# Not the one that got away, but the one you didn't even try for. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 31, 2012, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/not-the-one-that-got-away-but-the-one-you-didnt-even-try-for/611250 "2012-01-31T01:28:29Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![FriarTed](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/friarted/32/1052_2.png) [@FriarTed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FriarTed)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2012, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/not-the-one-that-got-away-but-the-one-you-didnt-even-try-for/611250/21 "2012-01-31T16:03:53Z")
I’ve always been the fat guy who had crushes on girls out of my league. I graduated high school in 1980. Around 1990, I realized the cute lusciously-zaftig valedictorian girl in my class who kept asking me for my school pic & I just never got around to giving her one (and I had plenty)- well, I mighta had a chance. I saw her at the reunion before last- still pretty & friendly but lean, muscular, kinda sun-aged & seems to prefer her own gender, so I just didn’t ask. ---
**Author:** ![garygnu](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/garygnu/32/2924_2.png) [@garygnu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/garygnu)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2012, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/not-the-one-that-got-away-but-the-one-you-didnt-even-try-for/611250/22 "2012-01-31T16:08:15Z")
My junior year of high school I was deciding between two girls to ask to a dance. A super-hot sophomore and a cute junior. Both seemed into me enough to take the risk. I picked the cute junior, but she actually was batshit insane and already had a boyfriend (something she didn’t reveal until our second date). The other one was sane and is now a well-adjusted, successful artist and still super-hot. It might never had lasted (or even begun), but damn did I pick wrong. ---
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2012, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/not-the-one-that-got-away-but-the-one-you-didnt-even-try-for/611250/23 "2012-01-31T17:00:20Z")
A nice, attractive Chinese-American girl hinted to my dense self in high school that I should ask her out, which I didn’t. Awhile back I found out that she had gone on to a respected career as a film actress. The important one however did _not_ get away. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2012, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/not-the-one-that-got-away-but-the-one-you-didnt-even-try-for/611250/24 "2012-01-31T17:17:26Z")
Find out years down the line that there was this one hot chick I could have totally nailed if I hadn’t been so oblivious? Yeah, fortunately the universe seems to have spared me this indignity. ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2012, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/not-the-one-that-got-away-but-the-one-you-didnt-even-try-for/611250/25 "2012-01-31T17:36:35Z")
> [@Dogzilla](#): > > …So yeah. I coulda been a contender. But I was generally too drunk and/or stoned at the time to realize/notice that I only knew _one_ guy named Chip. (Hey, he looked _totally_ different in the light of day.)… Something similar happened to Hollywood star Gene Tierney. From Wiki: \*Two weeks after \*The Male Animal \* [her stage debut] opened, one evening before the curtain went up, there was a rumor that Darryl F. Zanuck, the head of 20th Century Fox had flown in from the coast and was in the audience. During the performance, he told an assistant to make a note of Tierney’s name. Later that night, Zanuck dropped by the Stork Club, where he saw a young lady on the dance floor. He told his assistant, “Forget the girl from the play. See if you can sign that one.” It was Tierney. Zanuck was not easily convinced that the two women were one and the same. Tierney was quoted after the fact, “I always had several different ‘looks’, a quality that proved useful in my career.” \* ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2012, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/not-the-one-that-got-away-but-the-one-you-didnt-even-try-for/611250/26 "2012-01-31T18:46:13Z")
I thought I could do better. Turns out I couldn’t :smack: ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2012, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/not-the-one-that-got-away-but-the-one-you-didnt-even-try-for/611250/27 "2012-01-31T19:50:16Z")
> [@Dogzilla](#): > > So yeah. I coulda been a contender. But I was generally too drunk and/or stoned at the time to realize/notice that I only knew _one_ guy named Chip. That would explain my confusion. “ **Dogzilla** knew more than one Chip? There aren’t that many Chips out there.” ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2012, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/not-the-one-that-got-away-but-the-one-you-didnt-even-try-for/611250/28 "2012-01-31T19:53:22Z")
[QUOTE=Gene Tierney] I always had several different ‘looks’, a quality that proved useful in my career. [/QUOTE] And all of which [really worked well.](http://www.google.com/search?q=Gene+Tierney&hl=en&safe=off&prmd=imvnso&source=lnms&tbm=isch&ei=MEYoT-72OIvgggemkqDXBA&sa=X&oi=mode_link&ct=mode&cd=2&ved=0CA8Q_AUoAQ&biw=1024&bih=677) ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2012, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/not-the-one-that-got-away-but-the-one-you-didnt-even-try-for/611250/29 "2012-01-31T19:56:59Z")
> [@Malacandra](#): > > Find out years down the line that there was this one hot chick I could have totally nailed if I hadn’t been so oblivious? Yeah, fortunately the universe seems to have spared me this indignity. Maybe you just haven’t realized it yet. It’s given that guys are clueless idiots. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2012, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/not-the-one-that-got-away-but-the-one-you-didnt-even-try-for/611250/30 "2012-01-31T20:09:23Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > And all of which [really worked well.](http://www.google.com/search?q=Gene+Tierney&hl=en&safe=off&prmd=imvnso&source=lnms&tbm=isch&ei=MEYoT-72OIvgggemkqDXBA&sa=X&oi=mode_link&ct=mode&cd=2&ved=0CA8Q_AUoAQ&biw=1024&bih=677) Most definitely. I just saw her in _Laura_. She was quite a beaut. ---
**Author:** ![Dogzilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@Dogzilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dogzilla)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2012, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/not-the-one-that-got-away-but-the-one-you-didnt-even-try-for/611250/31 "2012-01-31T20:26:02Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > That would explain my confusion. “ **Dogzilla** knew more than one Chip? There aren’t that many Chips out there.” 😃 Since then, I’ve met another Chip – the brother of my BFF. This time, I was 100% absolutely, positively _sure_ it wasn’t the same Chip. (I had to interrogate him: “Did you work as a bartender at The Union in the early 1990s?” :dubious: Are you\* sure\*?) ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2012, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/not-the-one-that-got-away-but-the-one-you-didnt-even-try-for/611250/32 "2012-01-31T22:43:18Z")
> [@Jackmannii](#): > > A nice, attractive Chinese-American girl hinted to my dense self in high school that I should ask her out, which I didn’t. Awhile back I found out that she had gone on to a respected career as a film actress. > > The important one however did _not_ get away. 🙂 You could have dated Lucy Liu?! And your wife is the important one? You are one lucky guy. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/not-the-one-that-got-away-but-the-one-you-didnt-even-try-for/611250.md?page=1)