# Oakminster, this is for you **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [June 15, 2006, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757 "2006-06-15T02:16:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/21 "2006-06-15T03:20:09Z")
[QUOTE=Anaamika] But he’s not making anyone else “suffer” for him! [/quote] Suffer is a strong word, but “I won’t buy your tampons” is an inconvenience, I would think, and the reason he’s given is “I don’t do that.” 😕 > [@](#): > > Are they just lazy or they actually say “I won’t.” They never explain. It just doesn’t happen, no matter how many times I point it out and get in their faces about it. So at this point I think there’s something psychological happening. ---
**Author:** ![enipla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/54ee81/32.png) [@enipla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/enipla)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/22 "2006-06-15T03:32:45Z")
Ah. Perhaps I was wrong. I felt that Oak was saying that He would not do little things for his Wife because ‘it is not manly to buy tampons’ I’m in the middle of trying to be ground support for my Wife as she trains for an Iron Man. My Mom and Dad are 100 miles away, and I have spent the last 5 weekends away from many of the things I need to do for my own household taking care of them. They are getting older. I’m absolutely busting my butt taking care of the people I love, and I don’t have any time to do the things I need to do to take care of my own life. I got aggravated because Oak did not want to do something as simple as buying tampons because it is not a manly thing to do. Since Oak is not PC like me, he won’t buy tampons. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 3:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/23 "2006-06-15T03:44:03Z")
[QUOTE=enipla] Ah. Perhaps I was wrong. [/quote] You were. > [@](#): > > I felt that Oak was saying that He would not do little things for his Wife because ‘it is not manly to buy tampons’ I didn’t. > [@](#): > > I’m in the middle of trying to be ground support for my Wife as she trains for an Iron Man. > > My Mom and Dad are 100 miles away, and I have spent the last 5 weekends away from many of the things I need to do for my own household taking care of them. They are getting older. > > I’m absolutely busting my butt taking care of the people I love, and I don’t have any time to do the things I need to do to take care of my own life. Don’t care. > [@](#): > > I got aggravated because Oak did not want to do something as simple as buying tampons because it is not a manly thing to do. Still wrong. > [@](#): > > Since Oak is not PC like me, he won’t buy tampons. :rolleyes: First time you’ve been right tonight. Thanks for playing. ---
**Author:** ![askeptic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/eb9ed0/32.png) [@askeptic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/askeptic)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 3:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/24 "2006-06-15T03:44:20Z")
[QUOTE=Oakminster] … I also don’t each quiche. [/QUOTE] Whats “quiche”? 😃 Everybody knows “real” men don’t even know what quiche is… ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/25 "2006-06-15T03:46:11Z")
[QUOTE=Oakminster] Well damn. Now I gotta work babyface. I was so in a mood for a shocking heel turn, but the fans won’t allow it. Such is the price of glory. 😃 [/QUOTE] I’m getting the unmistakeable impression that you watch tons of pro wrestling, and it’s giving me the creeps. Anyway, can you explain what your reason IS? I don’t get it. ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/26 "2006-06-15T03:54:27Z")
[QUOTE=Marley23] I’m getting the unmistakeable impression that you watch tons of pro wrestling, and it’s giving me the creeps. Anyway, can you explain what your reason IS? I don’t get it. [/QUOTE] Actually, I don’t anymore. The modern product blows goats. Still am a fan of the older stuff, say up until about 1985 or so. Think of it as very physical theatre of the absurd. With extra violence. Memories of a misspent youth. It’s the kind of thing that if you like it, no explanation is necessary. If you don’t like it, no explanation will suffice. ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/27 "2006-06-15T03:56:38Z")
I’m sorry, I changed topics without making it clear. What’s your reason for not wanting to buy tampons? I get that it’s not an “it’s unmanly” thing, but I don’t know what the issue is. ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 4:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/28 "2006-06-15T04:08:00Z")
The issue is just that simple…I don’t want to buy tampons. Someone close to me is going to know this, and would generally be expected to accept my quirks as part of the package. She gets the same consideration, if there’s some task she finds particularly objectionable. ---
**Author:** ![FinnAgain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/finnagain/32/12500_2.png) [@FinnAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FinnAgain)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/29 "2006-06-15T04:12:59Z")
You know what I think is much more worthy of a Pit? Telling someone that they’re are/aren’t a “real” man/woman. Where the heck do you get off? Yeesh. ---
**Author:** ![Cluricaun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/bb73d2/32.png) [@Cluricaun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cluricaun)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/30 "2006-06-15T04:18:45Z")
**Oakminster** , if you decide after your trial period that you intend to stick around, I’ll gladly sponsor a year of your membership. My email is in my profile if you’re interested. ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 4:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/31 "2006-06-15T04:28:44Z")
[QUOTE=Cluricaun] **Oakminster** , if you decide after your trial period that you intend to stick around, I’ll gladly sponsor a year of your membership. My email is in my profile if you’re interested. [/QUOTE] You’re very kind, but that’s not necessary. One of the perks of being a cranky old bastard is excess disposable income. I’d rather see ya pick up the tab for someone that needs it. Will trade rounds of a beverage of your choice if we ever happen to meet at one of those dopefest deals I see mentioned from time to time. ---
**Author:** ![Catfood\_Purrito](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Catfood\_Purrito](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Catfood_Purrito)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/32 "2006-06-15T04:50:33Z")
So, you won’t buy tampons for your wife/girlfriend/whatever, even if you’re going to the store anyway? I won’t say that makes you not a real man, because really, all you need for that is a penis, but I will say that it makes you kind of a shitty human being. Not like serial killer shitty, more like the takes up two parking spaces kind of shitty. Seriously, it’s really inconsiderate, and I personally would be way too annoyed to date someone like that. Thank God I married a man who’s secure enough in his masculinity to not be bothered by purchasing bits of cotton with strings attached. ---
**Author:** ![flight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/bbce88/32.png) [@flight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flight)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 4:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/33 "2006-06-15T04:52:13Z")
[QUOTE=Oakminster] The issue is just that simple…I don’t want to buy tampons. Someone close to me is going to know this, and would generally be expected to accept my quirks as part of the package. She gets the same consideration, if there’s some task she finds particularly objectionable. [/QUOTE] OK, you don’t want to… but why? What is the reason that you have a specific desire not to buy them? You could always say the you just don’t want to and don’t need a reason, but I warn you that if you do so you will be on non-PC guy probation and in terminal danger of girly-manitude. (Sorry about that, I just hear that excuse a _lot_ from the GF.) ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/34 "2006-06-15T05:01:58Z")
If you’re gonna push the point, it boils down to an “invading my space” deal. If she knows I don’t wanna do it, and she cares about me, she won’t ask unless it’s a dire emergency. If she insists on regular delivery service, she doesn’t care about me. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/35 "2006-06-15T05:11:23Z")
[QUOTE=Cluricaun] **Oakminster** , if you decide after your trial period… [/QUOTE] **Oakminster** ’s having a trial period? Geez, I can see how it might help the attitude, but isn’t that a little extreme? ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 5:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/36 "2006-06-15T05:34:25Z")
[QUOTE=Larry Mudd] **Oakminster** ’s having a trial period? Geez, I can see how it might help the attitude, but isn’t that a little extreme? [/QUOTE] Well done. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![SnakesCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4af34b/32.png) [@SnakesCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SnakesCatLady)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 9:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/37 "2006-06-15T09:33:00Z")
[QUOTE=Larry Mudd] **Oakminster** ’s having a trial period? Geez, I can see how it might help the attitude, but isn’t that a little extreme? [/QUOTE] The cats are starting to get worried every time they see me get on the Dope, 'cause they know at some point I’m going to spew liquids out of my nose and start laughing. They are right. 🙂 My husband does not buy feminine products for me. I do not buy jock itch products for him. Now that he wouldn’t or I wouldn’t if the other asked, but the deal is _we don’t ask._ ---
**Author:** ![Siege](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@Siege](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siege)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 9:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/38 "2006-06-15T09:49:44Z")
You know, I’ve been menstruating for around 30 years and been in a couple of serious relationships during those years. I’ve even spent most of a summer on crutches. _Never_ in those years have I needed to have someone buy me tampons or other menstrual supplies, nor would I consider doing so. It seems to me that part of being a grown woman is being aware that some things happen regularly and being prepared for them. (I also replace toilet paper and tea well before the run out.) I have one good friend who I’m pretty sure would buy supplies for me if I needed to; I don’t know about the gentlemen I’ve loved because I’ve never needed to find out. I don’t find **Oakminster** ’s position unreasonable, especially since his wife is aware of it and, I assume, has enough sense to take care of such things for herself. By the way, **Oakminster** , **Cluricaun** beat me to the offer, but I’m glad you’re planning on sticking around. ---
**Author:** ![Idlewild](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8491ac/32.png) [@Idlewild](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idlewild)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 10:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/39 "2006-06-15T10:36:30Z")
[QUOTE=Siege] You know, I’ve been menstruating for around 30 years and been in a couple of serious relationships during those years. I’ve even spent most of a summer on crutches. _Never_ in those years have I needed to have someone buy me tampons or other menstrual supplies, nor would I consider doing so. It seems to me that part of being a grown woman is being aware that some things happen regularly and being prepared for them. (I also replace toilet paper and tea well before the run out.) I have one good friend who I’m pretty sure would buy supplies for me if I needed to; I don’t know about the gentlemen I’ve loved because I’ve never needed to find out. I don’t find **Oakminster** ’s position unreasonable, especially since his wife is aware of it and, I assume, has enough sense to take care of such things for herself. By the way, **Oakminster** , **Cluricaun** beat me to the offer, but I’m glad you’re planning on sticking around. [/QUOTE] Bully for you. I busted my ankle last month and damn _straight_ my husband picked up tampons for me. Running out of tampons is no worse than running out of any darn household good in this household. I don’t have some kind of bizarre feminine pride at stake in staying stocked up just so a bloke doesn’t have to soil his dainty fingertips at the grocery store. ---
**Author:** ![Siege](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@Siege](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siege)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2006, 10:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757/40 "2006-06-15T10:39:59Z")
I’ve also lived alone for most of my life. I run out of stuff, there isn’t anyone else to go buy it. It’s not feminine pride; it’s simple single person’s necessity. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/oakminster-this-is-for-you/360757.md?page=3)