# Obama supporters: Suppose you were long time best buddies with Michelle and.. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 27, 2013, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/obama-supporters-suppose-you-were-long-time-best-buddies-with-michelle-and/662054 "2013-06-27T20:04:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/obama-supporters-suppose-you-were-long-time-best-buddies-with-michelle-and/662054/21 "2013-06-28T18:21:27Z")
In all seriousness, I’d encourage her to discuss it with him privately. I realize he’s got the weight of the world on his shoulders and all that, but I also don’t think it’s her responsibility to try to be intimate and otherwise fake happiness at home if she really doesn’t want to. If he at least knows where he and the relationship stand, he can contribute to the discussion about whether they split before or after his term is up. And who knows? Maybe the open discussion will allow a path to something that saves the marriage altogether. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 6:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/obama-supporters-suppose-you-were-long-time-best-buddies-with-michelle-and/662054/22 "2013-06-28T18:30:54Z")
I would suggest that Michelle agree to have an open marriage. With Condi Rice. But only if I can watch. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![amarinth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3be4f8/32.png) [@amarinth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amarinth)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/obama-supporters-suppose-you-were-long-time-best-buddies-with-michelle-and/662054/23 "2013-06-28T18:35:09Z")
> [@even\_sven](#): > > If she still basically likes the guy and just isn’t feeling the romance, I can’t imagine she’d want him to have to deal with all the fallout. The White House is big, and it’s not unheard of for presidents and First Ladies to live basically parallel lives. I would advise her to stick it out. True. Eleanor managed to stick it out and she didn’t have a term limit in sight. Who knows, maybe if Michelle waits, he’ll come down with polio. ---
**Author:** ![ZipperJJ](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zipperjj/32/211_2.png) [@ZipperJJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ZipperJJ)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/obama-supporters-suppose-you-were-long-time-best-buddies-with-michelle-and/662054/24 "2013-06-28T18:39:37Z")
> [@even\_sven](#): > > If she still basically likes the guy and just isn’t feeling the romance, I can’t imagine she’d want him to have to deal with all the fallout. The White House is big, and it’s not unheard of for presidents and First Ladies to live basically parallel lives. I would advise her to stick it out. Yeah I can’t imagine that two professional people with busy schedules and two addresses (still have a house in Chicago right?) and a palatial main residence can’t manage to avoid each other and simultaneously be civil together in public for a few years. I guarantee that less classy, less powerful people do it all the time. ---
**Author:** ![Intergalactic\_Gladiator](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/intergalactic_gladiator/32/112_2.png) [@Intergalactic\_Gladiator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Intergalactic_Gladiator)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 6:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/obama-supporters-suppose-you-were-long-time-best-buddies-with-michelle-and/662054/25 "2013-06-28T18:46:15Z")
Oooh lemon bars! I voted for the top one and **SpolierVirgin** has crystalized my thoughts elegantly. Barrack hasn’t done anything wrong, per se, so no need to make this all noisy and messy. Keep it together for the next few years and then if it absolutely is irreconcilable differences, then move on with your lives after 2017. ---
**Author:** ![Skammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skammer/32/143_2.png) [@Skammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skammer)\ **Post date:** [June 28, 2013, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/obama-supporters-suppose-you-were-long-time-best-buddies-with-michelle-and/662054/26 "2013-06-28T19:10:55Z")
Except in cases of abuse or similar, I would never council _anyone_ to get a divorce. In my mind that is always the last, and most extreme option. If your spouse has done nothing wrong, you have to decide to love and be happy with them. So not only would I tell her not to divorce before 2017, I’d tell her to suck it up and try to love the perfectly good man she married. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2013, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/obama-supporters-suppose-you-were-long-time-best-buddies-with-michelle-and/662054/27 "2013-07-02T18:16:42Z")
> [@delphica](#): > > No kidding, my first thought was “the sooner she divorces him, the sooner he’s on the market!” > > I am a terrible person. Neither you nor WhyNot are on my list of terrible persons, I am afrad. If either of y’all wish to be added to the list, you will have to commit a felony from the approved list. Talk to Arrangements. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/obama-supporters-suppose-you-were-long-time-best-buddies-with-michelle-and/662054.md?page=1)