# Number of sexual partners **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 17, 2011, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193 "2011-11-17T01:12:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![cmkeller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmkeller/32/118_2.png) [@cmkeller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmkeller)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/81 "2011-11-18T02:42:31Z")
Living Well is Best Revenge: > [@](#): > > When you see people who have fucked like 200 people do you get slightly jealous at all? No, I’m a big believer in quality over quantity. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![JessMagic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c0e974/32.png) [@JessMagic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JessMagic)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/82 "2011-11-18T03:55:19Z")
Male, 31 y.o. I’ve intercoursed 50 women, give or take two at the most. Some girlfriends, some fuck buddies, a few one night stands. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/83 "2011-11-18T03:59:47Z")
> [@Antinor01](#): > > Male, age 36, somewhere in the range of 250 but I stopped counting at around 140. > [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#): > > Think we have a winner… No way. I have that topped. Married and settled now, but when I first got here, four partners in one day was not that unusual – say a threesome and two single sessions. Granted that was not every single day, but it adds up over time. Ah, memories. ---
**Author:** ![Swords\_to\_Plowshares](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b38774/32.png) [@Swords\_to\_Plowshares](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swords_to_Plowshares)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/84 "2011-11-18T04:09:07Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > No way. I have that topped. Married and settled now, but when I first got here, four partners in one day was not that unusual – say a threesome and two single sessions. Granted that was not every single day, but it adds up over time. > > Ah, memories. There’s a Bangkok joke somewhere in here, I know it… ---
**Author:** ![FlyByNight512](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/82dd89/32.png) [@FlyByNight512](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FlyByNight512)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 4:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/85 "2011-11-18T04:54:27Z")
> [@cmkeller](#): > > Male, 40, 1 sexual partner, my wife, lost virginity at 24, wedding night. Yes, I’m one of those religious types. Ah, glad to see I’m not the only one here. I waited until I got married at 23 and have never regretted it. > [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#): > > When you see people who have fucked like 200 people do you get slightly jealous at all? cmkeller already answered this, but FWIW I’m not jealous either. I look at that and think it’s sad that they’re missing the point. The orgasm’s nice enough, but the intimacy that comes from sex in a committed relationship is a hundred times better, at least as far as I’m concerned. I do occasionally wonder what sex with someone other than my husband might be like, but I have no real desire to try it. Having FAR too much fun here, thanks. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/86 "2011-11-18T05:30:26Z")
“Sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go, it’s one of the best.” – Woody Allen ---
**Author:** ![squeegee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/squeegee/32/14537_2.png) [@squeegee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/squeegee)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 5:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/87 "2011-11-18T05:54:45Z")
Male, 49. Lost virginity at 14 9 partners. I can’t even imagine, nor envy, being with dozens of partners. There’s a few I wistfully regret not being with, girls I was close to/attracted to but weren’t available for various reasons, or I wasn’t. I could probably stack 4-6 (maaybe 8) on my list if that weren’t the case. But dozens? To each their own I guess. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 5:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/88 "2011-11-18T05:57:17Z")
Male, 36. Lost virginity at 28. Ten partners in the last eight years, though. ---
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 6:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/89 "2011-11-18T06:18:35Z")
> [@Capitaine\_Zombie](#): > > Aw, come oooon. WHO? Jody Maxwell. Not a particularly well-known name from the “Golden Age”, but she did have starring roles and was in several well-regarded films of the period, including a few by Damino. She was a family friend, believe it or not, the daughter of my dad’s boss, the Procecuting Attorny of Jackson County, Missouri. Her special talent was her ability to sing while performing fellatio. She was billed as “The Singing Cocksucker from Missouri”. (If I were making this up, don’t you think I would make up something less bizarre?) ---
**Author:** ![Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7cd45c/32.png) [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elendil_s_Heir)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 6:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/90 "2011-11-18T06:18:53Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > “Sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go, it’s one of the best.” – Woody Allen “I believe you should really get to know someone and maybe even fall in love, before you use and degrade them.” - Steve Martin ---
**Author:** ![6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e19adc/32.png) [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 6:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/91 "2011-11-18T06:23:49Z")
> [@FlyByNight512](#): > > Ah, glad to see I’m not the only one here. I waited until I got married at 23 and have never regretted it. > cmkeller already answered this, but FWIW I’m not jealous either. I look at that and think it’s sad that they’re missing the point. The orgasm’s nice enough, but the intimacy that comes from sex in a committed relationship is a hundred times better, at least as far as I’m concerned. A nice enough sentiment, **FlyByNight** , but as you have only had one sexual partner, how is it that you can compare levels of intimacy? And “the point” you mention that is being missed by those who have had hundreds of partners - what is it? I’m intrigued. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 6:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/92 "2011-11-18T06:31:41Z")
> [@Elendil\_s\_Heir](#): > > “I believe you should really get to know someone and maybe even fall in love, before you use and degrade them.” - Steve Martin Ah, I fell in love so many times, sometimes every day. Best was when they degraded me. 😃 _sniff_ I’m just an old softie walking down Memory Lane. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 8:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/93 "2011-11-18T08:00:12Z")
> [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#): > > Think we have a winner… Not even close. Gay man, 66. Somewhere between 2,000 and 3,000, before November 1987. But for the last 24 years, only one (I had to kiss a whole lot of frogs before finding my prince.) ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 9:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/94 "2011-11-18T09:32:37Z")
Ok, I see that some people are not counting oral sex. If that’s eliminated, I’m back into single digits. ---
**Author:** ![6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e19adc/32.png) [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 9:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/95 "2011-11-18T09:44:59Z")
Why not count oral? It’s still a sexual activity with another person. Or sports team. ---
**Author:** ![gatorslap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bb73d2/32.png) [@gatorslap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gatorslap)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 9:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/96 "2011-11-18T09:59:00Z")
Male, 25. Somewhere in the range of 60-70, accumulated very erratically. I go through “slutty periods” and dry spells, with the occasional monogamous relationship. ---
**Author:** ![Bibliothecarius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b2d939/32.png) [@Bibliothecarius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bibliothecarius)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 11:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/97 "2011-11-18T11:26:49Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Not even close. > > Gay man, 66. Somewhere between 2,000 and 3,000, before November 1987. But for the last 24 years, only one (I had to kiss a whole lot of frogs before finding my prince.) Yep, the more experienced, shall we say ;), gay guys (and, well, prostitutes, of course) can top anyone any day. A gay friend of mine (53) told me once he’d had 21 girls by the time he was 18 and since enthusiastically switching to men has had well over 1000 in the last 30 odd years. I would guess multiple thousands as I shared a house with him for a couple of years and considered just installing a revolving door on his bedroom. Not to mention his frequent trips to gay saunas where he’d fuck 20 or more people in just one week. But he doesn’t even consider that a lot - another gay friend of his once got fucked by 200 men in one weekend! :eek: As for me, 28 years old. Lost my virginity at 15 but only really active on a semi-regular basis since 20, when I got to number two. Currently on a fucking spree and up to 27 (was at 20 a few months ago). ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/98 "2011-11-18T14:57:26Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Ok, I see that some people are not counting oral sex. If that’s eliminated, I’m back into single digits. Not I! ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/99 "2011-11-18T15:31:38Z")
> [@Bibliothecarius](#): > > another gay friend of his once got fucked by 200 men in one weekend! :eek: :eek::eek::eek::eek: ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2011, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193/100 "2011-11-18T15:43:20Z")
> [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](#): > > :eek::eek::eek::eek: Yeah, I’m wondering how that’s even possible. Was he hospitalized for friction burns on Monday? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/number-of-sexual-partners/603193.md?page=6)