): > > One of the things that has really bothered me in my relationships, not only intimate relationships but family and friend relationships, is this idea that women are able to vent and be listened to and given sympathy, but men need to shut the hell up and bottle up their feelings and frustrations and “be strong”, because apparently, _ **we aren’t allowed to have emotions or feelings or frustrations** _. > [@Seanette](#): > > I totally agree that you have a very valid point here, and that that societal double standard is harmful to both sexes. > > That said, women can get hit with something very similar. My husband is out of work, and most of the people we know are (understandably) very concerned about his emotional well-being. That’s reasonable. Problem is, no one seems to be aware that I’m here and having problems, I’m expected to just focus on him, and not be so selfish as to have my own emotional issues in a bad situation. Dedicated to [you guys](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HxUuDPNbkJk&list=RDXI7YzUKE_wI&noredirect=1). ---
**Author:** ![TheFaerie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c57346/32.png) [@TheFaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheFaerie)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/294 "2013-11-12T14:39:26Z")
> [@Nava](#): > > Dedicated to [you guys](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HxUuDPNbkJk&list=RDXI7YzUKE_wI&noredirect=1). Love this. It reminds me of something that happened right after I started my new job. My husband retired back in August, and prior to that he talked about work and his asshole boss all the damn time. Every evening was a constant stream of bitching about his job and his financial planning processes for retirement and how stressed and unhappy he was… Until he was unexpectely retired. (Which probably saved our marriage, but that’s another story.) I started my new job in late September and one day that week I came home and started talking about my day and my experiences and the new HR stuff and IT restrictions and, well whatever else I was bitchy about that day. After about an hour of this I suddenly realized that I was being listened to and he wasn’t interrupting to try to one-up me with his crazy/stressful day. It was finally my turn. ---
**Author:** ![Folacin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/folacin/32/3195_2.png) [@Folacin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Folacin)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/295 "2013-11-12T16:03:13Z")
> [@LavenderBlue](#): > > Thank you all for your good wishes. I was working today so I was unable to attend the therapy session. My husband told me it went poorly alas. Our daughter was far more interested in playing with the cool toys than interacting with the therapist. She’s going to work on some strategies to try and get her more involved in the session. In the meantime, they want us to find a developmental ped for more evaluation. > > I admit I’m still very worried. Hubby did tell me she said a few more words to the therapist including two color words she’s never said before. I can’t tell you not to worry - but your daughter sounds like my son. He wasn’t talking at 2.5 (or 3, really) so we took him to speech therapy. He had absolutely no interest in the speech therapist, to the point where after a few visits the therapist told us we were wasting our time. He graduated with honors from HS and makes the Dean’s list in college. From some other comments - your daughter has older siblings? One thing we found out later was that the little shit _was_ talking to his older brother - just didn’t see any reason to talk with any adults, since grunting and pointing worked with them. And his brother didn’t know that not talking to adults was causing a minor freak out. ---
**Author:** ![Canadjun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/76d3ee/32.png) [@Canadjun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Canadjun)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 6:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/296 "2013-11-12T18:26:16Z")
> [@Folacin](#): > > I can’t tell you not to worry - but your daughter sounds like my son. He wasn’t talking at 2.5 (or 3, really) so we took him to speech therapy. He had absolutely no interest in the speech therapist, to the point where after a few visits the therapist told us we were wasting our time. > > He graduated with honors from HS and makes the Dean’s list in college. > > From some other comments - your daughter has older siblings? One thing we found out later was that the little shit _was_ talking to his older brother - just didn’t see any reason to talk with any adults, since grunting and pointing worked with them. And his brother didn’t know that not talking to adults was causing a minor freak out. My older sister has told me many times that I also didn’t start talking until I was 3 (and then wouldn’t shut up! :D). I too had older siblings. I’m not even sure speech therapists existed 57 years ago; in any case I wasn’t taken to one. ---
**Author:** ![Kimballkid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b5a626/32.png) [@Kimballkid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimballkid)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/297 "2013-11-12T19:35:59Z")
> [@Hung\_Mung](#): > > **neon** able to leave. Bolding mine. Must be some kind of sign. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![slumtrimpet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b5e925/32.png) [@slumtrimpet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slumtrimpet)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/298 "2013-11-12T20:43:16Z")
My younger daughter also started talking late (2 1/2 - 3). And then when she did she stuttered. Not the ttttalk kind of stutter, she’d start a sentence and then interrupt herself and start over, and over and over. I finally figured out that the poor kid literally couldn’t finish a sentence without being interrupted by her older sister (and her parents) who never. shut. up. Once we all let her talk she was fine. Graduated university summa cum laude. My twin nephews were unintelligible to anyone outside their immediate family when they finally did start ‘talking’. They actually did go to speech therapy in grade school. They’re fine too. Both graduated magna cum laude from Ivy league schools and are quite fabulously successful adults. And no one has any problem understanding them. So **LavenderBlue** , don’t worry too much just yet. Assuming all her other developmental markers are relatively normal (like playing with cool new toys!) she’s most likely going to be perfectly fine. ---
**Author:** ![perfectparanoia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/a5b964/32.png) [@perfectparanoia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/perfectparanoia)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/299 "2013-11-12T21:14:11Z")
I don’t even know where to start with this rant. My mind has been blown. Let’s start off with the backstory: I have separated from my husband and he ended up with the house. Ergo, I am homeless. I rent a crappy bachelor until I can figure out what to do. And my prayers are answered. One of my coworkers is assigned overseas for 10 months and needs a housesitter. Enter me having a house. This coworker is married with three children under 6. I expected that the house would be quite untidy and that there would be some amount of cleaning to do. So, me and some of my closest friends and family went there on Sunday to move me in. Oh. My. God. Nothing in the house had been cleaned for at least six months. I actually barfed while trying to clean out the fridge. The smell emanating from the linen closet actually made us all lightheaded. That was only half the problem. Every closet, drawer, cupboard and shelf held about three times its capacity. I couldn’t even fit anything on the kitchen counter let alone put any of my clothes away. So far, I am up to about 40 man-hours and I have cleaned out three bedrooms and found the kitchen counter and fridge. I know the digs are free but I just don’t have time to deal with all this. (Or the cash to pay someone to. The whole point was to save for my own place.) \ ---
**Author:** ![EmilyG](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/emilyg/32/364_2.png) [@EmilyG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmilyG)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2013, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729/300 "2013-11-12T21:38:50Z")
Dear new mayor of my city, Congrats on the new job. Now, can you please, please ban leaf blowers? If you do so, I will always be eternally grateful to you forever. Thanks. Sincerely, me. In other news, I have a huge inflamed, infected spot under my eye. It seems to be a monster pimple. My boss saw it today and asked me if I’d injured myself. :mad: Come on, I’m embarrassed enough as it is without people somewhat-publicly calling attention to my blemishes. :mad: Also, **{{perfectparanoia}}**. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729.md?page=14) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-means-november-rants/672729.md?page=16)