# No-touch male orgasm/ejaculation, how does it happen? **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [June 6, 2011, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-touch-male-orgasm-ejaculation-how-does-it-happen/584466 "2011-06-06T01:50:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![R.P.McMurphy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7993a0/32.png) [@R.P.McMurphy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R.P.McMurphy)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2011, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-touch-male-orgasm-ejaculation-how-does-it-happen/584466/21 "2011-06-08T02:59:48Z")
> [@rachelellogram](#): > > The value judgment of PE here seems over-the-top for a GQ answer. There are plenty of males who ejaculate prematurely some, most, or all of the time who still are able to please their partners through the use of oral stimulation, manual stimulation, and toys. You make it sound like a male with PE is doomed to never be able to please his sex partner, and that is ridiculously untrue. > > Disclaimer: I have no dog in this fight as I am neither male, nor dating a pre-ejaculatory male. I think you are a bit over the top. Premature ejaculation is a sexual disorder that can lead to a lot of stress and frustration. While it can be overcome it is a not so uncommon condition for which people actually seek treatment. They seek treatment in order to better satisfy their partner, not because sex is just about “getting off.” I have no dog in this fight. I am male and I am not pre-ejaculatory. But I do know people that have had to cope with it. > [@Lazlo](#): > > Heh. Spoken like a quarterback. **CORRECTED!** ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2011, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-touch-male-orgasm-ejaculation-how-does-it-happen/584466/22 "2011-06-08T03:25:30Z")
It happens to my partner all the time, while he’s pleasuring me. And it’s happened to me many times, even lately, though I no longer get erections. In our case it has nothing to do with premature ejaculation, in that an ejaculation is what it is, and cannot be “premature,” in the sense of diminishing our enjoyment. I suppose if we had a “vanilla” sex life the issue of prematurity would be relevant, but in our case it’s not. We don’t have a set sequence of events, like usually exist in a vanilla relationship, so when one of us has an orgasm, it simply diverts the activity into a different direction, and is not a problem. ---
**Author:** ![R.P.McMurphy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7993a0/32.png) [@R.P.McMurphy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R.P.McMurphy)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2011, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-touch-male-orgasm-ejaculation-how-does-it-happen/584466/23 "2011-06-08T03:31:08Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > It happens to my partner all the time, while he’s pleasuring me. And it’s happened to me many times, even lately, though I no longer get erections. In our case it has nothing to do with premature ejaculation, in that an ejaculation is what it is, and cannot be “premature,” in the sense of diminishing our enjoyment. I suppose if we had a “vanilla” sex life the issue of prematurity would be relevant, but in our case it’s not. We don’t have a set sequence of events, like usually exist in a vanilla relationship, so when one of us has an orgasm, it simply diverts the activity into a different direction, and is not a problem. OK, so you have overcome it. That’s what I am talking about. For others, particularly in the early stages of their relationship, it can be a source of resentment and frustration. ---
**Author:** ![Vihaga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b4bc9f/32.png) [@Vihaga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vihaga)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2011, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-touch-male-orgasm-ejaculation-how-does-it-happen/584466/24 "2011-06-08T03:56:49Z")
> [@njtt](#): > > If anything, the mystery is why it usually takes a lot of rubbing to make it happen. Reproduction would, surely, work just as well, or better, if the man normally shot his wad as soon as he got in his todger in the pussy. Reproduction doesn’t work so well, though, if no girl has sex with you twice. ;-D ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2011, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-touch-male-orgasm-ejaculation-how-does-it-happen/584466/25 "2011-06-08T03:58:32Z")
> [@R.P.McMurphy](#): > > OK, so you have overcome it. That’s what I am talking about. For others, particularly in the early stages of their relationship, it can be a source of resentment and frustration. Well, there’s really nothing to “overcome.” It’s just that in our sexual relationship orgasms don’t have the “finality” that they seem to have for other people. An orgasm may or may not happen, and the activity may or may not continue afterward. So there’s never a sense of it being “premature.” ---
**Author:** ![TehBearJew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/eb8c5e/32.png) [@TehBearJew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TehBearJew)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2011, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-touch-male-orgasm-ejaculation-how-does-it-happen/584466/26 "2011-06-08T04:18:44Z")
> [@DWMarch](#): > > Peter North. the Human Glue Gun ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 2011, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-touch-male-orgasm-ejaculation-how-does-it-happen/584466/27 "2011-06-08T18:13:34Z")
I remember reading a history of pre-Castro Cuba. There was a chapter about the debauched nightlife in Havana, back when the Mafia was running things. One of the stage acts was a handsome guy who could sit naked on stage, alone, and without touching himself in any way, think erotic thoughts sufficiently exciting to make himself come. Up with People it wasn’t. ---
**Author:** ![DWMarch](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dwmarch/32/1010_2.png) [@DWMarch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DWMarch)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-touch-male-orgasm-ejaculation-how-does-it-happen/584466/28 "2011-06-10T06:44:25Z")
> [@TehBearJew](#): > > the Human Glue Gun I’ve also seen him referred to as the “yogurt cannon” which I think is also pretty apt. Has anyone ever noticed how much he resembles Gen. Petraeus? Has anyone ever seen them in the same room together? Brave battle commander by day, porn superstar by night! Edit: > [@](#): > > Up with People it wasn’t. Up with Proto-People? ---
**Author:** ![md2000](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/73ab20/32.png) [@md2000](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/md2000)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-touch-male-orgasm-ejaculation-how-does-it-happen/584466/29 "2011-06-10T18:02:45Z")
> [@md2000](#): > > The largest and most important sex organ is the one between the ears. > [@Satchmo](#): > > On you, maybe. > 😉 Yes, I do have an overly large brain. ---
**Author:** ![Khendrask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3e96dc/32.png) [@Khendrask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khendrask)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-touch-male-orgasm-ejaculation-how-does-it-happen/584466/30 "2011-06-10T19:56:08Z")
> [@md2000](#): > > The largest and most important sex organ is the one between the ears. > [@kayaker](#): > > I’ll never understand you nose fetishists. I so wish I could nominate this exchange for the reply of the month. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-touch-male-orgasm-ejaculation-how-does-it-happen/584466/31 "2011-06-10T21:28:01Z")
> [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](#): > > I remember reading a history of pre-Castro Cuba. There was a chapter about the debauched nightlife in Havana, back when the Mafia was running things. One of the stage acts was a handsome guy who could sit naked on stage, alone, and without touching himself in any way, think erotic thoughts sufficiently exciting to make himself come. My partner can do this, but probably\* not in front of an audience. \*Who knows, he might. ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2011, 9:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-touch-male-orgasm-ejaculation-how-does-it-happen/584466/32 "2011-06-10T21:59:19Z")
> [@R.P.McMurphy](#): > > > [@](#): > > > > Quote: > > Originally Posted by Lazlo > > Heh. Spoken like a quarterback. > > CORRECTED! > > **CORRECTED!** [Moderator Note] This is a reminder that altering the text within a quote box while leaving the attribution is against the rules. Please do not do this again. No warning issued. Colibri General Questions Moderator [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/no-touch-male-orgasm-ejaculation-how-does-it-happen/584466.md?page=1)