# Number of sexual partners **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 17, 2011, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193 "2011-11-17T01:12:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 6:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/21 "2011-11-17T06:21:53Z")
Male, 46, none. That oughta bring the average down a bit. ---
**Author:** ![Naxos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/50afbb/32.png) [@Naxos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Naxos)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 6:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/22 "2011-11-17T06:23:55Z")
> [@codgerone](#): > > I’m not trying to brag,[…] Yes, you are. It’s like when people say “it’s not the money” and we all know “it’s the money”. ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 9:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/23 "2011-11-17T09:38:56Z")
[Wiki says:](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Promiscuity) > [@](#): > > A 1994 study in the United States, which looked at the number of sexual partners in a lifetime, found that 20% of heterosexual men had 1, 55% had 2–20, and 25% had 20 or more. ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 9:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/24 "2011-11-17T09:45:35Z")
Sooo… when’s the next DopeFest? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![voguevixen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b5ac83/32.png) [@voguevixen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voguevixen)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 10:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/25 "2011-11-17T10:00:09Z")
> [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](#): > > I don’t quite understand your attitude here, **Naxos**. I hate to do a “Me too”, but “Me too”. ---
**Author:** ![mac\_bolan00](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b3f665/32.png) [@mac\_bolan00](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mac_bolan00)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 10:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/26 "2011-11-17T10:09:33Z")
48, male, married for 12 years. 10 partners before that beginning at age 21. was kinda dorkish throughout high school and college. for my pre-maritals, the shortest was 10 days. longest was 4 years. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 11:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/27 "2011-11-17T11:05:58Z")
> [@voguevixen](#): > > I hate to do a “Me too”, but “Me too”. I hate to do that as well so I’ll just say moi aussi. ---
**Author:** ![yojimbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yojimbo/32/232_2.png) [@yojimbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yojimbo)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 11:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/28 "2011-11-17T11:20:17Z")
> [@Naxos](#): > > But you know your post has to appear somewhat realistic in order to get responses, hopefully, and indirectly acknowledging the wealth of your sexual experiences. > > If you didn’t want to brag, you wouldn’t care how the number of your sexual partners compares to others. > > What does the number of sexual partners have to do with anything? It doesn’t indicate character or personality traits. It’s just there. Unimportant. > > Unless someone wants to make a big issue out of it. This thread and OP fit perfectly for this forum. The OP is asking a question that he may not have wanted to bring up with his IRL friends and is wondering what is the average number of other members if they want to share. I don’t see this as a “I’ve got a huge dick, do you?” kinda thread we see every so often. To answer the OP. 11 is my number IIRC. 40 years old but had a nigh on 10 year dry patch which has happily come to a end within the last year as I finally found someone who’d put up with me 😃 ---
**Author:** ![RealityChuck](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/realitychuck/32/195_2.png) [@RealityChuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RealityChuck)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/29 "2011-11-17T13:43:41Z")
59yo male. Two marriages (the current one is coming up on 30 years), one long-term relationship (for just over a year), and two short-term ones that broke up soon after. ---
**Author:** ![Bambro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/df705f/32.png) [@Bambro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bambro)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 1:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/30 "2011-11-17T13:57:33Z")
37 y/o male lost it at 15 was married for 7 years and was totally faithful (at least **I** was) from 18 to 25 grand total last mental count…30 partners ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 2:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/31 "2011-11-17T14:02:19Z")
I’m 36. Probably 50 or so. Couldn’t really know for sure. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 2:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/32 "2011-11-17T14:03:29Z")
35 YO female I lost my virginity at age 19 and 11 months - I was waiting for age 20. Anyway, counting him, there were 6, I believe, including my current SO. Including two long term relationships, one one-night stand, and one hedonistic, beautiful summer romance, among others not so noteworthy or not worth talking about. ---
**Author:** ![Acid\_Lamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Acid\_Lamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acid_Lamp)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/33 "2011-11-17T14:26:52Z")
Male Age 31 Married 2 years Active for 13 years Well over 20 partners. ---
**Author:** ![shiftless](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@shiftless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/shiftless)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/34 "2011-11-17T14:36:08Z")
Male, 55. Maybe 25-30 sexual partners by the time I met my wife, depending on how you define sexual partner. (see my post in the “did I waste my college eduation” thread.) Been married for almost 25 years and my count hasn’t gone up at all, so the trend seems to be pretty flat. ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 2:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/35 "2011-11-17T14:41:07Z")
One. ---
**Author:** ![Capitaine\_Zombie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e95f7d/32.png) [@Capitaine\_Zombie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Capitaine_Zombie)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/36 "2011-11-17T14:45:30Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > As near as I can tell, I don’t interest the opposite sex. > > That “as near as I can tell” could be significant; either I’m uniquely unappealing or monumentally clueless. Ever heard of prostitution? ---
**Author:** ![Snickers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@Snickers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snickers)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/37 "2011-11-17T15:04:41Z")
One as well for me. I married my high school sweetheart. I did have a boyfriend before him, and we fooled around a lot, but no PIV sex, if that’s what we’re counting for the “losing your virginity” metric. Maybe that means I’ve missed out; I dunno. Sometimes I wish I had more experiences with different partners, but I’d never trade what I have with Mr. Snicks for anything. ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/38 "2011-11-17T15:57:19Z")
American male, age 47. I was a late bloomer and lost my virginity as a college junior. I was pretty damn impatient to lose my V-card by then, and was ecstatic when it finally happened. I’ve been married for just over 21 years and have been faithful to my wife the whole time. Before that, I had three partners of varying degrees of intimacy (two of whom were named Amy, oddly enough). ---
**Author:** ![amanset](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8dc957/32.png) [@amanset](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amanset)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/39 "2011-11-17T16:03:37Z")
Aged 37. Three. Two were partners (one was a 9.5 year relationship, the other was my rebound after that). Third is a friends with benefits thing that I recently broke off as I feared that she had stronger feelings for me than I really wanted to deal with. I hope I don’t live to regret that. So, few, but your first real relationship being very long tends to do that to you. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2011, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/40 "2011-11-17T16:18:25Z")
Male, age 36, somewhere in the range of 250 but I stopped counting at around 140. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193.md?page=3)