# No, this is not an inappropriate comment **URL:** \ **Category:** About This Message Board\ **Created:** [October 13, 2019, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717 "2019-10-13T15:11:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![tomndebb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b9e5f3/32.png) [@tomndebb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tomndebb)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2019, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717/41 "2019-10-14T19:21:29Z")
> [@Thudlow\_Boink](#): > > As I see it, the problem with commenting on the appearance of women isn’t with commenting on their appearance _per se_, but with sexualizing them, when the topic has nothing to do with them as sex objects. True. However, any comment on appearance (not aesthetics) has the potential to turn sexual at some point. And my point was that if we as a society wish to eliminate the sort of discomfort that women feel in such situations, we should simply stop making those references. And making similar comments about men in such situations simply becomes an excuse for others to say “why not about women when we do it regarding men?”. ---
**Author:** ![madsircool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madsircool/32/3432_2.png) [@madsircool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madsircool)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2019, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717/42 "2019-10-14T19:54:59Z")
> [@MrDibble](#): > > Which of those two do you think “look like an understudy in a porn video?” would be? Neither. Any male can have a pornstar mustache. ---
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2019, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717/43 "2019-10-14T20:26:24Z")
> [@madsircool](#): > > Neither. Wait, you’re saying “an understudy in a porn movie” is not “a pornstar”? I thought \*all \*porn actors were pornstars. ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2019, 8:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717/44 "2019-10-14T20:51:01Z")
> [@Joey\_P](#): > > So…if I’m reading this right, the post about the mustache did not, as you said, violate any rules. The other thing you commented about in that post was the Jr Modding and personal insults. > Sounds to me like the insults and Jr Modding should have been noted, but the original comment shouldn’t have been since, again as you said, it didn’t violate any rules. > > If we’re going to note/warn people because they say something that doesn’t rise to the level where it violates board rules, we might as well change the rules. > It’s like a cop pulling someone over and warning them that they’re going 54 in a 55 zone and they’re almost speeding. Not exactly. The better analogy would be: you were speeding AND weaving in and out of traffic. Here’s your ticket for those. While I’m here, I’ll let you know that your tail light is flickering. You should get it fixed, but no ticket. ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2019, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717/45 "2019-10-14T20:56:48Z")
> [@MrDibble](#): > > Wait, you’re saying “an understudy in a porn movie” is not “a pornstar”? I thought \*all \*porn actors were pornstars. You’re a shining star. No matter who you are. ---
**Author:** ![Kron](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kron/32/12444_2.png) [@Kron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kron)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2019, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717/46 "2019-10-14T21:34:23Z")
> [@Atamasama](#): > > Another angle is to try to make “lip mohawk” a thing. Is that was Hitler was going for? It fits the mohawk style. You heard it here, Hitler was sporting a lip mohawk. ---
**Author:** ![splatterpunk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3be4f8/32.png) [@splatterpunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/splatterpunk)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717/47 "2019-10-15T00:46:44Z")
> [@LC\_Strawhouse](#): > > Uh… whoosh? Obviously, I was joking about it being a “board rule” So, writing “NO JOKE” makes it obvious you were joking? ---
**Author:** ![LC\_Strawhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@LC\_Strawhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LC_Strawhouse)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 1:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717/48 "2019-10-15T01:00:41Z")
> [@splatterpunk](#): > > So, writing “NO JOKE” makes it obvious you were joking? Oh FFS, I thought I made a silly statement (that I’m sure nobody believed) complete with a smiley following along in the next sentence. Next time I’ll put a wink so it’s super clear. Hey, if people don’t see the humor in a grown adult repeatedly complaining to the mods over rudeness to a hockey team (shades of James Otto’s Sweetheart) then I don’t know what to say… ---
**Author:** ![splatterpunk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3be4f8/32.png) [@splatterpunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/splatterpunk)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 6:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717/49 "2019-10-15T06:29:12Z")
> [@LC\_Strawhouse](#): > > Oh FFS, I thought I made a silly statement (that I’m sure nobody believed) complete with a smiley following along in the next sentence. Next time I’ll put a wink so it’s super clear. I have a better idea: how about next time don’t post stupid shit? > [@](#): > > Hey, if people don’t see the humor in a grown adult repeatedly complaining to the mods over rudeness to a hockey team (shades of James Otto’s Sweetheart) then I don’t know what to say… Yeah, no. There was no “grown adult repeatedly complaining to the mods over rudeness to a hockey team.” However, there was you, who was following another poster around and dropping turds about the Maple Leafs because you thought it was “hilarious” to do so. Protip: Nobody but you thought that shit was “hilarious.” ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 6:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717/50 "2019-10-15T06:38:48Z")
> [@splatterpunk](#): > > Protip: Nobody but you thought that shit was “hilarious.” Well, Phil Kessel probably does nowadays. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717/51 "2019-10-15T11:36:57Z")
> [@Sunny\_Daze](#): > > Not exactly. The better analogy would be: you were speeding AND weaving in and out of traffic. Here’s your ticket for those. While I’m here, I’ll let you know that your tail light is flickering. You should get it fixed, but no ticket. I’m not sure I’m understanding how that’s the same. He was told, in no uncertain terms, he wasn’t breaking any board rules, but here’s a warning anyways. ---
**Author:** ![LC\_Strawhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@LC\_Strawhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LC_Strawhouse)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 11:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717/52 "2019-10-15T11:37:41Z")
> [@splatterpunk](#): > > I have a better idea: how about next time don’t post stupid shit? Okay man, from now on I promise to only post clear simple affirmations in threads where people complain about not getting dates. (Whee!) > [@splatterpunk](#): > > Yeah, no. There was no “grown adult repeatedly complaining to the mods over rudeness to a hockey team.” However, there was you, who was following another poster around and dropping turds about the Maple Leafs because you thought it was “hilarious” to do so. > > Protip: Nobody but you thought that shit was “hilarious.” Aww darn, really? ☹ Anyway, I admit that I couldn’t believe Leaffan’s team spirit was for real at first, but I’m pretty sure I have left him alone about the Leafs for the last 7 or so years. And yes, I did think it was hilarious that he’s now got moderators involved over a slight on the current Leafs team. > [@Guinastasia](#): > > Well, Phil Kessel probably does nowadays. I’d reply but I’m not sure if I’m allowed to. 😉😉 ---
**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2019, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717/53 "2019-10-15T20:36:46Z")
**Moderator Note** > [@splatterpunk](#): > > I have a better idea: how about next time don’t post stupid shit? > > Yeah, no. There was no “grown adult repeatedly complaining to the mods over rudeness to a hockey team.” However, there was you, who was following another poster around and dropping turds about the Maple Leafs because you thought it was “hilarious” to do so. > > Protip: Nobody but you thought that shit was “hilarious.” This is ATMB, not the Pit. Dial it way back, please. ---
**Author:** ![Irishman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b487fb/32.png) [@Irishman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Irishman)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2019, 2:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717/54 "2019-10-16T14:27:50Z")
> [@Thudlow\_Boink](#): > > As I see it, the problem with commenting on the appearance of women isn’t with commenting on their appearance _per se_, but with sexualizing them, when the topic has nothing to do with them as sex objects. Agree. > [@tomndebb](#): > > True. However, any comment on appearance (not aesthetics) has the potential to turn sexual at some point. And my point was that if we as a society wish to eliminate the sort of discomfort that women feel in such situations, we should simply stop making those references. And making similar comments about men in such situations simply becomes an excuse for others to say “why not about women when we do it regarding men?”. But is the proper societal response to stop all references to appearance, or to stamp down on the sexual comments? In this particular instance, saying the player has a “pornstache” would probably fly, but trying to be witty, he made it about porn _videos_. I think avoiding the porn reference would be better. I don’t think the issue was hijacking so much as making sexualized comments. I think if **Chronos** had phrased it that way, it would have drawn less attention. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-this-is-not-an-inappropriate-comment/841717.md?page=2)