# Number of sexual partners **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 17, 2011, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193 "2011-11-17T01:12:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![codgerone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c37758/32.png) [@codgerone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/codgerone)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/1 "2011-11-17T01:12:17Z")
Don’t know if this has been done before but anyway… Having just split from my long term partner, I got to thinking about the women in my life. I’m a 56 year old guy, by no means gods gift to a grateful womankind but not hideous either. I lost my virginity at 16 so that’s 40 years of sexual activity. In that time I’ve had 3 long term relationships ( 5years or more), 1 six month frenzied teenage fuckfest, 2 occasional partners, sort of friends with benefits and 5 one night stands. I’m not trying to brag, I’m not even sure if this is bragworthy or pathetic. I’m just curious. Anyone else care to share? ---
**Author:** ![Full\_Metal\_Lotus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/df705f/32.png) [@Full\_Metal\_Lotus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Full_Metal_Lotus)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/2 "2011-11-17T01:30:00Z")
not sure what honour there is in being a first reponder to this, but anyway, here goes: Age 50, male, 3 major unions (married twice), 1 major girlfriend, tons of casual sex, one night stands and such… probably another 80 or so sexual partners… I was faithful during marraige but a total slut between committed relationships, just lucky I didn’t catch a STD… this should really be a pole…err poll ---
**Author:** ![nikonikosuru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5f8ce5/32.png) [@nikonikosuru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nikonikosuru)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/3 "2011-11-17T01:35:46Z")
25 year old female. Been sexually active since 18 (counting oral/digital sex) but lost the PIV virginity at 23. Had three partners over the seven year period (one soon after another, was in relationships with all three.) ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/4 "2011-11-17T01:53:59Z")
\*Niles Crane: "I have a patient who has had sex with over 300 women! Ridiculous. As if any number over 8 matters. Frasier Crane: “I would have said 11, but I agree with your sentiments.”\* ---
**Author:** ![Cryptic\_C62](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/3e96dc/32.png) [@Cryptic\_C62](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cryptic_C62)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/5 "2011-11-17T02:25:18Z")
22-year-old male, lost my v-card when I was 18. That was the only person I’ve had sex with. The total is 3 if you count oral sex. A few years ago I probably would have been embarrassed to reveal such low numbers, but I have since come to terms with the fact that not drinking, partying, or making any effort to socialize with classmates will generally result in no action. Oh well. ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/6 "2011-11-17T02:39:09Z")
51 year old male, married 26 years. Lost my virginity at 15, very active in high school, college, and post college. A couple (literally a couple) indiscretions I’m not proud of since being married. A couple years ago I made an honest effort at coming to a number, but really a lot of hs and college includes faces w/o names. Conservatively I got to about 125. it is what it is. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/7 "2011-11-17T02:43:01Z")
> [@Cryptic\_C62](#): > > A few years ago I probably would have been embarrassed to reveal such low numbers,… Compared to some around here, you qualify as a player. ---
**Author:** ![Drain\_Bead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47774/32.png) [@Drain\_Bead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drain_Bead)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/8 "2011-11-17T02:44:40Z")
Female, 33, married for 7 years. 9 total partners, starting at age 15. ---
**Author:** ![sitchensis](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sitchensis/32/4892_2.png) [@sitchensis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sitchensis)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 2:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/9 "2011-11-17T02:55:17Z")
Male 30 started at 15, 14 partners. Discounting high school,pretty much all longer term friends with benefits arrangements. ---
**Author:** ![flatlined](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/eb9ed0/32.png) [@flatlined](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flatlined)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/10 "2011-11-17T02:59:03Z")
Confesses to being a slut. Currently I have one partner and I only see him every couple of months. I used to fuck for food. Well…that’s not quite right, I used to fuck so I could feel held, but they had to feed me first. Over 250, maybe less than 350. After a while, all the one night stands just started to blend into each other. I remember the food more than I remember the men. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/11 "2011-11-17T03:05:25Z")
As reported before, lost my virginity at age 17 to a Hispanic hooker in West Texas who bore a striking resemblance to Claude Akins. First came to Thailand in my 20s. Was a typical red-blooded American male. I would need to run out and buy a larger calculator than I have here at home to figure this one out. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 3:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/12 "2011-11-17T03:09:46Z")
Male, 44, lost virginity at 18 and in three monogamous relationships for 19 years since. In the non-monogamous years I notched up another 20+ which by the standards of others in this thread isn’t huge but given that I’m notoriously bad at reading signals, is OK for me. (In retrospect I could probably have added another 20+ to that figure if I hadn’t been so blind. :smack:) ---
**Author:** ![Beware\_of\_Doug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/278dde/32.png) [@Beware\_of\_Doug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beware_of_Doug)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/13 "2011-11-17T03:23:00Z")
If sexual partners at age 30 = 0, sexual partners for rest of life should not exceed 1. If sexual partners at age \>30 = 0, sexual partners for rest of life should not exceed 0. ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 3:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/14 "2011-11-17T03:52:01Z")
Male, 62, lost my virginity at 16. When I was single, I was, shall we say, aggressively single. When I’ve been married or in a long-term relationship, I stayed faithful. I’d estimate around 30 or so. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/15 "2011-11-17T04:34:33Z")
47 Male Active for 30 years Wives 2 Lovers 1 ONS 2 Total 5 ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 4:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/16 "2011-11-17T04:37:07Z")
Moved MPSIMS --\> IMHO. **twicks** , who’s not going to answer the question even though **Dio** is no longer around to jump all over her shit ---
**Author:** ![Aji\_de\_Gallina](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aji_de_gallina/32/260_2.png) [@Aji\_de\_Gallina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aji_de_Gallina)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/17 "2011-11-17T04:40:12Z")
male 41, married 13. 1 sexual partner. Hell, I’ve only kissed 1 other women aside from my now-wife. Never looked back. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/18 "2011-11-17T05:27:19Z")
1. I think it was ten last time I counted. Or was it a dozen? Anyway, a reasonable amount, but nothing to brag about. I’d guess I’m probably around the median for my age (which, at this point, should be my final lifetime numbers.) ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 5:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/19 "2011-11-17T05:29:47Z")
Considering how easy it is for someone to find the posts we make here now, and that what I say could come back to bite me should I run for President some day, let’s just say that when I’m old and rocking in my chair on the porch, and I’m looking out into nowhere and smiling, it’s not Alzheimer’s- I’m remembering. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![AuntiePam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f19dbf/32.png) [@AuntiePam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AuntiePam)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/20 "2011-11-17T05:30:22Z")
Female, 66, gave it up at age 19 to my first husband and was faithful until he died (for 27 years). Since then (the last 20 years), two very brief flings (it was like OMG! I can have sex if I want to!) and then my current husband (married 15 years this month). So four, in about 50 years. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193.md?page=2)