# Nuptuals off when friends decline to pay for $60,000 wedding **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 28, 2018, 2:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391 "2018-08-28T02:15:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Mumberthax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ea5d25/32.png) [@Mumberthax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mumberthax)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2018, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/41 "2018-08-28T16:19:24Z")
Nice story. Too bad it’s faker than those PornHub notifications telling me that local wives are lusting for me. ---
**Author:** ![teela\_brown](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/d9b06d/32.png) [@teela\_brown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/teela_brown)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2018, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/42 "2018-08-28T16:22:19Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > It’s not that it’s over-the-top. It’s just that it pushes every single button just exactly so to maximize the piss-off factor. It is too neatly and thoughtfully written, IMHO, to be real. Sure, I know plenty of self-centered nutbags, too. But this doesn’t ring true because it’s just too perfect. Russian trollbots trying to excite discussion and outrage. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2018, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/43 "2018-08-28T16:34:54Z")
There is every possibility that it’s not fake though. These women-children do exist. You know, this whole nutjob nightmare centers around one assumption: The psychic is the authority and can not be questioned. At no point in the whole rant does she stop to think “Maybe basing impossible decisions on the words of a charlatan was a bad idea.” So now she’s (allegedly) left with signed contracts, and paid deposits in the amount of $5k, and rather than get real six weeks out and sit down with her providers to negotiate what could be done for the funds available, she decides to wait until four days before the wedding to alienate everyone she’s ever met. Why? because the psychic said the money would appear. I also note that early on she said she was dissociating. This lady has deeper problems, and i hope her ex-fiancee is able to secure custody of their child while she is off backpacking. And that too. Does anybody believe that this woman will spend even one night in a tent? I cant picture it. She a glamping girl if ever there was one. And she’s the type to complain that the solar panel on her yurt isn’t supplying enough electricity to run her hair dryer. She’s just hiding at some resort out of town, spending their hard-earned savings and feeling sorry for herself. ---
**Author:** ![Eonwe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eonwe/32/240_2.png) [@Eonwe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eonwe)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2018, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/44 "2018-08-28T16:41:40Z")
Of course it’s fake. Everyone here should know better, and anyone who fancies themselves a reporter of even the most basic type shouldn’t have written this story, and any organization that fancies itself a news outlet shouldn’t have published it. As has been said, it’s not that the concept is unbelievable, it’s that the story as told by “Susan” is obviously made up. > [@](#): > > we wanted an extravagant blow out wedding, one where our son could be included > [@](#): > > A local psychic told us to go with the more expensive option, and we thought why the hell not? > [@](#): > > How could we have OUR wedding that WE dreamed of without proper funding? We’d sacrificed so much and only asked each guest for around $1,500. > [@](#): > > So we sent out RSVP’s and only 8 people replied and sent us the check. We were f—ing livid. > [@](#): > > I mean seriously people, what is $1,000? What is $1500? Clearly, not a lot > [@](#): > > He wanted those cheap, raggedy, filthy, whore like Vegas weddings,” she wrote. “Am I some Hooch piece of f—ing trash, a hooker? > [@](#): > > I called her a filthy f—ing poor excuse of a friend, and hung up. > [@](#): > > Just f—ing give me money for my wedding. I won’t even sugarcoat. I won’t even pretend that’s not what I wanted. I mean, come on. Every one of those sentences reads like the Platonic ideal of something a “bridezilla” would say. It’s a reality TV script written by someone whose literary background includes nothing but reality TV. ---
**Author:** ![DCnDC](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dcndc/32/2842_2.png) [@DCnDC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DCnDC)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2018, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/45 "2018-08-28T16:45:03Z")
> [@TruCelt](#): > > And that too. Does anybody believe that this woman will spend even one night in a tent? I cant picture it. She a glamping girl if ever there was one. And she’s the type to complain that the solar panel on her yurt isn’t supplying enough electricity to run her hair dryer. > > She’s just hiding at some resort out of town, spending their hard-earned savings and feeling sorry for herself. Well that’s one of the things that doesn’t match up. The one linked in the OP and other articles I’ve read about this indicate she is not from a rich family; she grew up on a family farm and attended community college, and she’s Canadian. That’s a scant amount of information, granted, but that’s generally not the description of the upbringing of a person who grows up to be _that_ person. ---
**Author:** ![Ashtura](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ashtura/32/2963_2.png) [@Ashtura](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ashtura)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2018, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/46 "2018-08-28T17:02:11Z")
She clearly has severe mental issues and extreme level of entitlement. And yes, it is so OTT, it’s hard to believe it’s not fake. ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2018, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/47 "2018-08-28T17:04:30Z")
> [@nearwildheaven](#): > > p.s. Why would ANYONE want to live like a Kardashian for one SECOND, let alone one day?!??!!?! Because they are young, rich, hot-looking celebrities and can pretty much do whatever they want? I’d do that for a day. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2018, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/48 "2018-08-28T21:42:57Z")
It’s _nuptials_. Until I was 59 years old (that is, until last year) I thought it was “nuptuals” too. Imagine my chagrin. :o ---
**Author:** ![begbert2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/begbert2/32/3357_2.png) [@begbert2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/begbert2)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2018, 10:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/49 "2018-08-28T22:02:31Z")
I join the hordes in not believing this. There’s way too much stupidity going on here, entirely outside of how outrageous the bride was allegedly being. At the mention of the psychic I rolled my eyes. At the claim that _eight people paid her the money_ I stopped reading. There is absolutely no chance in hell _that_ happened. ---
**Author:** ![nearwildheaven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@nearwildheaven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nearwildheaven)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2018, 10:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/50 "2018-08-28T22:25:09Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > And of course it is now _de rigeur_ for Aussie brides to want to get married in Bali, Phuket, or similar exotic locations, because Caroline Springs and Narre Warren just don’t cut it. 😃 > > AND they expect their guests to pay their own airfares/accommodation and living expenses whilst attending the gauche nuptials overseas. > > Gimme a break. You want me to come to your wedding? YOU PAY. Simples. 🙂 Oh, heck, AMERICAN brides are doing things like this, because Jamaica, Florida, etc. aren’t exotic enough either. What’s next - weddings on the moon? (Calling Elon Musk…nah.) ---
**Author:** ![Hari\_Seldon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hari_seldon/32/5173_2.png) [@Hari\_Seldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hari_Seldon)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2018, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/51 "2018-08-28T23:04:33Z")
Reminds me of the second verse to Daisy, Daisy: Harold, Harold, here is my answer true. I’m not crazy just for the love of you. There won’t be any marriage If you can’t afford a carriage. For I’ll be damned If I’ll be jammed On a bicycle built for two. ---
**Author:** ![Kimera757](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kimera757/32/3765_2.png) [@Kimera757](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimera757)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2018, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/52 "2018-08-28T23:07:19Z")
I read the version on a British website. They said she’s Canadian, and in the screenshots her cousin said she has never left the US. … What? Link: [Canadian Susan cancels her extravagant $60,000 wedding after guests refused to fork out $1,500 | Daily Mail Online](http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6101095/Canadian-Susan-cancels-extravagant-60-000-wedding-guests-refused-fork-1-500.html) ---
**Author:** ![blob](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blob/32/489_2.png) [@blob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/blob)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2018, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/53 "2018-08-28T23:24:38Z")
> [@Kimera757](#): > > I read the version on a British website. They said she’s Canadian, and in the screenshots her cousin said she has never left the US. My cousin was in a bank hold-up and they put her on the nightly news on TV. The report had the wrong suburb where it had happened (and it had happened that same day). A news site or a website messing up information doesn’t mean much. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2018, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/54 "2018-08-28T23:33:30Z")
> [@blob](#): > > My cousin was in a bank hold-up and they put her on the nightly news on TV. The report had the wrong suburb where it had happened (and it had happened that same day). A news site or a website messing up information doesn’t mean much. Especially when it’s the Daily Mail… I mean, that set off alarm bells. From what I can tell, it seems to first have surfaced on Reddit, and the Reddit thread is based on something from a closed (I think) Facebook group that shames Bridezillas, or something like that. ---
**Author:** ![guizot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guizot/32/3636_2.png) [@guizot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/guizot)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2018, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/55 "2018-08-29T00:06:05Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > . . .every single line in that Facebook post is crafted to provoke. Yes, exactly. That was my immediate reaction, too. > [@Gatopescado](#): > > For those thinking it’s fake- If I had a phone recording of the crazy tirades loosed by my sister, you would figuratively drop over dead. That’s the whole point. This writing is obviously too calculated to be a crazy tirade. > [@Eonwe](#): > > Of course it’s fake. Everyone here should know better, and anyone who fancies themselves a reporter of even the most basic type shouldn’t have written this story, and any organization that fancies itself a news outlet shouldn’t have published it. Agreed. > [@Eonwe](#): > > As has been said, it’s not that the concept is unbelievable, it’s that the story as told by “Susan” is obviously made up. Right. Everyone here is _focusing on the narrative_ but seems completely blind to _the obviously contrived language_. That said, there is one problem in the narrative: Someone who wanted to have a Kardashian wedding in Aruba is not going to be the same kind of person who is going to go “backpacking in South America.” ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2018, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/56 "2018-08-29T00:16:36Z")
One of the very convenient things in the letter was that she was going to immediately take down her facebook page, making it harder to verify the story. Does said person even exist? ---
**Author:** ![blob](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blob/32/489_2.png) [@blob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/blob)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2018, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/57 "2018-08-29T00:19:23Z")
> [@guizot](#): > > That said, there is one problem in the narrative: Someone who wanted to have a Kardashian wedding in Aruba is not going to be the same kind of person who is going to go “backpacking in South America.” Why not? Why does somebody have to conform to some fixed set of behaviours? I’ve been camping AND I’ve stayed in nice hotels. I’ve eaten at restaurants AND at Macca’s. So what? ---
**Author:** ![guizot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guizot/32/3636_2.png) [@guizot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/guizot)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2018, 12:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/58 "2018-08-29T00:36:44Z")
> [@blob](#): > > Why not? Why does somebody have to conform to some fixed set of behaviours? I’ve been camping AND I’ve stayed in nice hotels. I’ve eaten at restaurants AND at Macca’s. So what? We’re not talking about staying in nice hotels or camping, here. Besides, “backpacking in South America” is clearly a ham-handed cliche, as **pulykamell** mentioned above. ---
**Author:** ![blob](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blob/32/489_2.png) [@blob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/blob)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2018, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/59 "2018-08-29T00:44:12Z")
> [@guizot](#): > > We’re not talking about staying in nice hotels or camping, here. Besides, “backpacking in South America” is clearly a ham-handed cliche, as **pulykamell** mentioned above. Speaking in cliches doesn’t mean that you are reading something manufactured. Idiots often trot out cliches. Certainty as to the falsity of this nonsense is as absurd as taking it all at face value as true. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2018, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391/60 "2018-08-29T00:44:16Z")
You won’t find a lot of Kardashian fans on the backpacker trail through SAmerica is my bet. Since when do Kardashian’s and their ilk vacation in Aruba anyway? It’s pretty transparent I’d have to say. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/nuptuals-off-when-friends-decline-to-pay-for-60-000-wedding/820391.md?page=4)